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#BTQP Porn: a real pleasure? (Part III of III) Porn addiction is not a “bad habit” and has nothing to do with “satisfying one's sexuality”. It is an addiction to a substance, namely dopamine, just as many people are addicted to nicotine, heroin, and cocaine. The whole thing of sexuality, the porn actresses you see and the edited scenes are a distraction to keep you glued to the screen. Some porn actresses may be beautiful women but the reality is that you only watch them for the dopamine, if you were doing it to admire their beauty you could watch them for a few minutes and then call it a day. Instead, you spend hours delivering dopamine to your addiction-starved receptors while they are robbing you of your well-deserved happiness. If I made you choose videos that you "liked" and others that you didn't want to watch, and then put you in a position where you could only watch the videos you didn't like, would you stop consuming? No, you wouldn't. Because pleasure has nothing to do with it. You feel better after relieving the withdrawal pangs, but you’re still more stressed and nervous than a non-user, and you just renewed the contract to have more withdrawal symptoms in the future. This is the doom of those who don't want to quit. An illusory pleasure in exchange for a real robbery of happiness. A user takes a break from studying to get his “fix”. He thinks “How lucky I am, non-users don’t have this prize! I can watch porn and then get back to studying”. The truth is that non-users have the biggest of prizes: being free of the addiction, not having to destroy themselves only to relieve a self-caused discomfort, and therefore living their life to the fullest. Remember, it is not the non-users who are depriving themselves of pleasure, they are fine and enjoying life without having to ruin their mind and body for nothing. It is the users who are subjecting themselves to unnecessary torture for the "pleasure" of being able to return to the normal condition that non-users experience at every moment. Where on earth is the advantage of being a user? Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Porn: a real pleasure? (Part II of III) Are you starting to see reality? The whole business of the pornographic world is based on an illusion concocted by the owners of porn sites, who earn millions of dollars every year from the poor users. Even if you don't pay any subscription fees, the ads you see before a video fill their pockets handsomely. Have you ever had your neighbors making noise? Would you ever dream of politely asking them to make noise so you could enjoy the silence when they stopped? That would be crazy! Wouldn't it be much nicer to live in a quiet and peaceful place? Wise up! Porn is an endless cycle that only feeds itself! Nobody, except you, is forcing you to consume it and the time you spend on porn sites brings you no benefits! Every “benefit” users claim is an illusion, just like the “pleasure” benefit: nothing more than a fallacy. The time you have every day is a blessing and you’re using it to force yourself into an absolutely unnecessary slavery. Let’s compare porn addiction to hunger, they may look similar, but they’re two direct opposites:  Food is a true natural need, in fact, eating actually satisfies hunger. Pornography is artificial and merely creates an emptiness that it then partially fills, ensuring eternal slavery.  You may think that sexuality is a need, but remember that porn has nothing to do with sexuality, we’ll cover this later.  Food genuinely tastes good and eating is pleasurable. Satisfying withdrawal symptoms just means destroying our happiness receptors and stop banging your head against the wall.  Eating gives you energy, while porn... takes it away. Try putting a person in isolation. I bet without food he won't live long. As for porn, people are living in remote villages with completely happy lives without the need for the supernatural stimulus of porn. It is this absence of porn that ensures them happy lives. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

#BTQP Porn: a real pleasure? (Part I of III) I'm going to be repetitive, but everyone absorbs concepts with varying degrees of repetition so I want to make it clear: you're not giving up anything at all. The only reason why you’re still consuming porn material is to get rid of the withdrawal pangs. This is the first belief, and I have never met any user who did not claim to find pleasure in pornography. Let me explain the phenomenon: you consume porn, your brain receives the dose of dopamine and when you reach the orgasm your dopamine levels lower and you come back to normality. Often the user is left wondering “Why do I have to do it?”, but the most important thing is that when you finish the “deed”, your brain immediately starts going back in search of dopamine. The nature of the trap makes normal activities seem less rewarding and pleasurable, and after a certain amount of time the withdrawal symptoms show up: your brain demands another dose of dopamine. So these symptoms (pangs, whatever) are just your brain asking for another dose. Withdrawal symptoms in themselves are nothing unsupportable, but it is the user who increases them, because he feels like he’s giving up something. Pangs (“urges”) are 90% a mental thing. They must be and, in fact, they are. After 1 year of abstinence from porn, your brain has well reverted the neural changes. How come then some users relapse after years of abstinence cause they had the “pangs”? It’s not the physical addiction itself the problem, it’s how the user feels about having quit. So, the user consumes porn, lets some hours pass, and then he feels deprived because of the “pangs” and so decides to consume porn again, he receives another dose of dopamine (just a little higher than the last one) and he finally gets rid of the hated withdrawal pangs! Ahh, such a pleasure! Here we go, let's do the math now! What did the user lose from this practice? He destroyed his cerebral receptors some more, ruining his natural ability to have self-esteem and reach his goals, he increased the chances of suffering from anxiety and depression and many other disadvantages. Now let’s see the “advantage”: he finally got rid of that nagging feeling of withdrawal, a nagging feeling that the user has the unique privilege to suffer! Those who don’t consume pornography, don’t have the withdrawal pangs! And their receptors are in perfect conditions! They win doubly, then. The “pleasure” everyone is talking about is comparable to banging your head against a wall to enjoy the feeling when you finally stop! It makes no sense, right? It's not a pleasure, it's the end of the hassle! Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP Are all users the same? Here, however, an interesting discussion is introduced: how come some users end up watching extreme content, while others moderate themselves? Why do some users consume very often, while others only have sporadic sessions? Maybe they’re not really addicted? This is a legit question, and let me make it clear that, yes, the trap is exactly the same, and they’re addicts just as you are. We can explain this phenomenon by destroying a common belief, namely that users are weak-willed people and losers. How many times have you heard that? “If you spend your time watching porn you’re a loser. You don’t have any will to do better. You’re a weak-willed person without any ambition”, these phrases are all too common. This belief is a banality, the reason why some people end up watching extreme genres of porn and do it very frequently is that they’re very strong people. Exactly, you think it is easy to carry on with an addiction even when you know it is destroying you? Carry on with extreme genres even when your stomach turns? Dealing with this horrendous addiction and, in the meantime, still lead a normal life, with a family and a job? These people have an incredible amount of willpower. It’s not surprising that many porn addicts are business owners, independent and principled people, ambitious individuals with big plans. They are simply wasting their energy in a practice that is not only useless, but also harmful. Not too long ago the case emerged of an important member of a big American institution, whose name I will obviously not mention, caught masturbating during the break of a video conference. This explains how this addiction really does affect everyone and not only teenagers. At the same time, some people consume porn moderately and don’t escalate to extreme and shocking material. Let me tell you, they’re inside the exact same trap. They may consider themselves lucky that they don't dare to delve further into the addiction, but the nature of the trap is the same. Moreover, don’t be fooled, many users actually lie about their real usage of porn because they fear losing face. Just think about this for a moment! "Bragging" about consuming little pornography is already an admission that you don't truly enjoy doing it! Has anyone ever bragged to you about eating very little pasta? No! What would be the point? If you like eating it you have no reason to brag about it, and if you don't like it instead just stop eating it altogether! If you brag about eating little pasta, it's because you feel compelled to do so. This means that they don't like consuming pornography either. For this reason, you don’t have to ever envy moderate users, either they’re lying or any way they’d prefer to be completely free exactly as you do. These users are less exposed to the damages of porn cause they consume less of it, but the most of them never find out about the dangerous nature of porn because of the moderate use and remains slave for the rest of their lives. It's as if users are all in a maze without knowing the way out. Some dare to go into the darkest areas while others are more afraid, but at the end of the day they are all in the same trap and there’s no difference at all. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP Dopamine Some of you may have already heard of this substance. It is commonly referred to as the "desire hormone", its job is to stimulate our brain to give us the motivation to reach our goals in life. Everyday actions, such as reading a book, finding a job, socializing, working out, are all actions that induce low-medium levels of dopamine because they are initially difficult goals, but once completed they bring great gratification. When our brain gets exposed to pornography, the quantity of dopamine released is unparalleled. Our receptors, created to help us perform useful and rewarding actions, are literally flooded with dopamine, to the point that we struggle to find pleasure again in normal activities. Do you ever wonder why people once read more, played more sports, and were more able to enjoy the simple things? The reason is that today dopamine floods our receptors, through porn but also videogames and the internet in general. The consequence is this: our brain gets accustomed by pornography to such high doses of dopamine, that normal activities suddenly seem useless, boring, we excuse ourselves by saying that we "don't like" reading, exercising, having new experiences. All those actions with normal doses of dopamine become unrewarding, and pornography takes their place. However, we have seen how, as we consume more and more porn, the same materials (videos, photos, whatever) don’t bring the same level of satisfaction anymore. In fact, the user feels the need to change and veer towards content a tad above the "red line". The red line is a metaphor for that video/photo that you considered disgusting before but now is necessary to feed the addiction. The question arises: why did some materials disgusts us before, and now we seek them? This is the nature of the porn trap, our brain gets used to the dopamine dose of the old content, it wants more. It demands us to have more dopamine and it doesn't care if the content disgusts us or goes against our moral principles, the one and only goal is the dopamine dose. When your body gets exposed to high doses of dopamine, the effects are anxiety, high libido, and fear, exactly the sensations you feel when you consume content above the “red line”, and your brain mistakes these feelings for sexual arousal. Inside our brain, there’s a reproductive mechanism that basically tells us to reproduce as much as possible for the survival of the species. This mechanism is cleverly tricked by pornography, which gives to the primitive part of our mind the false idea that we are engaged in an act of reproduction, for this reason, our brain spurs us to want as much dopamine as possible. Our brain is certainly not stupid, but its reproductive part is very primitive, which is why tricking it is not difficult. So we'll go looking for more and more disgusting and shocking content, even though we'd previously sworn with confidence and solemnity that we'd never click on it. Eventually, the super-shocking content won't be enough, and our reproductive system will prompt us to seek new virtual "partners". I've been there myself and I know what it's like to see your self-esteem destroyed at the end of this process, but don't worry, you'll soon realize that you don't need to do that at all. Dopamine also helps our brain facing periods of stress, of difficulty. Will your brain be able to catch that one drop of dopamine it needs in a hard spot in your life if your receptors will be so damaged? Do you ever find yourself in situations of high stress while others are doing just fine? Do you suffer from depression, anxiety? Do you have a mostly negative behavior towards life? There’s nothing to be surprised about, the most necessary substance to face life is getting invested in the amazing “hobby” of porn. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP Why do we start? Almost all users discover pornography when they are young, most in their teens, but also in their pre-teen years. We are often warned by parents and various institutions about the danger pornography poses to the mind and body, but since we see all our peers, older friends, and people in mass media consuming porn, we can’t believe that there isn’t something enjoyable about it. Since everyone uses porn, we then decide to give it a try ourselves. During our first visit to a porn site we see various photos and clips, most of them are very strong and we find them mostly disgusting. That's exactly why we feel reassured, we think: "If porn is this junk, then I'm never going to get addicted. I don't really like it, so I can decide to quit whenever I want. I'll just do it for a while". If the first impressions were sexy and elegant models, soft, simple, and arousing sex scenes, then an alarm bell would go off and we would understand why everyone falls for it. But this is a confidence trap, you fall for it cause you just can’t see how you could ever get addicted to such a bunch of disgusting material. This is why we start consuming porn with quick and sporadic visits, mostly on moments of boredom. We then begin to explore porn materials, but we don’t dare to click on the ones that are too “hard”, shocking or disgusting. The users are picky and take their time to find the “right” video. If you were to accidentally click on one of the “forbidden” videos, the immediate reaction would be to close the browser as fast as possible. After a while, however, we feel that the same videos just don’t bring us the same level of satisfaction anymore, so here we go in search of more shocking content. We look for more shocking and disgusting material because our addiction has a hunger for novelty. But why does this happen? What’s the nature of this endless cycle of hunger for novelty? The answer lies in a neurotransmitter in our brains, dopamine. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP The Beliefs Here we are, the moment to remove all the absurd beliefs of every user has come. These beliefs are the fruit of the reasoning of users in the attempt of justifying their addiction. They are the exact reason why you find it difficult to quit porn: they make you feel like you’re genuinely giving up something precious. Don't be surprised if some beliefs don't apply to you, they are not truths and in fact, each user chooses only those they like best. We will see the most common ones, however, everyone of course could potentially invent an infinite amount of false beliefs. Once you’ll understand the true face of these beliefs, not only you’ll be able to say goodbye to porn one time for all, but you’ll be very happy to do so, since there are no real benefits to being a user. Not only that, you’ll discover that a life free from porn is enriched with amazing advantages, such as having a clean mind, free from the illusory distortions of the porn world, getting back your self-esteem and relationships, being able to reach your goals and not suffer from the sexual dysfunctions caused by porn, along with the many other benefits of being a non-user. So it is not necessary for me to explain why I think quitting is easy, rather it is necessary to go ahead and explain why - after realizing that porn is extremely dangerous to physical and mental health - people continue to use it. This is the real enigma of pornography. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP The Beliefs Method I realize it may seem like I'm disparaging the other methods in favor of my own, but the reality is that I've tried them all, repeatedly. None of them worked, and I would even make it personal if I hadn't seen hundreds of other people systematically fail using these methods. Even the ones that lasted the longest and were praised by all, would eventually go back to square one. I was a user too and I saw myself and my friends keep encouraging each other at every relapse, but it always was useless. I would like to add that this method has been used for other addictions such as alcoholism, smoking, and many more. The success rates are extremely high compared to other methods, which is why I consider it the best. With the Beliefs Method, the approach is different from the usual, in fact, we ask ourselves some questions that, for the majority of you, will be new:  What is porn doing for me?  Do I get genuine pleasure out of it?  Do I really need it? The beautiful truth is that porn has no benefit and in fact, nobody needs it. Let me get this straight, I’m not merely asserting that the disadvantages of being a user overcome the advantages, but I want you to understand that there is NO advantage to being a user. Does it seem impossible? It did to me too when I found out, and I questioned myself for days, thinking I was wrong. I concluded that porn has really no benefits, in fact, users are constantly trying to rationalize the reasons why they consume pornography. The fruit of these rationalizations is a set of absolutely unfounded beliefs, with no practical nor scientific evidence, easily dismountable with a fair dose of logic and common sense, nothing but illusions fabricated specifically not to feel guilty and carrying on with their pornographic consumption. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

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#BTQP Author's criticism of partial abstinence Now let’s see the method I call “partial abstinence”, and that is consuming porn once in X days. Many users feel blessed when they discover this method because it seems innovative: they think that they will be able to gradually reduce their consumption until, one day, they’ll stop forever. There are two problems here:  You still keep your old beliefs, so you’re vulnerable.  You’re using willpower, so you’ll eventually give in to temptation. The method of partial abstinence consists of using willpower to abstain, and, occasionally, treat yourself to a “prize”. So you're still treating porn like it's a "forbidden fruit," something pleasurable but also something we have to avoid due to force majeure. The belief that porn is pleasurable is more alive than ever and eventually, the partial abstinence will fail and the user will start consuming again every day, or at least at previous rates, if not worse. You may feel confident, and I don't rule out that you might be one of those who can abstain for entire months or years, seriously. But I remind you that I've seen people quit even after years of abstinence, just because they accidentally opened a porn site. At that point the old beliefs started to lurk in the user’s mind again, leading to a relapse. It's not a matter of strength, it's a matter of beliefs. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

Sex Education Talk Part 2 by Parent to his children

#BTQP Author's criticism of the method of distractions A lot of books try to get the user to quit by suggesting to engage in pleasurable and healthy activities such as doing sports, reading, socializing, etc. While these are indeed great life advice, I still can’t (and couldn’t, back in the day) see how they can help you in quitting porn. Let’s imagine you’re dealing with a guy who can’t find the motivation to get up and do sports: how could you ever think to suggest him to get up and do sports? You clearly have to find the reasons why he feels so lethargic and demotivated. For example, he could think that he can’t do sports cause when he was a child he was constantly excluded from group activities. This negative belief is limiting him. Coming back to the porn addict, it is useless to suggest to do sports or socialize, because you’re not solving the problem at its root: it is porn addiction itself that’s preventing the user from doing sports, socializing, and doing other rewarding activities! Building healthy habits is a consequence of being free of porn. First, you do one thing, and then the other. Some people may have tried this approach and forgotten about porn for a while, but the problem is that you’ll always remain vulnerable to the trap, since the old false beliefs are still lurking in your mind, and in a moment of weakness (stress, sadness...) you’ll find yourself fighting against the urge using your precious willpower. Sooner or later you will fall back into the porn trap. Source: The Book to Quit Porn

Sex Education Talk Part 1 by Parent to his children