Our Side of the Story

I used to think that maybe everyone is following a universal rule I didn't know about which went like 'Pretend everything is okay even if it isn't.' I know it sounds childish and all but you can't blame me, I was a little kid who kept learning all about things like global warming, ozone depletion, environmental pollution, etc. They're all problems we had back then and they're still here, with their effects growing exponentially and claiming more lives as time goes. Maybe I was a bit of an environmentalist when I was young. But that's not what I'm going to talk about today. We follow that same pattern today. Each of us. At the back of our heads are piles and piles of things we need to deal with but we just keep delaying them and even more, denying the fact that they even exist. It's our mind's way of keeping us safe but too much of a good thing is bad too. I'm not saying it's your fault, and I'm not saying I don't live in denial. Trust me, I do. But if this gets to you somehow, shows up on your channel's list or anywhere at all, maybe you need to deal with something. Maybe you need to try and stop the cycle. I mean, don't we all? @thesunandherflowerss

Just a reminder own up to your mistakes, take responsibility and learn from them. Pretty sure the poems didn't disappoint, have yourself a good weekend eh? G'night🤍

Charles Bukowski was an alcoholic, a womanizer, a chronic gambler, a lout, a cheapskate, a deadbeat, and on his worst days, a poet. Bukowski wanted to be a writer. But for decades his work was rejected by almost every magazine, newspaper, journal, agent, and publisher he submitted to. His work was horrible, they said. Crude. Disgusting. Depraved. And as the stacks of rejection slips piled up, the weight of his failures pushed him deep into an alcohol-fueled depression that would follow him for most of his life. Thirty years went by like this, most of it a meaningless blur of alcohol, drugs, gambling, and prostitutes. Then, when Bukowski was fifty, after a lifetime of failure and self-loathing, an editor at a small independent publishing house took a strange interest in him. The editor couldn’t offer Bukowski much money or much promise of sales. But he had a weird affection for the drunk loser, so he decided to take a chance on him. It was the first real shot Bukowski had ever gotten, and, he realized, probably the only one he would ever get. Bukowski wrote back to the editor: “I have one of two choices—stay in the post office and go crazy . . . or stay out here and play at writer and starve. I have decided to starve. Excerpt from The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F**k. #LiteratureSaturdays @OurSideOfTheStory

Bluebird by Charles Bukowski #LiteratureSaturdays @OurSideOfTheStory

Sometimes I can't explain how exhausted I feel. No I don't have a piled up schedule of things I should be doing, I don't have a job that expects every ounce of my effort and for that matter I don't have anything that exhausts normal people. I'm exhausted of trying to become my future, dragging tomorrow into today and struggling to fit what can't fit. Just waking up, breathing, convincing myself that I'm doing really great, pretending, the list is endless. All of it exhausts me, maybe because I'm trying to live what's not to be lived in this exact moment? Or am I just too mentally broken to find joy? I guess we'll never know :)

Quote from - born a crime, trevor noah Signs of emotional abuse (Whether or not the person knows they are doing it to you) • Telling you a lie about how a certain event happened where you think you were wronged, so you feel like you're remembering things incorrectly. • Lowering your value, with words and actions. Not paying attention to your emotional needs that they know of and you've informed them of (so no one can say 'they didn't know'). Comparing you with others so you feel less secure. • Messing with your head about who you are, so you continue to be subservient to them. Your sense of self scares someone who has no sense of self at all. So on and so forth. Recognize these and move forward as quick as you can. Emotional abuse is one hell of a mess, and more so as it time goes on... ...and the webs keep getting more complex. 🧡 @OurSideOfTheStory

Lack of sex education is the phrase you're looking for😊 and thank you for sharing.

Am I right though? Is it called sexual stigma?

I wanna talk about sexual stigma. Growing up in a society where talking about sexuality and sexual health with your parents is an embarrassment, my heart breaks for everyone out there who goes out to the world without much knowledge. I’m talking from my perspective though. Cause if I ever become a mother I know damn well I’ll have this conversation at a certain point with my kids. Personally my family was a blunt family, I was thought about menstrual cycle when I was 7 so I wouldn’t get confused by the time it happens. I was told about sexual attraction between two genders when I was 9 so I could embrace it and make decisions by differentiating good from the bad when it comes to it. Having a conversation with your parents about this is very essential. Knowing you can trust them and be open to them when things go wrong is important. I sit down and think how many guys and girls are sexually abused? Cause they have 0 awareness about things. How many of them have been a victim to sexual assault mentally and been silenced about it? I think it’s time for a change. To make it short My advice for anyone is if you have younger siblings please make them trust you and discuss things with them cause this society has made communication with parents so difficult and as the elder sibling it’s your responsibility to be an open minded and understanding person. Discuss with them, go have that deep conversation with them whether it be about sexual health and sexuality or about emotions and mentality. I know how it feels like to have nobody or nothing and I don’t want anyone to feel it whatever the situation is. 💓 Good Night

I wanna talk about sexual stigma. Growing up in a society where talking about sexuality and sexual health with your parents is an embarrassment, my heart breaks

ጓደኝነት ላይ እንዴት ናችሁ? ዙሪያችሁን የከበቡ ቀልዱን ሳታወሩት ገብቷቸው ሚስቁ ጓዳ ሚስጥራችሁን የሚያውቁ ብቸኛ እንድትሆኑ የማይተዉአችሁ ችግራችሁንና ደስታችሁን ሚጋሩ የኔ ምትሏቸው ሰዎች ይኖራሉ። አንዳንድ ሰዎች ግን ሰው መያዝም ማቆየትም አንችልበትም። የኛ ግድፈት ይሁን የነሱ ስህተት ባናውቀውም አብረን ረጅም ጉዞ መዝለቅ የምንችላቸው ሰዎች ግን ያሉ እስካይመስለን ድረስ ብዙ ሰው አውላላ ሜዳ ላይ ጥሎን የሄደን ሰዎች አለን። ይሄ ችግር ከግል ውስንነት ማለትም ከክፉ ባህርይ፣ ከሃሜተኝነትና ከመሳሰሉት ሊሆን ይችላል። በዚሁ ልክ ደግሞ ክፋት ባይኖርብንና ብዙ መልካምነት ቢኖረንም ሰውን ሚያቆይ አዎንታዊ አቅም ከማጣት ከተግባቦት ችሎታ እጥረትም ሊከሰት ይችላል። ሆነም ቀረ የልብ ወዳጅ ማጣትና የቅርብ ጓደኛ አለማግኘት ወይም አብሮ መሰንበት ያለመቻል ትልቅ ህመም ይፈጥራል ከራሳችን ጋርም እንድንጣላ ያደርገንና ሰላማችንን ይሰርቀናል። ህይወት ከአእምሮ ጤና የሰፋች ብትሆንም የአእምሮ በሽታ ግን ከህይወት ያጎድለናል። ምንኖረው ባየነው መልክ እና ልክ ነውና። ለዚህ ነው ለውስጣችሁ መጠንቀቅ ያለባችሁ። ይህ ግን በቀጥታ [የአእምሮዬ ጤና እያልን] በመጨነቅ ሳይሆን አእምሮአችን ሊረበሽባቸው ሚችሉ ጉዳዮችን ትክክለኛ መስመር በማስያዝ ላደረግነው ጥረት እንደ ጎንዮሽ ጥቅም ሚሰጠን በረከት ነው። ጓደኝነትን ያህል ደግሞ ከውስጣዊ ሰላማችን ጋር ትስስር ያለው ነገር የለም። መልካምና ጤናማ ወዳጅነት ከብዙ ጭንቀት፣ ህመምና ስብራት ሚጠግን ከጉዳትም ሚከልል መከታ ሲሆን የዚያኑ ልክ ደግሞ ግንኙነቶቻችን ሲበላሹ በተለይም የቅርብ በምንላቸው ሰዎችና በኛ መሀል ያለው መስመር ሲወለጋገድ ስሜቱንም ለነሱ ማጋራት እስካንችል ድረስ ርቀው ሲታዩን ብቻችንን ምንማቅቅበት መቀመቅ ውስጥ እንገባለን። ስለዚህ የጓደኝነት ጉዳይ ከአእምሮ በሽታም ይሁን ከአእምሮ ጤና መነጽር ብንመለከተው አስፈላጊነቱ ጥያቄ የሌለው ትልቅነቱም ወደር አልባ ነው። ስለዚህ በቅድምያ ራስን ማወቅና ራስን መሆን አስፈላጊ ነው። ትተውን የሄዱም ሰዎች ሰው መሆናቸውን የራሳቸውን ውሳኔ መወሰን እንደሚችሉ ከኛ ጋር የመኖር ግዴታ እንደሌለባቸው አስበን ትክክል ካልሆነ ቅሬታ እና መራርነት ራሳችንን መጠበቅ ይኖርብናል። ለራሳችን ግን ጠንከር ያሉ እርምጃዎችን ወስደን በቀጣይ ህይወታችን ሊከሰት ሚችለውን ወይም አሁንም እጃችን ላይ ያለውን ይህን የጓደኝነት እንቁ እንዴት መጠበቅ እንደምንችል ሲያመልጠንና ሲሄድብንም እንዴት ያለ ምላሽ መስጠት እንዳለብን ልንማር ያስፈልጋልን። በነዚህ ቀናት ምናደርገው ይህንኑ ነው። ሰዎች ጥለውኝ ሚሄዱት ለምንድነው? ለምንድነው የሚቀየሩት? ከሁሉ አብልጬ ቦታ በሰጠውት ሰው ለምን ችላ እባላለው። ትላንት አብሮኝ ቢውል ማይደክመው ሰው ምነው ለደቂቃ አብሮኝ ሊሆን ከበደው? እኚህ ጥያቄዎች ዳር ቆሞ ለሚያይ ሰው ተራ ውዝግብ ሊመስሉ ቢችሉም በነዚያ ክፉ ቀናት ግን ህይወታችንን እንድንጠላ ሊያስገድዱን የአይኖቻችንንም ቧንቧዎች በሀይል ከፍተው ትኩስ እንባ ሊያጎርፉ ራሳችንን ለማጥፋት ሊያስመኙን ልባችንን አፍነው ሚገድሉን እስኪመስለን ድረስ ሚያስጨንቁ ናቸው። የታመመ ብቻ ያውቀዋል። እናም ወንድሜ አንተን ሚመለከት ከሆነ አይዞህ ብቻህን አይደለህም። እህታለም አይዞሽ አንቺም ብቻሽን አይደለሽም። ደግሞም ያለፉት 20 አመታት እንኳ እንዲህ ቢሆኑ ነገ እንዲህ አይቀጥል ይሆናል አይታወቅም። ግን ህመሙን ለመቀነስ ማድረግ ምንችለው ነገር አሁንም በእጃችን አለ። @BoredTherapist 🤦🏽📝 #Week9Thoughts #Friendship [ክፍል 1] #Toxicology

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Ramadan Kareem 💜

"You have what you can learn if you can accept your error. You have medications and hospitals, as well as physicians and nurses who genuinely and bravely care to lift you up and help you through every day. And then you have your own character and courage, and if those have been beat to a bloody pulp and you are ready to throw in the towel, you have the character and courage of those for whom you care and who care for you. And maybe, just maybe, with all that, you can get through." Excerpt from Beyond Order by Jordan B . Peterson