THE IRON CIRCLE

Best way by far to get what you want is to simply spend time around it. You can be the most autistic guy alive, but if you’re around beautiful women every day, you will bang a few by happenstance. Same goes the other way. Spend enough time around fuck ups and you will be snorting powder off some guy’s balls before you know what hit you.

literally cannot stress this enough, but... Only get into relationships with women you can replace. Have sex with them though. If you can’t buy something 2-3 times, then you can’t afford it. You can rent that Ferrari for the day, but don’t buy it. Same applies to women.

Yo if u haven’t joined my substack. You should join now cos I’m there most times and I drop my long form post there on attraction and dating Manofstxxx.substack.com

Every day you and your loved ones have your health and freedom is a good fucking day. With those two, anything is possible. Neither is guaranteed, no matter how carefully you live your life.

There’s something about a woman posting her boyfriend or husband, that just makes him look weak. They’ll usually pick a picture of him in his most domesticated form. Either him in an apron, baking with a smile on his face. Or him in some pajamas looking like a complete idiot. Women rarely post a badass picture of their man. It’s almost like they want to show the world how they’ve successfully tamed a beast. They’ll post a selfie they took together with him with a goofie Snapchat filter on his face. Or post him attempting some dumb internet dance. My friend’s girl posted a video of  him cleaning the windows in their house on her IG story. And captioned it “a handy man ❤️” I couldn’t believe it. They rarely post anything with you looking sexy. They rather post something where you look tamed. DO NOT BE A VICTIM OF THIS

Happy new month. Five months to go Make it count!

literally cannot stress this enough, but... Only get into relationships with women you can replace. Have sex with them though. If you can’t buy something 2-3 times, then you can’t afford it. You can rent that Ferrari for the day, but don’t buy it. Same applies to women.

Just because some of you dudes want to prove that you can take a joke, you end up tolerating disrespectful remarks from women. Disrespect that comes in the form of a joke, is still disrespect. Just because she said it with a humorous tone, that doesn’t change anything.

Having manners isn’t just about knowing where to place your fork and knife. It’s also about putting people at ease. Making people with different beliefs, cultures, backgrounds, enjoy spending time with you. Being insufferable gets you no where. Be a joy to be around.

If it ever gets to the point where you have to discuss sex with your woman, it’s time to leave. Sex is how desire, lust, and emotions are communicated. You don’t need to talk about it. If she’s not sleeping with you, that’s the message. Don’t bother talking about it

The crazy and borderline supernatural thing with doomer beliefs is that guys believe them so passionately they become self fulfilling prophecies. Their eyes only perceive the confirmation bias. They unconsciously gravitate to situations where that belief is most likely to be reflected. It is actually insane. It is like an artificial reality headset. Like if a guy is neurotically obsessed and hung up on the whole height and money thing he will become blind to anyone that likes him, it is as if they do not even exist, he cannot even see them. Can only perceive what confirms the current belief system. Even if he sparks some interest he will unconsciously behave in a way that sabotages it to confirm the belief and make it real. Like how people project old baggage onto new people they meet to recreate the same past outcomes to then attribute it to yet another confirmation in their belief system. “Men are trash” “Women are trash” Etc This is why you cannot take any of this doomer trash seriously. People conflate their personal reality for the reality. Fun person: wow people are so nice. Grouchy person: wow people are so mean. Which is true? Both and neither. Depends on the person, the context.

There are 2 main reasons why high achieving, professionally successful men are frustrated with dating 1. You want a unicorn girlfriend or wife 2. But you aren’t running anywhere close to the right volume to make this happen in any reasonable time frame You are especially open to this as a high achiever who has an intense career because you have very limited time to meet women You have to grasp that if you want to find your unicorn ride or die girl It is going to require you to seriously load the top of your funnel As in anywhere from 6-12 new phone numbers per week type of loading…. Otherwise you’ll just be hoping and praying that the Gods decide to drop this perfect woman in your lap This is something as a high achieving man, I’d imagine you don’t want…. You only accept the best of the best …. You’re kicking ass in your career from all the hard, focused, strategic effort you’ve put into it Finding your dream girl requires a similar high level STRATEGY to put yourself in the best position to meet her You will be tempted to go to matchmaking for this On paper it sounds great …. “I’ll just skip the hassles of dating by paying heaps of money to meet my dream girl. Efficency 😎” Well as someone who has been mastering dating and male female romantic/sexual dynamics for over a decade I can confidently tell you that chemistry is ANYTHING but checklists on a requirement sheet (which is what matchmaking is based on of course) The amount of times people have ended up dating those who were NOTHING like their described type …. It’s a tale as old as time…. So matchmaking while tempting, is NOT the way Instead here’s what to do in order to max the top of your funnel in the most efficient way possible 1. Get a professional photoshoot that maximizes style and presentation so you can show your best self online - this will print matches on the dating apps 2. Cold approach any hot girl you see in your day to day life This is the formula that all of my busy professional clients use to maximize the top of their funnel so they can QUICKLY meet the women of their dreams Even if you do nothing else as far as any other game strategies or dating skills go , at LEAST you can likely stumble into some success But if you want the absolute best of the best dream dating life You’ll also want to learn the following (But not limited to) -Master efficient texting -Learn how to talk to women and connect with them -Understand how to flirt, arouse, turn them on -Know how to handle objections and concerns -Tell the two in #5 apart -Know how to screen so you find girls who like you for YOU and are not in agenda mercenary mode -Understand and be clear on your dating goals and intentions so you can lead the interactions properly and so on… Even if you’re a guy who’s rich and successful and open to gold diggers Lead with wealth = women more likely to use you Lead with game and maxed presentation = women like you for you And trust me, it’s a LOT better this way…. This is the full way to put your dating life progression on absolute thermonuclear rocket fuel And yields the results of a dating life that only most men would ever even DREAM of It’s also extremely time efficient Which of course is something you value as a busy, successful man Time efficiency + top tier results = problem solved for life

If You're Tired of Pretending You Don't Care You know the cycle. You see someone you like. You hesitate. You tell yourself you're "not thirsty." Then you watch her walk away and spend the next hour replaying what you should've said. Or worse, you approach. It gets awkward. You fumble for words. You leave without a number, convincing yourself she was boring anyway. Stop lying to yourself. You do care. You just don't have a system. This book isn't motivation. It's mechanics. Five problems. Five solutions. 1) Approaching confidently You're nervous. That's fine. You'll learn the exact opener that works whether she's interested or not so rejection stings for 2 seconds instead of 2 days. 2) Getting her contact details Not a "trick." Just a low-friction way to exchange info that doesn't feel like an interview or a sales pitch. She'll actually want to hear from you. 3) Taking her on a fun date Dinner is a trap. Coffee is a job interview. Three date templates that build chemistry instead of boredom, tested, not theoretical. 4) Escalating to the sheets This is where most advice gets vague or creepy. This chapter is neither. Just the logical, calibrated steps from touch to alone time. 5) Seeing one or many at a time Want exclusivity? Fine. Want to date around without lying? Also fine. The exact language to keep things honest so you don't become the guy women warn each other about. Why you should believe any of this You shouldn't. Not yet. I've failed a lot. Maybe more than you, maybe less. Enough to learn. Enough to write it down so you don't have to repeat the same stupid mistakes. This isn't written by a natural. It's written by someone who had to earn every lesson the hard way. What this isn't - No fake screenshots of women begging for you - No pickup lines that work 1% of the time - No promises that you'll be drowning in options by Tuesday If you want magic pills, don’t buy it. What this actually is A long, useful, unpolished book. Read it. Apply one thing the next day. See what happens. If nothing changes, you lost an hour and the price of a sandwich. If something changes? You just saved yourself years of guessing. Click here to read the book Buy it. Don't buy it. I don't need to fake urgency. But if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting and you already know what that looks like.

There’s a reason rich dudes PAY to have entourages of all DUDES vs be surrounded by like 20 hot girls. They get it. Every good wing who is invested in your success like it’s his own is worth ~50 girls. I’ve got my best friends laid >50 times and him the same for me. Sadly, most guys are terrible wings. They’ll either try to low crawl your girl or as soon as they see there’s nothing in it for them that night, they quit, take all their toys, and go home. A good trained wing should get you laid more than you can yourself. He’s a superpower A good player has a lot of notches. An elite player has a lot of ASSISTS. He gets his guys laid and lets them bat way above their league. His struggle isn’t getting laid, it’s keeping his guys from going 😍 mode on the first hottie and peacing out to go play house with her

The #1 sin in game is ‘qualifying ourself’ That is any action we secretly did to change another person’s opinion of us or our worldview. Ironically, also trying to convince people we don’t care what others think of us. Its what women test for but most guys fail before she tests This muscle gets weaker the more we do it. We can’t go from flashing cash on IG, arguing on twitter, getting ripped only to impress girls….then expect to pass her tests in a club. We can’t live the life of a seller and then suddenly and congruently act like we’re the buyer The opposite of qualifying ourselves is expression. In qualifying, we try to ‘steer’ their reaction to how we want them to react. In expression, we don’t ‘steer’ it that is we give freedom to react ‘bad’. Send it and let the chips fall This creates trust and makes them receptive When I talk about projection, I mean a state of expression where you are pre-emptively doing things that ‘dare’ people to judge you and react badly…. not as a tactic but because the happy feeling in you is so strong. This creates massive trust in the whole club and rockstar status

Someone asked me a question in my DMs which was “how to have standards but be not judgmental” Judgment is proactively pushing our standard onto others because of a need to be believed / gain control. Guy with standards would just let his attention drift elsewhere, no need to hurt feelings/ push his view. What guys who are judgmental don’t realize is that, in addition to breaking the vibe, every judgment they pass is a compliance test. They’re begging to be agreed with. They’ll keep doing it and then be confused the group ignores/defies them but they trained them to.

Top player game isn’t being able to get a woman really into you. It’s being able to dial that back so she feels she’s 51% in control of the relationship and is easy to breakup with because it feels it was her choice. Boost attraction when we want to keep her, cut it when we want her to end it. We have to do this for several reasons: - really awesome girls are rare, a waiting game of sorts - best way to patiently pass top girls’ tests is to have a rotation - ethics: we don’t want to get girls really invested and break their hearts. Damage = a sloppy half-ass player

New substack post Check it out: Manofstxxx.substack.com

Boundaries in a relationship is like anything else with chicks. She only wants ‘equality’ until it doesn’t work in her favor anymore. Go do the same shit she is, using her same excuse, and watch how fast that narrative changes. For example: Her: posting slutty social media pics ‘baby I am just being social’ You: ‘accidentally’ chatting up girls (and guys) and getting IGs ‘baby I am just being social’ As soon as it doesn’t work in her favor anymore, it’s the ‘wrong kind’ of equality and she don’t want it anymore. If you don’t like what a girl is doing, you’ll never win by trying to control her. Ever. Just find out how to make it not work in her favor anymore and she’ll stop it as fast as a girl will stop a conversation around why women should be elegible for the draft just like men are.

There’s a case to be made that what’s right and true is for you to put absolutely zero effort into building a relationship with any woman, and on top of that even purposely wreck it, until you run into a woman who just decides you’re her one and refuses to let you go. I don’t fully embrace this philosophy, because in the modern world that woman will probably just not be hot enough tbh, but i can’t bring myself to shit on it either since it definitely creates a more wholesome male-female dynamic.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​