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"There has never been, and cannot be, a good life without self-control." - Leo Tolstoy

⚔️ The Soldier and the Builder 🛠 Imagine a soldier leaving his wife and family behind to go to war. His days are filled with action. Every decision has consequences. Every battle leaves a mark. Many return carrying wounds that cannot be seen, burdened by memories, guilt, and trauma. Meanwhile, the people who wanted the war are often far from the battlefield. They give the orders, but the soldiers carry the consequences. There is a lesson in that. Many men are fighting battles every day that do not build their future. They fight urges, distractions, drama, endless scrolling, and habits that leave them feeling empty. The question is: Are you fighting a battle that builds you, or a battle that drains you? A man who wakes up with purpose has little time to be controlled by his urges. Train your body. Build your skills. Work on your goals. Learn something useful. Rest. Wake up and repeat. Over time, your mind becomes sharper instead of foggy. Your body becomes stronger instead of weaker. What once felt difficult becomes enjoyable. And when the time comes to choose a partner, you will not be making decisions from loneliness or desperation. You will be able to see the difference between red flags and green flags because your discipline has given you clarity. One day you will look back and realize: 🔥 The urges were temporary. 🔥 The discipline was worth it. 🔥 The growth was worth it. 🔥 The journey was worth it. 🤔 Self-Reflection Am I building my future or escaping from it? Where does most of my energy go each day? If I continue these habits for the next five years, who will I become? Am I chasing comfort, or am I creating a life I can be proud of? 💪 A man who learns to conquer himself no longer needs to conquer others. His greatest victory is becoming the man he was meant to be.

A frequent skydiver can feel anhedonia (the inability to experience pleasure) for the rest of their life. This is the same for a porn user or a cocaine user because these are all high dopamine activities. Thus, the pursuit of intense pleasure (hedonism) ironically leads to its loss (anhedonia). Your brain is desensitized to life's natural highs – talking, smiling, learning, working, nature, exercise, etc., don’t feel “high” like they should. It’s like your life is in grayscale instead of color; unfortunately, you don’t realize it - this is why quitting feels amazing after any potential withdrawals. Your brain’s dopamine receptors will heal and reverse their desensitization. Source: PPMO

King, I'm a King And all you my brothers are also Kings Wear your crown and defeat the enemy Without showing pride We have dealt with countless urges But still we choose to do NoFap That makes us Kings in a world of slaves No matter what happens with us We will never give up! Despite 1000 relapses Despite any kind of problems We will prove our worth as Kings We Rise! To all my Kings who are participating in NNN I wish you a blessed future We Will Rise! Credits: Written by my good friend Archorn in 2022 (deleted his account. Archorn, if you are reading this, please DM @NimittaMaatra)

History of NoFap from October 30, 2006 to October 30, 2022 Update: The website BasedMethod.org doesn't work anymore. When the rewrite comes, it will be available on EasyPeasyMethod.org.

Confronting the Beast This video was created by Rational Recovery of Jack Trimpey. It's all about confronting the Beast/the Addictive Voice (AV). Beast/Addictive Voice/AV = Little Monster = Urges Although the video talks about alcohol addiction, it's applicable to every addiction.

Make your plans Source: Why You Should Never Masturbate by David Baldwin

Meditation Source: Why You Should Never Masturbate by David Baldwin

How do I stay in the present moment when it feels unbearable? Listen to Zen monk Thich Nhat Hanh's answer.

#BTQP Conclusion Congratulations, you’re a non-user. You’ve just joined the community of all those people who successfully escaped the most subtle and disgusting trap of history, and now have the amazing opportunity to be happy. Don’t have any doubt about this choice. You’ll never actually have doubts, it will always be the Addiction. Users never enjoyed watching porn, and never will. If one day you start again, remember that it is the Addiction’s deceiving game fault, and it is the Addiction you have to beat. You are free at the moment you decide to be so. Don’t plan to be free tomorrow or next month. Your Addiction only fears the deprivation in the present moment, so make sure to quit right now. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Accept the presence of the Addiction Do not try to make your Addiction go away immediately. You have indirect power over it, and you can kill it with time, but you can’t decide to make it go away right now. If you want to make it go away immediately, that means that you’re scared. Don’t be! Remember: it talks like it is the boss – but it is nothing. So don’t argue with it, don’t chase it away, just recognize that it is the Addiction talking. Recognize its presence, accept it, take it as a sign of health and freedom, not as slavery. Recognize that its talking is a sign of its slow but steady decomposition. Don’t give it space. Your Addiction doesn’t deserve anything. Accept the discomfort and do your own thing. Sometimes its presence will be greater, sometimes it will be asleep, lurking in the back of your mind. Your Addiction liked you because you have arms, eyes, and everything that was needed to remain addicted – it liked to use you to satisfy its hunger for dopamine. Your Addiction will try to discourage you from doing the normal and joyful activities that you couldn’t do before, but you must act in spite of it. You can’t go rock climbing it says? Then go rock climbing. It will suffer because you’re doing whatever you want. That’s a double win! Do whatever you want then! It’s your life, not its! This life is yours, yours, YOURS! Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Beat the Addiction (Part II of II) Your Addiction will constantly try to rearrange your emotions and thoughts to sustain the high life. But you are in charge, your Addiction is not. You are the decision-maker, your Addiction can only suggest. And its suggestions go directly in the trash. Imagine yourself as an older person, looking back and seeing your life: a clean life, a life free of porn. This is a nightmare for the Addiction. Now picture yourself watching some porn. Tease your Addiction. Feel how it is so relieved that you’re getting “back on track”. Now tell your Addiction that it’ll never see porn again. Mean it. Feel the discomfort. It is the Addiction slowly dying. Maybe one day you will slip back into the trap. No worries, you will just have given more fuel to the Addiction, which will wake up and start suggesting again to watch more porn. Repeat the process, beat it, feel the discomfort and let the Addiction die. Just acknowledge that you’ve made a terrible error and you can decide to never do it again. You’re free of porn every time you decide so, and the fact that your Addiction doesn’t approve your choice has no importance. Remember to never argue with your Addiction. Arguing and rationalizing only gives fuel to the Addiction. If you argue, it means you’re still considering it. Your Addiction will gradually die over time. This also depends on you. The less fuel you give, the quicker it will die. On the first days of freedom, its presence will be greater. You’ll hear your Addiction lurking in the back of your mind even after weeks and months, with less power and presence. Remember to not be scared, you are superior to it. Rejoice, because you are free from its slavery. It is just a little, powerless voice. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Beat the Addiction (Part I of II) Now think: “I will never watch porn again”. Don’t just think it, mean it. Picture yourself and your entire life with the benefits of being a clean and happy person. Re-affirm this thought as much as you want. You will feel discomfort inside yourself. See? The Addiction is suffering. The Addiction hates this. The more you affirm, the more you are real about it, the more your Addiction will suffer. The more details you imagine, the more you’ll beat up your Addiction. For example, imagine something that your Addiction always denied to you. Let’s say: “I never did rock climbing, cause porn addiction destroyed my motivation”. Now picture yourself as a rock climber for the rest of your life. Imagine yourself doing it every weekend and becoming better and better at it. Your Addiction hates this. You will become a rock climber, you have no doubt. Your Addiction is trying to instill doubt in you, but it has no power. It can only talk, talk, talk. Little boring thing... Your Addiction likes to think that you’ll have a peek at some porn site someday, even a little one. It will make you feel like it is inevitable. Your Addiction genuinely thinks that it is not possible to live a life without porn. Your project seems crazy to it. But you know better than it, so who cares. Source: The Book to Quit Porn