Beneficial Knowledge

Reasons For Limiting To Only One Wife Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Al-Uthaymeen [D.1421 A.H.] [رحمه الله] said: ❝Some of the people of knowledge held the opinion that it is better to limit one self to one wife, the reasons they give are: 1 - That it is safer for a husband's responsibility for his wife rather than oppressing his other wives. This is because if a man marries two women or more, then perhaps he may not be able to do justice between them. 2- Also because, limiting one self to one wife is closer to preventing the family from becoming scattered. This is because if he has more than one wife, the family can become scattered, since he will have children from one woman and also children from the other woman. Also perhaps there may occur conflict and disunity between the children due to a conflict and disagreement between their mothers, as has been witnessed. 3- Likewise, having just one wife is closer to being able to fulfil the obligation of spending upon her and other matters. 4- It is also easier for a man to take into account justice. Indeed having a consideration for justice is a great matter,  which requires help and aid. So due to that, we say, limiting to one wife is safer for that person. However if a person sees in himself that one wife is not sufficient and does not keep him chaste, then indeed we would order him to marry a second, third and fourth wife until he can achieve tranquillity, and keep away from looking at women and have ease for the soul.❞ [Sharh Zaad Al-Mustaqna, (12/13)]

Perfection In A Wife? Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Al-Uthaymeen [D.1421 A.H.] [رحمه الله] said: ❝Indeed many husbands want their wives to be perfect. This matter is not possible, so due to that husbands fall into worry and concern and are incapable of enjoyment and delight with their wives, and perhaps this could lead to divorce. Just like the Messenger [ﷺ] said: ‎«وإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها وكسرها طلاقها.» 'If you tried to straighten her you would break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.' Therefore, it is necessary for the husband to be easy going and overlook everything that a wife does as long as it does not contradict the Deen or nobility.❞ [Haqooq Da'at Ilayhi Al Fitra, (No. 22)]

🖋 Prophet's Duʿā Anas b. Mālik RaḍiAllāhu-ʿAnhu narrated that Prophet Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam would abundantly say: اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ‏.‏ “O Allāh!! I seek refuge with You from: • Sadness • Depression • Weakness • Laziness • Cowardice • Stinginess • Being overburdened with debt • & Being overcome by men.” ● [الأدب المفرد للإمام البخاري ٨٠١ ، صححه الألباني]

Household Chores Are From The Sunnah Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen [رحمه الله] said: ❝When a person is at home then it is from the Sunnah, that for example he makes his own tea, cooks if he knows how to and washes up that which needs washing, all of this is from the Sunnah.   If you do this then you get the reward of following the Sunnah, with imitating the Messenger [ﷺ] and in humbling yourself for Allaah - the Mighty and Majestic. This also brings about love between you and your wife. When your family sense that you help them in their chores they will love you and your value to them will increase, therefore, this will end up being a great benefit.❞ [Sharh Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/529)]

Be Careful Of Being Like This With Your Wife Ash-Shawkaani [رحمه الله] said: ❝Indeed those of the people who have the highest status in goodness and are the most rightful in being characterised with the truth are those who are the best of the people to their wives.   Indeed the wife and family are those who have the most right to joy and happiness, deserving of good manners and kindness, and bringing them benefit and repelling harm from them. When a man is like this then he is the best of the people and if he is the opposite of that, then he is at the other extreme of evil. There are many of the people who fall into this dilemma, so you see a man who when he meets his family he is the worst of the people in manners, the most miserly person and the least of the people with goodness. When he meets other than his family, non-relatives he becomes soft and timid, has delightful manners, and improves himself, and his goodness increases. There is no doubt that the person who is like this then he is prohibited from success, has deviated away from the correct path. We ask Allaah for security.❞ [Nail Awtaar, (8/121)]

The Best Of The People, He Is The Best Of Them To His Wife From Abu Hurairah [رضي الله عنه] that Prophet [ﷺ] said: «إن أكمل المؤمنين إيماناً أحسنهم خُلقاً، وخياركم خياركم لنسائكم.» ❝The most complete of the Believers in their Eemaan are those who have the best manners, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.❞ [collected By Tirmidhi | Ahmad | Sh. Al-Albani: 'Saheeh' In Silsilah Saheehah, (No. 284)] Shaykh Muhammad Bin Salih Al-Uthaymeen [رحمه الله] said: ❝Regarding the saying of the Prophet [ﷺ]: ‘The best of you…’ This person is the best of the people, he is the best of them to his wife. So if you have any goodness, then make that goodness for the closest of the people to you, and make it so that your wife is the first to benefit from this good. And this is the opposite of what some people do today, you find that he has bad manners with his wife, and has good behavior with other people, and this is a great mistake. Your wife has the most right to good behavior, and having the best manners to them, because she is the one who is with you day and night, openly and secretly. If you are afflicted with something she is afflicted along with you, and if your happy, she is happy along with you, if your sad, she is sad along with you, therefore you should make your dealings with her better than your dealings with strangers, so the best of the people are those who are best of them to their wives. I ask Allaah to complete my Eemaan and that of the Muslims, and that he makes us the best of the slaves of Allaah to our wives and upon those who have a right upon us.❞ [Explanation of Riyadh As-Saliheen, (3/134)]

Observing Your Wife’s Beautiful Manners The Noble Scholar Ibn Sa’adi [رحمه الله] said ❝When a husband reflects over his wife’s beautiful manners and good qualities that he loves about her, and then compares these qualities to those reasons which causes him anger and irritation, perhaps there is some negativity he sees whilst living with her, but it could be that he is focussing on just one or two [negative] things, yet, in reality, those qualities that he loves in her are much greater. Therefore, if the husband was just, then he would overlook her bad points which actually disappear and vanish due to her goodness. In this way companionship continues. As for turning away from good qualities, and only observing shortcomings – even if they are very few – then this is from being unjust, and the husband can hardly be settled with his wife.❞ [Bahjat Al-Qaloob, (Page: 153-154)]

At-Tasbeeh Before Sleeping Shaykh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymeeyah [رحمه الله] said: ‎«مَن اِعتَادَ علىٰ التَّسبيح قَبل نَومِه، أُعطِيَ نَشاطًا وقوة في قَضاءِ حاجَاتِه، وقُوَّة في عِبادته.» ❝Whoever is accustomed to saying Tasbih [SubhanAllaah - far is Allaah from imperfection] before going to sleep, is given strength and energy in fulfilling his needs and also strength in worshipping.❞ [Majmoo Al-Fatawa, (7/394)]

🖋 Thank Allāh If You Have These Blessings Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said: “Whoever wakes up secure in his property, healthy in his body and having food with him for the day then it is as if he’s been GIVEN THE WORLD!!” ● [الأدب المفرد للإمام البخاري ٣٠٠ ، حسنه الألباني]

Tawheed Is The Key To Paradise Shamsuddeen Muhammad Bin Abee Bakr Ibn Qayyim Aj-Jawzeeyah [D. 751 A.H.] [رحمه الله] said: ❝Since Shirk is the greatest of the three aspects to Allaah [عز و جل] then He has prohibited Paradise for the people of Shirk. So the Mushrik will not enter Paradise, rather only the people of Tawheed will enter it, because Tawheed is the key to its door. So whoever does not have with him a key then its door does not open and likewise if one comes with a key which has no teeth then the door will not open.❞ [Al-Wabbil As-Sayyib, (Page: 41)]

Highest Level Of Dhikr Ibraheem Bin Adham [D.162 A.H.] said: «أعلى الدرجات: أن يكون ذكر الله عندك أحلى من العسل، وأشهى من الماء العذب الصافي عند العطشان في اليوم الصائف.» ❝The highest levels are when the Dhikr of Allaah to you is sweeter than honey, and is more desirable than fresh pure water to a thirsty person on a summers day.❞ [Majmoo Rasail Ibn Rajab, (3/317)]

What To Do With The Money Taken From Riba' [Interest] Shaykh Muhammad Nasiruddeen Al-Albaani [رحمه الله] said: ❝There are many questions regarding the taking of Riba' from banks and in relation to this there are two opinions from the scholars, and by this I mean the present day scholars. From amongst them, there are those who say that you should leave it in the bank, since it is Haraam [prohibited], and there is no difference of opinion that Riba' is Haraam [prohibited], however the difference of opinion is about leaving it in the bank or taking it out, so this is the first point. If it is said that you can take it, then it is asked, can you benefit from this Riba or not? The reply has only one answer, that is, he is prohibited from benefitting from the Riba. So what should he do at this point, here there is a difference of opinion, either he should leave it in the bank and this is harmful, and by doing this there is the evil of helping the banks directly by making them richer, thus this money should be withdrawn so the bank cannot benefit from it, nor the bank clerk who works for the bank, rather he should take it and spend it in general public utilities. It should not be used to benefit any specific Muslim, what I mean is that he should not take this Riba' and give it to a poor person or to poor people, rather he should spend it in general public utilities. I shall now elaborate with some examples, regarding leasing out this money, then this is not from the important general public Islaamic utilities, rather it is from the point of view of the Dunya and the increase in worldly gain, as Allaah has characterised the Non-Muslims. For they know the apparent life of this world, for example they plant trees and grass around graves and beautify them with greenery! Why? So that they do not remember death, so that they cannot see the graves, which would remind them of death. Anyway the general public utilities are for example, repairing a rugged pathway for crossing which might effect the riding beast or the people, so you can spend on this, or a place that needs a bridge which is used for crossing over a river, so a bridge can be built with that money, or a village needs a machine to pump up water, even if the water is used for the animals, so these are public utilities, and so on. I want to say that this money should not be spent on Masajid because it is obligatory to build the Masajid upon having Taqwa of Allaah and wealth which is Halaal, but I have said before that if you build toilets with this money, that is, you build toilets for the Masjid, then this is from the public utilities. As for the Masjid itself, which is used for prayer and for worship, then for this cause it is not permissible absolutely.❞ [Silsilaat Hudaa Wa Noor Tape, (No. 759)]

From Abu Huraira from the Prophet [ﷺ]: ❝There was a man from the people before you, who did not do any good whatsoever except that he had Tawheed. So when death approached him, he said to his family: ‘See to it that when I die, my body is burnt until there only remains ashes, then grind them, then scatter them on a windy day, scatter half of them on the land and half of them in the sea’. I swear by Allaah, if Allaah punishes me, he will punish me so much, the like of which no-one from the earth has been punished.’  So, when he died they did what he had said. Then Allaah ordered the land to gather what it had, and ordered the sea to gather what it had in it, and there he was standing within Allaah’s Grip.  Allaah [تعالى] said: 'O son of Adam! What made you do what you did? He answered: 'Yes, my Lord, from being fearful of You [in another narration: from being fearful of You and You know best].' Allaah forgave him due to it, and the man had not done any good what so ever except for that he had Tawheed.❞ [Silsilah Saheehah, (No. 3048)]

Confusion ‏Shaykh Muhammad Bin Salih Al-Uthaymeen [رحمه الله] said: «إذا رأيت نفسك متحيراً فالزم الاستغفار، فإن الاستغفار مما يفتح الله به على العبد.» ❝If you find yourself in confusion then adhere to seeking forgiveness. Indeed by seeking forgiveness, Allaah opens up the way for the slave.❞ [Sharh Al-Kafeeya Ash-Shafeeya, (3/189)]

Allah says in surah Ghafir [40]: [وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ] And your Lord said, "Call on Me, I will respond to you." [60] Imam al-Bayhaqi recorded the following report featuring some of the great tabi'oon in the field of tafsir: [أخبرنا أبو علي الروذباري ، أخبرنا أبو طاهر محمد بن الحسن المحمدآباذي ، حدثنا عباس الدوري ، حدثنا أبو عبد الله محمد بن يزيد بن خنيس المكي ، عن ابن جريج ، قال : قال لي عطاء : جاءني طاوس اليماني بكلام متخير من هذا الكلام ، فقال لي : " يا عطاء إياك أن تطلب حوائجك إلى من أغلق دونك بابه وجعل عليها حجابه ، وعليك بمن بابه لك مفتوح إلى يوم القيامة ؛ أمرك أن تسأله ، ووعدك أن يجيبك " . ] Ibn Jurayj said: 'Ataa' once told me: Tawus al-Yamani once came to me with the following carefully chosen words. He said, "'Ataa', beware of trying to fulfill your needs from those who shut their door in your face and draw the curtains closed. What you should do is go to One whose door remains open to you until the Day of Resurrection. He has instructed you to ask Him and promised you that He will respond."  [Shu'b al-Eman #1063]

Gatherings Of The Righteous‏ Al-Hafidh Ibn Al-Qayyim [رحمه الله] [D. 751 A.H.] said: ❝Gatherings of the righteous transfers six to six: 1 - From doubt to certainty ‏ 2 - From Riyaa [showing off] to Ikhlaas 3 - From negligence to remembrance ‏ 4 - From desiring the Duniyaa [worldly life] to desiring the Hereafter ‏ 5 - From pride to humility  ‏ 6 - From a bad intention to giving advise.❞ [Igatha Al Lahafaan, (1/136)]

Speak With Knowledge Or Remain Silent With Gentleness Imam Abu Abdullaah Ad-Dhahabi [رحمه الله] [D.748 A.H.] said: ❝O slave of Allaah if you love justice: Then Adhere to the texts of the Qur'aan and the Sunnah, after that look at what the Companions and their Successors, and the Imams of Tafseer said about these Ayaat, and what they said about the Madhab As-Salaf. Therefore, either speak with knowledge or remain silent with gentleness. Leave off debating and argumentation about the Qur'aan, since indeed debating and rejecting about the Qur'aan is disbelief - as was mentioned in the authentic Hadeeth.❞ [Mukhtasir Al-Uloo LiAlee Al-Atheem, (Page: 4)]

What Is The Easiest Way For The Shaytaan To Enter Upon People? Ibn Al-Jawzi [رحمه الله] said: ❝The easiest way for the Shaytaan to enter upon people is ignorance. He enters securely upon the ignorant this way.❞ [Talbees Iblees, (Page: 150)]

The Sign Of Good Character Is In Ten Qualities Al-Haafiz `Abdur-Ra-oof Al-Munaawee [رحمه الله] [D. 1031 H] said: Yoosuf Ibn Asbaat said:  ❝The sign of good character is in ten qualities: 1. Rarely arguing, 2. Treating others fairly, 3. Abandoning seeking out people’s faults, 4. Seeking to rectify and improve any evil qualities which appear, 5. Seeking excuses for people, 6. Bearing harm, 7. Blaming oneself, 8. Occupying oneself with awareness of one’s own faults and not with the faults of others,  9. Having a cheerful face, 10. And being mild in speech.❞ [Faydul-Qadeer, (3/464)]

Do Not Grieve Over The Past   Shaykh AbduRahmaan As-Sa'adi [رحمه الله] said:   ❝Do not grieve over past matters which have not been destined, from ill health, or loss of wealth or a worldly matter, etc. Your concern should be with rectification of actions on the day.  Since a person is living in the moment. He should not be saddened for what has passed. Also he should not research into the future where that research would not be of any benefit. It is upon you to be truthful, fulfill your contracts, keep to one's promises and justice in all dealings. Fulfilling rights completely and perfectly with a tranquil soul and with truthful pure Eemaan.   Busy yourself with your own mistakes and your matters, rather than the mistakes of the people and their matters. Deal with everyone according to their situation and condition, whether he is a senior, or youngster, male or female, a leader or a follower. Be gentle and merciful to everyone even animals and livestock, since indeed Allaah is merciful to his merciful worshippers. Be balanced in all your matters, and open up your mind to every religious and worldly benefit.❞ [Majmoo Mualifaat As-Saadi, (21/258)]