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She does not disclose his secrets • The chaste Muslim woman does not disclose her husband's secrets, and does not talk to anyone about whatever secrets and other matters there may be between them. The serious Muslim woman is above that, she would never sink to the level of such cheap and shameless talk as goes on amongst the lowest type of people. Her time is too precious to be wasted in such vulgar behaviour. She would never accept for herself to be counted as one of those people whom the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم described as one of the worst types: "Among the worst type of people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Judgement is a man who enjoys his wife's intimate company, and she enjoys his intimate company, then one of them goes and discloses the secret of the other." {Muslim} Disclosing secrets of the intimate and private affairs between a husband and wife is the most disgusting thing. It is done only by the wicked of the worst type. There are some secrets the disclosure of which is not as bad as disclosing this secret. Revealing secrets in any case is bad and unpleasant. Keeping secrets in itself is a worthy and virtuous deed, whilst disclosing them is very bad.

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Weak women raise weak children. Raise your daughters to be women of fortitude & resilience when it comes to their Deen, not women of passivity & fear of confrontation. The feebleness & spinelessness of a woman will be inherited by her children, and likewise her steadfastness

• The sincere Muslim woman recognizes her husband's likes, dislikes and habits, and tries to accommodate them as much as she can, in the best interests of mutual understanding and marital harmony, and to protect the marriage from the boredom of routine. This is what every wise and intelligent wife does. It is narrated that the qadi and faqeeh, Shurayh married a woman from Banu Handhalah. On their wedding night, each of them prayed two rak'ahs and asked Allah سبحانه وتعالى to bless them. Then the bride turned to Shurayh and said, "I am a stranger, and I do not know much about you. Tell me what you like, and I will do it, and tell me what you do not like so that I may avoid it." Shurayh said, "She stayed with me for twenty years, and I never had to tell her off for anything, except on one occasion, and I was in the wrong then." This is the respectful and loving wife as Islam wants her to be, responsible for her home and loyal to her husband, and always careful to maintain good relationship between them. If anything happens to upset their marriage, she hastens to calm the situation with her sincere love and wise understanding. She does not listen to the whispering of the Shaytan which calls her to do wrong. She never hastens to ask her husband for a divorce. The marriage bond should be too strong to be undone by temporary arguments or occasional misunderstandings. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم warned those foolish women who ask their husbands for a divorce with no legitimate reason that they would be denied even the scent of Paradise. "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no good reason will be deprived of even smelling the scent of Paradise." {Tirmidhi}

• Another example of the ways in which a wife may endear herself to her husband may be found in the words of 'A'ishah رضي الله عنها. "She spoke to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم when he came back to his wives after he had kept away from them for a month. He had said, 'I will not go to them for a month,' because he was very angry with them. When twenty-nine days passed, he came to A'ishah first. 'A'ishah said to him, 'You swore to stay away from us for a month, and only twenty-nine days have passed; I have been counting them.' The Prophet said, "This month has twenty-nine days."{Bukhari and Muslim} 'A'ishah's telling the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم that she had counted twenty-nine days was a clear indication of her love towards her husband and of how she had waited, day after day, hour after hour, for him to come back to her. It shows how she loved and missed her husband. This approach made her even dearer to him, so when he came back to his wives, he started with her.

“Ḥourīs (beautiful, fair females) restrained in pavilions.” — [al-Qur’ān 55:72] Sh. Muḥammad al-Amīn ash-Shinqīṭī Raḥimahullāh said: “If a woman was to not leave her house (except due to a need) then this is from characteristics which beautify her.” ● [أضواء البيان ٦/٣١٤]

• She suffered labour pain in the way when the victorious mujah.deen were close by Madeenah in their return journey. When the pains became intense, she and her husband stayed behind for awhile, but her husband prayed to his Lord in the still of night because he loved to enter Madeenah with the Prophet. Suddenly the pains ceased and she told her husband to follow the army that had proceeded ahead. They caught up with them, and after they entered Madeenah, Umm Sulaym's labour pain began anew. She gave birth to a boy, and his brother on his mother's side, Anas, brought him to the Prophet, who fed him a small amount of chewed dates (tahneek) and named him 'Abdullah. The prayer of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم for this baby was fulfilled, as among his descendents were ten great scholars. No doubt Allah, the Almighty, the All-Knower, knew the sincerity of Umm Sulaym's faith, and conveyed the good news of Paradise to her via His Prophet: "I entered Paradise, and heard footsteps. I said, 'Who is this? They told me, 'It is Al-Ghumaysa', the daughter of Milhan, the mother of Anas ibn Malik.'" {Muslim}

How great was Umm Sulaym's faith, and how magnificent her patience and virtue! How bravely she hid her pain from her husband and endeared herself to him. She managed to conceal her grief at the loss of her beloved son and spent that time with her husband patiently hoping that by being a good wife to her husband she might earn the pleasure of Allah. This is true, deep and sincere faith. Allah سبحانه وتعالى answered the Prophet's prayer for Umm Sulaym and her husband, and she became pregnant from that night. When shewas heavily pregnant, she saw her husband Abu Talhah preparing to set out on another military campaign with the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم . She insisted on partaking of the honour of j.had with him alongside the Messenger of Allah, even though she was in the later stages of pregnancy. Her husband took pity on her because of the difficulties of the journey and the heat of the desert, yet he asked the Prophet for permission to let her come with him. The Prophet granted the permission because he knew her strength of character and love of j.had. Umm Sulaym was present when the Muslims were triumphant at Makkah, and when they were sorely tested at Hunayn. She stood firm, as solid as a rock, alongside her husband and the small group of believers around the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, even though she was pregnant. At the time when many others had fled, she remained there until Allah brought victory to the believers.

She endears herself to her husband and is keen to please him • The true Muslim woman is always keen to win her husband's love and to please him. Nothing should spoil his happiness or enjoyment of life. So she speaks kind words to him, and refrains from saying anything hurtful or upsetting. She brings him good news and keeps bad news from him as much as she can, or postpones telling it until a suitable time when it will not upset him so much. If she finds that she has no alternative but to tell him upsetting news, she looks for the most suitable way to convey it, so that it is not be so hard on him. This is the wise approach and good conduct of the clever woman, but it is very difficult to attain and only a very few virtuous women ever do so. One of those who did reach this high level was the great Muslim woman Umm Sulaym bint Milhan, the wife of Abu Talhah al-Ansari. Her son passed away while Abu Talhah was travelling, and her attitude was so unique that if Imam Muslim had not reported this story we would have taken it to be a mere myth. Let us hear her son Anas ibn Malik tell the story of his remarkable mother and her unique attitude: "A son of Abu Talhah by Umm Sulaym died. Umm Sulaym told her family, 'Do not tell Abu Talhah about his son until I tell him about it.' Abu Talhah came home, so she prepared a dinner for him, and he ate and drank. Then she beautified herself in a way that she had never done before, and he had intercourse with her. When she saw that he was satisfied, she said, 'O Abu Talhah, what do you think if somebody lent something to someone, then ask it back?, Will it be right not to return it?' He said, 'No.' She said, 'Then resign yourself about your son (i.e.he died).' Abu Talhah became angry and said, 'You let me indulge myself and then you tell me about my son!' He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him what had happened. The Messenger of Allah said, 'May Allah bless both of you for this night!' Umm Sulaym became pregnant. The Messenger of Allah went on a journey, and she accompanied him. Whenever the Messenger of Allah came back from a journey, he never entered Madeenah at night. When they (the travelling-party) approached Madeenah, her labour-pains started. Abu Talhah stayed with her, and the Messenger of Allah proceeded ahead to Madeenah. Abu Talhah said, 'O Lord. You know how I love to go out with Your Messenger when he goes out, and to come back with him when he comes back, and I have been detained, as You see.' Umm Sulaym said, 'O Abu Talhah, I do not feel as much pain as I did before, so let us go on.' When they reached Madeenah, her labour-pain started again, and she gave birth to a boy. My mother said to me, 'O Anas, nobody should feed him until you take him to the Messenger of Allah in the morning.' I therefore took the baby to the Messenger of Allah next morning. When I reached him he was carrying an iron tool. He saw me, then said, 'I hope that Umm Sulaym has given birth.' I said, 'Yes.' So he put down the tool and I brought the child to him and placed him in his (Prophet's) lap. The Messenger of Allah called for some of the dates of Madeenah. He chewed it until it became soft, then he put it in the baby's mouth and the baby began to smack his lips. The Messenger of Allah said: 'See how much the Ansar love dates!' Then he wiped the baby's face and named him 'Abdullah. {Muslim}