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#BTQP Will I miss the fun? Don't be deluded by users who seem to enjoy porn. Remember that you too were once convinced that it was enjoyable, yet it was one big illusion. No matter how realistic an illusion is, it's still a farce. Sometimes it may seem that users love to watch porn because they’re used to satisfy the withdrawal symptoms in pleasurable moments: after a day of work, during a day off, after sex, etc. After all, if I were forced to wear tight shoes to enjoy when I take them off (that’s what users do!) I would probably choose to take them off after work, so I would be doubly satisfied. Thank goodness, no one forces me to wear tight shoes though, and I'm not dumb enough to make that choice. When I come home from work I thank my shoes for being the right size (just as non-users thank for having intact receptors) and I can enjoy my callus-free feet (just as non-users enjoy their better physical and mental health). Source: The Book to Quit Porn

⚔️ The Truth I Found About Suffering ⚔️ Many men believe their suffering comes from other people. Their family. Their partner. Society. Their boss. Their past. I used to question suffering differently. Not "Who caused it?" But: "What am I participating in that is creating it?" Through observation, personal experience, and brutal honesty, I found that suffering often grows when a man abandons himself. 🔥 When he neglects his values to gain approval. 🔥 When he says "yes" while meaning "no." 🔥 When he avoids difficult conversations because he fears losing someone. 🔥 When he postpones clarity because conflict feels uncomfortable. 🔥 When he carries responsibility for choices that belong to others. 🔥 When he sacrifices self-respect to be liked. 🔥 When he escapes discomfort instead of facing it. This is where many addictions thrive. Not because a man is weak. But because he is trying to avoid something. Avoid rejection. Avoid loneliness. Avoid disappointment. Avoid fear. Avoid uncomfortable truths. For a moment, the escape feels easier than the conversation. Easier than the boundary. Easier than the truth. But the bill always arrives later. What is avoided today often returns tomorrow with interest. Every difficult conversation postponed creates confusion. Every boundary ignored creates resentment. Every truth suppressed creates inner conflict. Every escape from reality weakens a man's trust in himself. One lesson changed my perspective: I am responsible for my choices. I am not responsible for everyone else's choices. A mature man learns the difference. He stops trying to manage how everyone feels. He stops trying to rescue people from the consequences of their decisions. He stops carrying burdens that were never his to carry. Instead, he focuses on what is in his control: ✅ His actions. ✅ His habits. ✅ His words. ✅ His boundaries. ✅ His integrity. The more honest I became with myself, the more peace I found. I stopped asking: "Why is this happening to me?" And started asking: "What truth am I avoiding?" That question changed everything. Because the suffering was rarely in the truth. The suffering was in avoiding it. ⚔️ A man grows the moment he stops running. ⚔️ A man becomes powerful the moment he stops abandoning himself. ⚔️ A man finds peace the moment he faces reality as it is. Suffering grows when a man leaves himself. Freedom begins when he returns to himself. 💭 Warrior Reflection 1️⃣ What difficult conversation am I avoiding right now? 2️⃣ Where am I sacrificing self-respect to gain approval? 3️⃣ What truth do I already know but refuse to face? 4️⃣ Am I carrying responsibilities that belong to someone else? 5️⃣ What discomfort am I trying to escape instead of confronting? 6️⃣ If I stopped running today, what would I need to face first? 🔥 Growth begins when excuses end. 🔥 Freedom begins when self-abandonment ends. 🔥 The strongest man is not the one who conquers others, but the one who stops running from himself. #NoFap #SelfMastery #Discipline #Accountability #MentalStrength #PersonalGrowth #WarriorMindset ⚔️🔥

#BTQP “I quit, word. I just consume that little bit every now and then" Some claim they’ve quit and they just consume porn very very sporadically. First off, I strongly doubt that their consumption is as sporadic as they claim it to be; however, even if they consumed, let’s say, two times a year, they would still be kidding themselves. First of all, I echo what I said earlier: if you like it, feel free to do it as much as you want, and if you don’t, stop completely. If you brag about how little you do it, it's because you feel compelled, trapped; and everyone who consumes pornography feels trapped. Besides, let's face it, consuming pornography is like slapping your own face: you get hurt and gain nothing from it. Clearly, it's better to get two slaps a year than three hundred and sixty-five, but the question is always the same: why don't you just stop? This user still lives by his old false beliefs and this makes him vulnerable. In a moment of weakness, he could go back consuming at the old rates, if not worse. Even if he managed to limit himself throughout his life, he would still be slowly destroying himself, and remember: he will spend his entire life wanting to consume more than twice a year. He will spend a lifetime struggling to control his impulses and feeling deprived of an illusory pleasure. Don't be like this user. Don’t be a user at all. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP About "soft" content Many users accept the dangerous nature of porn, and they fall back on “softer” content, such as Instagram models, “hot videos” on TikTok, and things like that on various sites and social networks, the more traditional will flip through old porn magazines. These users think they are staying in a “safe area”, but there are three problems here:  The nature of the trap is the same. You’re exposing yourself to a lighter but constant dose of dopamine. You’re still feeding the Addiction inside yourself and you’re damaging your brain, and you’re not gaining anything from the whole process.  You’re reinforcing the false belief that you need the dopamine surge to be happy, and that orgasm is essential, too. You’re teaching yourself two deleterious concepts. Dopamine is a substance meant to be managed by our brain, its manipulation leads to bad consequences and no benefits. You don’t like the dopamine surge, your Addiction does.  You’re forgetting the nature of the trap: we are dealing with an ADDICTION, this means that this mechanism is designed to ALWAYS INCREASE and not to decrease or to remain constant. If so many people are hooked on addictions, it means that we’re vulnerable and this mechanism works very well. Don’t get fooled, right now the “soft” models are enough, sure, but sooner or later your brain will prompt you to escalate to more stimulating content – dopamine is the deal, not pleasure. This kind of user is destroying himself and will feel doubly deprived because he won’t be able to access more shocking content. Don’t you remember? This is exactly what you thought when you were younger, at the beginning of your addiction: “I will only watch these soft images, the others are disgusting...”, and yet things have slipped into an undesirable direction. You will never have your addiction under control: in fact, this is a contradiction. An addiction, by its nature, has to gain control of the addict in order to survive. You are either in, or you are completely out. Keep this in mind: you don’t watch porn because you like the women/men you see, you do it to satisfy your Addiction’s hunger for dopamine. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

A yogi is aware of all of his senses . He does not control one sense organ . He focus on all sense organs . He follows dettachment, in the end pelvic area control becomes easier than before . A yogi creates a distance from mind and body- i am not the body and I am not even the mind Do guided isha kriya from youtube

#BTQP “Anyway, I will eventually age and stop having sex...” – I don’t see what the destruction of one’s cerebral receptors has to do with sex. Moreover, it is indeed true that you’ll not always be performing, and that is exactly why you should care about your sexual health! Excessive masturbation and porn use lead to PIED, and even if you don’t have it, you’re still creating impossible standards for your potential partners. Take care of your body while it still works! “I prefer a shorter, but more intense life” – Finally, I agree with you! Wait... are you suggesting that a user’s life is more intense than that of a non-user? A life of self-guilt and self-destruction for unnecessary slavery?... “I’m single, what should I do?” – We have already seen how porn has nothing to do with one’s sexuality and relationships, in fact, porn only ruins these two aspects of life. Moreover, the user is destroying his ability to find a partner by reducing his self-esteem and confidence. When you watch porn, you are directly diminishing the chances to do what you’re seeing. “I’m not worried about the dangers, we all get sick or run into some bad luck sooner or later anyway!" – That’s true, but asking for trouble doesn’t seem wise to me. Try asking a user the following: - You’re not worried about the dangers? - "No. I could get hit by a car tomorrow." - Would you voluntarily get hit by a car? - "Never." - Do you look both ways before crossing the street? - "Of course." Users are concerned about their health, but their beliefs make pornography appear to them as if it were something precious, transcendental. They worry about not getting hit by a car even though the probability of that happening is very low, yet they continue to consume with the certainty of destroying their body and mind and act like it doesn't bother them at all. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP It feels so good to be free! If you used to consume four hours a day, you now have four hours to invest in your family, your partner, your friends, or yourself. You can spend time in relaxing activities and creating connections with real people: porn models don’t have any sympathy for you just because you’re their biggest fan. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Am I giving up something? Nothing, nothing, nothing! Smile, because there is no reason for you to continue destroying yourself! You never signed any contract with porn and so you can quit it at any time if you want to! You only went to the deals because you thought you were actually going to get something out of it, but you have been scammed all these years! No one has ever gotten anything out of pornography except for the owners of the porn sites, who have been ripping you off for money. Porn creates the void, it doesn’t fill it! Not only you’re not giving up on anything, but beautiful advantages are coming to you! Among them:  Being free from guilt: I think this is the best. I’m finally free of those disgusting and perverse thoughts, I don’t have to feel bad for the way I spend my time alone and no longer feel guilty for destroying myself.  Freedom from slavery: you’re free to live by your own rules, without false and limiting beliefs.  Road to self-improvement: you’ll get back your natural receptors! They will fix themselves in a matter of days and after that things will only get better! The more you engage in rewarding activities, the more they will get stronger, and your rewards system will assist you in all of this.  Getting your courage and self-esteem back: apart from the low self-esteem due to the awareness of spending time in a disgusting addiction, your damaged receptors didn’t allow you to cope with stresses and difficulties. With your natural receptors back, you’ll be a more confident person. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Recap (Part II of II) Porn doesn’t fill the void, it creates one. It is like a terrible irritation, if you insist on scratching it, it will only get worse! Stop scratching it, and let your body use its natural abilities to return to its normal state. Once you stop consuming, stressful situations will be more bearable, and relaxing situations will be even more so. Boredom will be filled with interesting activities, and if you’ll need to focus you will be able to do so. I'm not telling you these things because they are functional to our goal, which is to quit. Sure, they are functional too, but more importantly, they are the truth! That's just the way it is! I'm a very open-minded person, and I don't like to be so dogmatic, but I have to make a big exception here! Do you know what's a great comparison? Mafia. Exactly, what do they do? They smash your window, then offer to fix it! So kind! And then what? They smash it again! And so every month! Mafia is a deep-rooted problem, but pornography can be wiped out of your life simply by stopping consuming because nobody forces you to do it and pornography only solves (partially) the problems it creates. Your body will fix itself in a short time, and then the road will be all downhill. There is no rational reason to consume, in fact, no one will want to continue after fully understanding the mechanism of the trap. You can do it if you want to keep your head on the sand, but I don't think it will last long. Your brain by now has absorbed pieces of information that match reality and it will never let them go. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

Many people ask how ashwini mudra ( horse gesture ) and sarvang aasan ( shoulder stand ) helps in nofap Actually they help in reversing the flow of apaan vayu ( air ) from downwards to upwards. Apaan vayu pushes sexual energy downwards , leading to relapse . There are 5 kinds of air in our body according to yoga . You can see above in picture

#BTQP Recap (Part I of II) So, we all start watching porn because we are young and naive, we see other people doing it and, although we know it is dangerous and find it disgusting, we can’t quite believe that it isn’t pleasurable. We fear missing out on something. We then start consuming occasionally, satisfying withdrawal symptoms between one session and the other. The primitive part of our brain registers these sessions as “pleasurable” since they are capable of removing a bad sensation (the pangs), so it recognizes this pattern as useful and saves it for future use. Withdrawal symptoms are always here, so we prefer to remove them on occasions of stress, boredom, concentration, and many more to feel better. This creates a cognitive distortion, we start to believe that porn is really helpful and pleasurable in some way. As time passes, the damages of porn become more and more limiting, so we decide to quit. Believe me, every user tried to quit at least one time, or anyway would like to do so in the deep of his heart, even those who consume porn very rarely. The problem is that the beliefs of the previous point make things difficult because we are convinced that they’re the truth. Plot twist: they are not. Porn is like a leech that is robbing you with the promise that it will pay you back but at the end that never happens. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP Before going to a party This is a common phenomenon, especially among younger users. Many believe that consuming porn before a party or any other social event helps loosen up the nerves and be more carefree while interacting with new people. Do you know what’s my idea of a carefree person? Someone confident and relaxed at the same time. How does a user feel after consuming? Carefree? I would rather say tired and lethargic, not the best to socialize. Socializing can cause a little anxiety, but if your dopamine receptors are intact, they will be able to pick up the natural hormones to deal with anxiety, and you will enjoy the relaxation that socializing can provide. But the poor user is flooding his receptors, reducing his resilience to stress, arriving at the party nervous and unable to deal with anxiety with his natural capabilities. His reward system is not working properly and so the “challenge” of meeting new people doesn’t seem rewarding enough. “I don’t like anybody here anyway”, how can you say that if you haven’t even talked to anyone? “Why bother, I got my ‘virtual partners’ at home”. Even if a user manages to end the evening with a new acquaintance, he still won’t be able to go home, congratulate himself, and then happily go to sleep, because he will have to consume again and deteriorate his self-esteem. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Energy Another terrible consequence of porn addiction is the nearly total drain of the user’s energy. Even users who manage to play sports and doing many things are still living with their energy halved. As said, the user’s receptors get used to an enormous amount of dopamine, so the activities he used to love have now become less enjoyable, if not water under the bridge. Do you know what’s the problem? That this phenomenon occurs in such a gradual manner that users notice it after years of consumption, in fact, they often attribute this listlessness and demotivation, essentially a lack of energy, to the passing of time. If these effects were immediate and users would wake up the day after watching porn for the first time exhausted and lethargic, I think that they would put two and two together. The problem is that the change is not that abrupt, the user suffers a gradual loss of energy. Especially during the teenage years, users have a lot of energy anyway, so they fail to notice this effect very much. The years go by and the user is left thinking that you start becoming old and weak in your first twenties and that energy is a prerogative of children. I too believed that, and let me tell you, I was so wrong! If I could teleport you from now to three weeks in the future, it would be enough to make you jump for joy! Want to know another positive side of escaping porn slavery? That although the sabotage of your receptors and the destruction of your reward system is gradual, once you quit your brain will reset itself in a matter of days, and it's only going to get better and better from there on out. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

You should try Isha Kriya. It's a process of creating distance between the mind and body. It's a practice. It's not meditation. Don't use it as a substitute for meditation. Meditation has a separate place in celibacy. Link: https://youtu.be/EwQkfoKxRvo?si=Md8hHyqrLCYn0qRZ

#BTQP Is porn really relaxing? Another illusion crafted by pornography to ensure that you remain trapped in the chain of slavery for the rest of your life. Porn relaxes, sure, from the withdrawal symptoms. Users can spend hours looking for the “right video”, the video (or image, or anything else) which stands as a winner for two reasons:  It provides a fairly high dose of dopamine, higher than the last one  It’s not too disgusting or shocking to be unwatchable Users are capable to spend hours and hours looking for the right content, and in all honesty, that doesn’t seem like a pleasurable activity to me. Non-users get home from a long day at work and can eat, drink and then relax with their family or get out with friends. They can exercise, socialize or pursue a hobby. Users can’t. Users have another “hunger” to satisfy, they have to isolate themselves to get into the habitual auto-destructive ritual to fully “relax”. It always comes down to the same thing, leaving alone for a moment all the damages of porn, the user will never be as relaxed as the non-user, even after consuming. What’s the point of porn then? Take the example of users who have to leave their partners alone in bed late at night so they can go to the bathroom and finally "relax". I can imagine that the guilt that comes later is not exactly relaxing, as is the shame of getting back under the covers. But where is the pleasure and relaxation in all this? Do you think this will never happen to you? I remind you that they too would have sworn in front of anyone. Source: The Book to Quit Porn