Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion, socialization "i think a lot about that fruits basket story where the onigiri (rice ball) thinks its plain and and bad with nothing special about it but everyone else actually admires it because of the delicious plum on its back that it cant see"

adhd, guilt "how do u tell the difference between executive dysfunction, procrastination, and laziness bc fuck idk how to"

art, self compassion "if you're a creator and you needed to hear this today:"

pets [but also not only pets, this can be applied to human brains as well] "my friend's dogs pick up a pillow every time someone enters the house"

depression, mental illness, self compassion "stop convincing yourself you're wasting your life away. the time you've spend resting and healing was and is necessary. you're not a waste of a person if you find yourself struggling right now. healing, recovering, sitting with your pain is foundational. its not a waste. you are still whole"

depression, self compassion, socialization, invisible problems "depression isnt always sadness [...] depression isnt a constant feeling of sadness, depression can be hidden in happiness. your depression is valid even if people say its not just because you smile"

society, socialization "you'll always be 'young' in someone's eyes and 'old' in someone else's eyes, 'talented' to a friend and 'terrible' to another. the world's never gonna agree on a definition of what you are, so you might as well ignore that stuff and be whatever you wanna be for yourself"

adhd, neurodivergency, invisible problems "apparently there is a difference between habit and willpower. it exists to neurotypical people."

lgbt, invisible problems, representation "if anyone ever tells you that asexual visibility and awareness isnt important, just remember that when i told my therapist i was asexual, she told me i probably had a hormone imbalance"

socialization, self compassion "other people can see magic in you that you will sometimes overlook. dont you dare try to convince them they're wrong just because you cant see it yet"

art, self compassion "reminder to self: your writing seems boring and predictable because · you wrote it · you've read it like eight million times a person who has never read it before does not have this problem"

socialization, trauma, mental illness "please remember that almost everyone around you is traumatized. i didnt understand this when i was younger. i wondered why people acted so strangely and irrationally. maybe all children wonder this. the author robert anton wilson said (paraphrasing), "we have never seen a completely sane adult human". "

socialization, labels, lgbt, discrimination "im so tired of people framing "phases" like they're a bad thing [...] they want you to say "its not a phase this is who i am". you know why? [...] they want you to feel shame. like this whole time you've been lying to yourself [...] but you know what the truth is? phases are fucking awesome, and you can change as much as you want in this life, and people who tell you that the way you identify is "just a phase" are manipulative little shits who should be systematically ignored. do you know what else has phases? the motherfucking moon"

self compassion, mental illness "when your mental health isnt in the best state, give yourself a break. dont feel guilty for things you cant do. normal things like eating, sleeping, or socialising may be difficult, its okay to struggle. rest, recover, be kind to yourself and know the bad times are temporary"

self compassion, mental illness "self sabotage can look like:"

socialization " "do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it" is honestly the best thing you can say to me when i say im sad/in pain etc [...] "do you want advice or do you just want to vent?" is also good to add because often unsolicited advice can further hurt someone who really just wanted a listening ear"

socialization "people think that intimacy is about sex. but intimacy is about truth. when you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is "you're safe with me" - thats INTIMACY"

self compassion "if you ever feel bad about yourself just remember that if you were a fictional character people would probably love you for all your flaws and quirks and mannerisms"

socialization "maybe you think someone doesnt have a lot on their plate compared to you. but maybe their plate is smaller than yours and doesnt have a lot of room to begin with. dont compare. we all deserve support and to be able to talk about our struggles, without them being invalidated"

self compassion "your future self is hating you for the poor decisions you're making today [...] your future self is looking back on your past self with mingled love and sorrow and compassion, because they know how hard you were trying and how difficult the going was. your future self wishes they could spare you the pain of hating yourself when they know that you are trying the best you can. your future self isnt mad. your future self forgives you and would like you to take as good care of yourself as you can"