Asexuality and Aromanticism on Reddit

I (21NB) shared on Twitter that me and my boyfriend (24M) are in an Asexual relationship, got a lot of hate. Months ago, I made a Twitter post that gained 19k or so likes and 600k views, where I basically shared that I'm sex repulsed and my boyfriend is only sexually attracted to me, but we make things work. While we had people feeling happy for us, others accused me of forcing him in this relationship, others say "Lol he's definitely cheating", "As the woman you should please your boyfriend, stop being selfish!", even someone say "careful, he might SA you". To clarify, We are childhood friends, we know pretty much everything about each other. He and I have access to each other's socials/accounts for security and other reasons, but we don't pry into DMs without the other's consent. There have been times people have tried to flirt with us, and each time we'd tell one another laughing about it. We've never yelled at each other, We have disagreements of course but never fight. I only learned I was Ace when we started dating a year in, while he always knew he was on the Ace spectrum, but learned he was Demi when he developed a crush on me. He's attracted sexually only to me and repulsed by everyone else while I'm just generally repulsed, but we make things work in our own ways (Ways I'd rather not share, but 100% consensual and doesn't involve other parties). But honestly sex is nothing to us at all. We still cuddle, kiss, hold hands, everything a couple does except sex. Something we often say is "Best friends first, lovers second". I wouldn't replace him for the world. How I can see his eyes dilate when looking at me, how respectful he is of me. He inspires me everyday to be a better person, and I apparently do for him too. I don't know exactly why I'm sharing, I guess I'm a bit pissed off at people throwing accusations our way, that "Oh! Men are sexual deviants!" or "Asexuals shouldnt date at all, sex is what defines a relationship". It made me especially mad seeing comments assuming my boyfriend would assault me, he would never even hurt a bug! Already he, as a cisgender man, is often discriminated because he is sensitive and better at doing domestic work like cooking and cleaning, so seeing those accusations made me upset on his behalf. It also hurt to see the fellow Asexuals argue with those who don't believe asexuality is real, even had one person dming me they cried reading the comments from haters. https://redd.it/1ullotx @asexualityonreddit

Things I love about being ACE! 💜 It’s my 20th birthday, and for the first time in a long time, I’m actually not miserable about it, so I thought I’d spread the joy! 🎉  Here are a few things I LOVE about being Ace: 1. Not having any romantic or sexual feelings.  (I love not experiencing something everyone considers to be “normal and healthy” because that means I get to be an outlier. Something unique and special!) 2. Not feeling concerned about marriage or pressured to be in a relationship.  (No matter how many times people tell me I’ll change or try to convince me something is wrong with me, I will NEVER CARE! I will live my life how I want to- because it’s mine and it’s the only one I get.) 3. Holding a special value to my friendships. (I understand the importance of connection and friendships, the power of loneliness, and the devaluing of platonic love. Your romantic/sexual partner can be for life, and so can your friends; it’s time society started respecting that.) 4. Not falling for the straight propaganda and the hetero agenda. (Get. It. Off. My Screen. IM TIRED OF IT! THE FROGS ARE GAY!) 5. Not worrying about dying alone.  (Imagine people watching over you as you slowly pass away… that’s so embarrassing) -I have social anxiety 💀 That's all I can think of right now. Feel free to add more! I’d love to hear what other people love about asexuality! 😈  https://redd.it/1ullxhs @asexualityonreddit

Being heteroromantic and asexual seems like the worst I've only met one heteroromantic asexual and it seems like it sucks because not only are you not part of the LGBT+ community because you're straight, but you're not considered straight by straight people because you're asexual which OBVIOUSLY means you're not straight because your asexual, I don't understand the train of thought here so I probably sound just as stupid as they do. So now you have people on both sides saying you don't belong here. This isn't something I have to deal with thankfully as I am aroace but why does it seem like people are not that welcoming to aromantic heterosexuals and heteroromantic asexuals as people would with any other identity? Sorry if this makes no sense but I want to see everyone else's views on hetero people who are aro/ace. https://redd.it/1ull5tc @asexualityonreddit

i hate sex I’m asexual and I hate sex. I experienced half a year of sexual abuse. I feel sick of any sexual interaction and don’t see any sense in this. But my partner really love sex and we have a lot of disagreements because of it. This is all very difficult for me and I need someone to discuss this with. https://redd.it/1uljk5v @asexualityonreddit

Look what just came! https://redd.it/1ulhei9 @asexualityonreddit

Alonorma 101 https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1ul7hj7 https://redd.it/1ul7is6 @asexualityonreddit

Is this a normal thing to be chill with? So I'm asexual. I understand that can be an issue with people who I could potentially get into a relationship with, which is why I would be okay with said person having sex with other people. I asked this same question to 2 friends, and they both said it was a tad strange, so I'm asking the same thing here. https://redd.it/1ule6ui @asexualityonreddit

So tired very tired I an so tired of another group here insisting "if you EVER had sex, you're not Asexual " Sorry 19 year old, I'm 42. I had "sex is how you show love, sex is extremely important, ect" pounded into my head from forever (my mom. My dad didn't talk about sex at all) and thought it was something wrong with me. Found out about Asexual, knew it was me and finally has answers. But because I didn't puke and run as soon as I saw genitals doesn't make me allo. And demi sexual all those "are allos who don't like sex but have it" https://redd.it/1ul68se @asexualityonreddit

It's rough watching my friends ignore my advice and then fumble the ball then wonder what happened. https://redd.it/1ukzaw1 @asexualityonreddit

[TW: SA; emetophobia] how to go about navigating touch and sex as an asexual survivor? /r/asexuality/comments/1ul6243/tw_sa_emetophobia_how_to_go_about_navigating/ https://redd.it/1ul63db @asexualityonreddit

I have a confession to make! Even though I am asexual i don’t like garlic bread or cake https://redd.it/1ukzk2l @asexualityonreddit

If I had a nickel every time Ryan Gosling played a popular asexual head cannon… https://redd.it/1ul0zx3 @asexualityonreddit

If I had a nickel every time Ryan Gosling played a popular asexual head cannon… https://redd.it/1ul0xjg @asexualityonreddit

I just haven't found the one yet, bro https://redd.it/1uky9qr @asexualityonreddit

Asexual Experiences Bingo https://redd.it/1ukqsyw @asexualityonreddit

Periods suck https://redd.it/1uku6o6 @asexualityonreddit

help identifying my sexuality ive been in a relashionship for about 6 months now, i love him so much and want him to have everything he wants and more. but i feel this constant neutral emotion when anything sexual comes up, the issue is ive had and enjoyed sex before. just right now in my life i feel no sexual attraction twoards anyone. is this asexuality? i dont see it changing in the near future and was just wondering if anyones had the same issue. (sorry if my grammar is bad.) https://redd.it/1ukt6jl @asexualityonreddit