Our Side of the Story

In the cases of emotional neglect, do they do it knowingly or not? There are some premises that could help us see this vividly. ●The parents know they're not giving the needed attention to their child but keep on doing it because that's how they grew up, what's expected from them is to provide food, clothing and shelter nothing more than that. I don't blame them😊 ●Some parents are caught up in the Idea of a perfect life for their child they work so hard to give them that future and they forget their child needs them. These type of parents are the one's that get broken to their soul when they see their child in a different world from what they had in their minds. The feeling of failing as a parent is severe. I don't blame these either. ●The one's that believe there's no point in emotional connection with their child. Who often dismiss the effects of their verbal abuse or whatever their child might go through. They usually push kids to suck it up because they really don't have problems until the age of 20s or 30s, smh🤦🏽‍♀ I do blame these, it's not being oblivious but closing to be oblivious. 2/n

PARENTAL NEGLECT Do parents neglect their children knowingly? In cases of being physically absent and not taking responsibility for the child, yes indeed they are neglecting them knowingly. I can't quite have a say in this because there is so many plausible arguments to why the parent wasn't present in the child's life so it would be giving absurd generalization. Despite the reasons absence of either of parent figure causes trauma. For instance ●Questioning one's worth because a parent figure didn't stay in their lives to reassure them and the insecurity of not being good enough gets carved in their minds. And they believe everyone they interact with leaves because of "them" but not for any other reason. ●Trust issues, as I've mentioned before when one becomes an adults they're the fruits of how their parents raised them. And if they didn't have anyone around to teach them the art of trust and a healthy relationship it results in them having consistent trust issues. 1/n

Aren't we all traumatized? Be it by the things we've seen in our early days when our fragile beings couldn't handle it or after we've grown into adults. For now let's take a few steps through some traumatic childhood experiences, stay tuned :)

There's that famous line "ልጅ በእድሉ ያድጋል" የምን እድል ነው ጎበዝ?! ከሀላፊነቶቻችን ለመሸሽ ቃላት እያሟሹ መተረት ልማዳችን ስለሆነ እንጂ። እርግጥ አምላክ ለሁላችንም ጥንቁቅ እና አሳቢ ስለሆነ ለህፃናትም እርሱ አለ (best believe he favors them more than us) ሆኖም ግን እርሱ የድርሻውን እንደሚወጣ ወላጆችም ድርሻ አላቸው። "የልጅ ልጅ ሳታሳዩኝ ልሞት ነው?" "ምነው ከተጋባችሁ ሰንብታችሁ የለም ሆድሽ ዝም አለብን😗" "ቶሎ መውለድ እኮ መልካም ነው ሮጥ ሮጥ ብለው አድገው ይጦሯችኋል" ምፅ🤦🏽‍♀ እንዲህ ነፍስ ስጋቸውን እያስጨነቁ ለልጆቻቸው ግድ ቢላቸው ነበር የሚደንቀኝ! ታድያ they've been under a lot of cultural pressure ማለት ሀላፊነታቸውን ወዲያ ለመጣል ማስተባበያ ይሆናል ማለቴ አይደለም፤ በጭራሽ!!

Being placed in the foster care system right after they're born or worse being hospitalized. Having anxiety attacks and being alert to their environment with the fear of harm. I sometimes can't handle my responses or reactions to some situations let alone babies facing these difficulties without even knowing what they're facing. Just to clear it up I'm in no way disrespecting parents even if they don't act like one they're still parents and they deserve an ounce of respect. But bringing a child into this world isn't a simple hoop you jump through but a lifetime of responsibilities and so much more.

Sitting and watching these through breaks me into pieces, they don't deserve any of it. I'm not a parent but I have the experience of being a child. It's portrayed in our minds that finishing school, getting a job, getting married and having kids is the ultimate definition of life. So people jump into it without the tiniest bit of reluctance. Not bothering to check on themselves if they're fit enough to be a partner or a parent just focusing on the material faction of the situation. "Am I financially stable?" Is the question that usually gets asked but not "Am I mentally stable?" Children are completely pure and raw when they're put into this world, once they become adults they're the fruits of their parents decisions and how they guided them through their oblivious days. And with complete genuineness I say parents pay the least attention to this or they're not aware. I've seen parents fight in front of their infants and raise hands at each other with the thought their children won't "listen" or "notice" or "understand" but they do! Even the little bit of a disturbed facial expression distresses them let alone fights. Having a child is a responsibility not something that's marked on a to do list just because society told us it's a necessity to have a successful life.

Those of you who didn’t vote rock as your fave genre I’m just going to believe y’all voted on “I listen to everything” and pretend I’m not hurt✌🏾 Moving on I hope you liked my playlist of this week, I’ll try to recommend music with your range of favorites. Stay grinding you got this, sleep well🤗

Anywaysss sleep well, have yourself a great week, eat, drink water and take care of yourself alright? 🤍

This right here, lord‼️

People who tell you to be yourself. Maybe they don't get it. Maybe they do not know there is something very painful about being YOU. Maybe they have no idea how hard it is for you to look into the mirror and realize that person is no other but you. They do not know what it is to try to look at your past and remember nothing other that an ugly childhood. They can't comprehend how it feels to have a glance at your past and face the absence of good memories. Trauma has changed you, poverty may have crushed you, you may well have lost your joy to the fight of ur parents you grew up hearing. ክሉው የላቸውም What it is to walk around with no passion for life to be void of good feelings. Owning a heavy heart and a dry brain. Maybe people who tell you to be yourself don't know how painful it is to actually Be You 'cause they're not you. ልትቀርባቸው ምትፈልጋቸውን ሰዎች እንደ ጳጉሜ አየር ሚለዋወጥ ሙድህ እንዳያስቀይማቸው ፈርተህ መራቅ ትርጉሙ አይገባቸውም። ጥሩ ቦንድ መፍጠርና በአግባቡ ሰስቴይን ማድረግ መሳን ምን እንደሆነ አያውቁትም። ራስን መጥላት ታሪክን መጥላት ትላንትን መጥላት ሌላ መሆንን መመኘት ህመሙ ሊገባቸው አይችልም። አይዞህ። Or maybe they got a point. They maybe trying to tell you to face the reality. And heal gradually. To make a better tomorrow. You deserve it mate. Be yourself. @FamilyPain 🛖🌄