Our Side of the Story

‘All my friends are wasted And I hate this club Man, I drink too much Another Friday night I wasted’ As much as I believe everyone should know better for their own sake and take accountability for their actions, for the reason I’m yet to find I ache for what’s becoming of mine and my younger generation. Detached from home, religion, love and someone to guide. You soak yourself in escapes only to lose your way out of those escapes. All the chaos in their homes we don’t understand, the “I wish I became this” battles they go through with themselves, the little child in them needing to be taken care of and understood. I’m speaking of the exceptions, not the spoiled immatures who have no discipline and sense of self attached to them.

እግረኛ መሆን ግን ከባድ ነው በስማም...ግፍያ (it doesn’t help your case if you’re short like me) ከዛ ሰልፍ ከዛ ደግሞ የተቀየረ ታክሲ ተራ ፍለጋ መንቀዋለል ከዛ ድካም...ሆ ቤቴ ምን አለኝ?!

‘Absence’ I get a little torn apart from staring at the couch near the door of our living room, you loved sitting there I never asked why Three or five or many times I think, I went into your room and asked what you wanted for breakfast, the bed was made and instead of your morning conversations with God I’m embraced by a cold deafening silence I take my earphones out for embarrassing amounts of the day thinking you called out for me, I’ve stopped screaming “weye” though maybe that’s one step of moving on But I still leave half a milk in the fridge because you might ask for it later I picture what you would have looked like on my graduation day and punish myself even more for living my life as if you never left No matter how warm of a color the lights are, it’s still cold and dark Almost as if the ceilings and walls are grieving for the person who made a home out of them.

ይስሀቅ መዘግየቱ ለደስታ እና ለሳቅ ነው!

As much as I dread too much interactions and people I’ll never take ጉርብትና and our genuine culture of being concerned with each other’s lives for granted.

መርሳት መቻላችን አይገርምም??

እንደው በፍፁም ሊገባኝ ያልተቻለው ነገር ቢኖር is the idea of marriage proposals. የእውነት I’m not even trying to be salty and negative lol. I genuinely don’t understand it. And this is a cry for someone to make me get the whole point. When people reach that level of needing to propose to someone and being proposed to, there’s at least two or more years of being in a committed relationship አይደል? መቼም ይህን ሁሉ ዓመት ብቻቸውን "ወደፊት ሳገባ" እያሉ ነው የሚያወሩት አትሉኝም...it’s likely and even must be “ስንጋባ" right? የቤታቸውን interior design, የአንሶላ እና መጋረጃ color, the pets they want to have, names for their kids, the date and place for the wedding, መርጠው ከጨረሱ በሗላ propose ሲያደርግ (why does he do it in the first place?😭 የፈጠነ ሽማግሌ ለምንድነው የማይልከው? ከተስማሙ? እሱንም in the modern world ድሮ እኮ ምፅ ተዉት እሱን) የእሷ ኡኡ ማለት...I mean babes I understand in this scary day of being betrayed and cheated on, him kneeling down and asking you to be his companion for the rest of his life could get you like that. But it’s not a surprise no? You knew you were marrying that man. ነው it don’t work like that?😭 ከዛ ለ aesthetics ነው ሽማግሌ የሚላከው? The proposal ከሆነ እሺ ካልሆነ ደግሞ the ሽማግሌs...ሁለት contradicting situation. አላቅላችሁም ለማንኛውም አልገብቶኝም:: I’m open for any ጤነኛ and convincing theories :)

እኔ ተናግርያለሁ! ሁለት ወርም ትሁን ሁለት ዓመት ከፍ ሲልም marriage, know the people you date or choose as a partner. "ቆንጆ ነው/ናት😩" እና ምን ይጠበስ? ከመልካቸው ጋር እንኖር ይመስል...physical attractiveness is one factor not a whole central point. “He got money tho” his money might get you and your kids things but it’s not going to carve their characters. እስቲ ታንቃችሁ ትሞቱ እንደሆን እናያለን...withdraw yourself from being in meaningless relationships and the constant need to date for a while. ማን እዛም እዚህም ልባችሁን እና innocence-ኣችሁን ካልዘራችሁ ህይወትን አታቋትም ብሎ አዋጅ እንዳወጀ እንጃ...መባከን ሆኗል ኑሯችን:: You notice major red flags and deal breakers? Immediately check out. ዛሬ tolerate ያደረጋችሁት ነገር will bite you back ሗላ ለቅሷችሁ መከራ ነው:: Besides knowing who you choose to form a romantic relationship with, be comfortable with being alone first, understand your edges very well before inviting someone to be part of the chaos that is your existence. ወደ ሗላ የቀራችሁ ስለሚመስላችሁ አደራ! Don’t get involved with someone you don’t share anything with...ባለህበት ተራመድ ለምን አትሆኑም? እሰይ ደግ! Experience ይሆናል እያሉ እሹሹ የሚሏችሁን ወደዛ...ልብ ሸርሽሮ experience የለም! ደግሞ Ex መደርደር ጀብድ የሚመስላቸው ሰዎችም አሉ እናንተዬ አለማወቅ ይሆናል አልፈርድም! ጀብድም ይሆናል እኮ...ምን አውቅ እና እኔ ህእ🤭 As a society we’re conditioned to loathe lonesome, ሁካታ እንወዳለን...የውስጥ ሁካታን ሳያበርዱ አጃቢ ቀውስ መፈለግ ምፅ::

እናንተ! እንኳን አደረሰን :) 2015 was too much to handle but እግዚአብሔር ይመስገን we made it! I’m grateful that I get to share pieces of my journey with you guys! የምወዳችሁ ነኝ...ሸጋ ዓመት ለሁላችን💜

Also I want to have a conversation with whoever came up with the idea of ምንጣፍ...ጣውላ and መጋረጃ አጠባ በዓል በመጣ ቁጥር:: Why am I sacrificing my back just for everyone and their mommas to come ruin it?

I wish holidays came with just the gratitude, sharing good food together and without the obligations of socializing and less of the snarky comments from relatives who have absolutely zero idea of what happened to you over the year.

እና the usual escape of “I don’t like politics” doesn’t sound as cool as you think lol. No one is asking to become an activist but at least know what’s going on around you, your opinion or comment won’t change anything but at least pray for your people and for better leaders.

The police emphasize that the city has more issues like terrorism to the point they are just protecting themselves.