The Islamically

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said: “Do not carry the worries of this life, because this is for Allāh. And do not carry the worries of sustenance, because it is from Allāh. And do not carry anxiety for the future, because it is in the Hands of Allāh. Carry one thing: pleasing Allāh. Because if you please Him, He pleases you, fulfils you, and enriches you.” [Timeless Seeds of Advice]

Shaykh Raslan حفظه الله said:

"Women are sensitive. One wrong word and she'll run away from you. One right word and she'll come sit next to you.

[Mu'asharah an-Nisaa]

Treat Women Nicely

Narrated Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه:

Allāh's Messenger ﷺ said: ❝Treat women nicely, for a woman is created from a rib, and the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion. So, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely.❞

[Sahīh Bukhari, (No. 3331)] Q : The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said in a Hadith, "Treat women kindly, for they were created from a curved rib, and the most curved part of a rib is its uppermost..." Please explain the Hadith clarifying the meaning of the last sentence? A: This is a Hadith Sahih (authentic Hadith) related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim in their Sahih (authentic) books of Hadith on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه) who narrated that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) stated, "Treat women kindly, for they were created from a rib, and the most curved part of a rib is its uppermost. So treat women kindly." End of quote. It is a command to husbands, fathers, brothers, and other men to treat women kindly, be nice to them, be fair to them, give them their rights and guide them to what is good. This is the duty of all men, for the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) stated, "Treat women kindly." This does not mean that women sometimes may not say or do something offensive to their husbands or relatives, for they were created from a rib, as the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) stated and the most curved part of a rib is its uppermost. It is known that the uppermost part of a rib is the part by which it is attached and this part is always curved. The Hadith means that women will certainly have their shortcomings, and that is why it is narrated in a Hadith related in the Two Sahih (authentic) Books of Hadith (i.e. Al-Bukhari and Muslim) that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) stated, "I have not seen any lacking in ability to reason and deficiency in religion but (at the same time) robbing the wisdom of the wise, besides you [women].” This is the judgment of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and the Hadith is related in the Two Sahih Books on the authority of Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (رضي الله عنه). The lack in ability to reason, as explained by the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), can be seen in the fact that the testimony of two women is equivalent to the testimony of one man. The failing in religion, as explained by the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), can be seen in the fact that women remain for days and nights without praying, due to their menses or postpartum bleeding. This is the ordainment of Allah and women will bear no sin as a result. Consequently, a woman has to accept these two shortcomings mentioned by the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), even if she is very wise and knowledgeable, for the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) did not speak of his own desire. It is the revelation of Allah to him to convey to all people. Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) states: “By the star when it goes down (or vanishes). Your companion (Muhammad, (صلى الله عليه وسلم)) has neither gone astray nor has erred. Nor does he speak of (his own) desire. It is only a Revelation revealed.” [Surah An-Najm, 53: 1 – 4] [Majmoo ’al-Fataawa Ibn Baaz, Vol.: 5; pp. 300 - 301]

Amr ibn al-Ās رضي الله عنه said: “I never blamed a man to whom I entrusted a secret that he revealed, because when I entrusted it to him, I was more eager to give it away than he was when he revealed it.” [عيون الأخبار]

Ibn 'Abbās رضي الله عنه said: "Marry for if the servant of Allāh commits zinā, Allāh snatches the light of Eemān from him, and may or may not return it" ‎[الطبقات الكبرى ٥/٢٨٧]

Fudayl ibn Iyād رحمه الله said: “Glad tidings to the one who feels lonely from people while Allāh is his companion, and he weeps over his sins.” [حلية الأولياء (٨/١٠٨)]

Fudayl ibn Iyād رحمه الله said: “Glad tidings to the one who feels lonely from people while Allāh is his companion, and he weeps over his sins.” [حلية الأولياء (٨/١٠٨)]

Al-Hasan al-Basrī رحمه الله said: “Do not seek companionship with someone who has abandoned you, for the one who cuts ties with you once can easily do so again.” [Hilyat al-Awliyā, 2/139]

Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله said: “When a Muslim tastes the love of Allāh, he will find it sweeter than any other love.” [مجموع الفتاوى (١٠/٦٢–٦٤)]

Shaykh Ibn Bāz رحمه الله said: “Many of the husbands are lions against the wife, but ostriches when it comes to other than her.” [شرح رياض الصالحين (١/٥٤٣)]

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said: “The first step to zina is a gaze, then a smile, then a greeting, then conversation, then a meeting, then intimacy.” [Rawdat al-Muhibbīn]

Ibn Hazm رحمه الله said: “There is a unanimous agreement among the scholars that growing the beard is obligatory for men.” [مراتب الإجماع (رقم ١٥٧)] Grow your beard in obedience to Allah and His Messenger ﷺ. In a time when people take pride in following every trend, take pride in following what Allah and His Messenger ﷺ commanded.

Luqmān the Wise said: “Son, the first things you should acquire in this world are a righteous wife and a righteous friend. You will find comfort in the righteous wife when you enter your home, and you will find comfort in the righteous friend when you leave your home to see him.” [أدب النساء للأبليري (ص ١٣٨)]

Ibn Rajab رحمه الله said:

وصداع الرأس من علامات أهل الإيمان وأهل الجنة “And headaches are from the signs of the People of Imaan and the People of Jannah.”

[Lataaif al-Maa’rif pg. 153]

The Prophet ﷺ said: "There is nothing like marriage, for two who love one another." [Sunan Ibn Majah Book 9, Hadith 3]

Umar ibn al-Khattāb رضي الله عنه said: “There is no relationship between Allāh and anyone except through obedience to Him.” [تاريخ الطبري (٤/٣٠٦)]

Eid Mubārak 🌙 Al-Hāfiz Ibn Hajar رحمه الله said:

“Expressing joy on the occasion of Eid is from the symbols of the religion.”

[فتح الباري (٢/٤٤٣)]

Ibn Hibbān رحمه الله said: “There's nothing more wasted than love given to someone who is not loyal, and a favor done for someone who is not grateful for it.” [روضة العقلاء ونزهة الفضلاء (١/٨٨)]

Sheikh Bin Bāz رحمه الله said: "Shyness that prevents you from speaking the truth is not Shyness at all, but only weakness." [فتاوى إسلامية ٨/٧٥]

Shaykh al-Fawzan حفظه الله said: “A man who comes to an empty home and doesn’t have a wife lives a difficult life, even if the home is full of money and enjoyments.” [الإتحاف (ص ٨٥٧)]

Ibn Rajab رحمه الله said: “Whoever cannot afford a slaughter, then let him slaughter his own lusts and desires.” [لطائف المعارف (ص ٤٠٢)]