Basic Fucking Kindness

digital, socialization "if you're offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that im just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i dont need you to respond with "hey sorry, i wasnt at the computer!" or anything. [...] just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation"

socialization "you know, if you're thinking about sending someone a nice message and you're unsure because you're shy or whatever, just do it anyway. this world lacks so much kindness, and i see people all the time talking about why receiving a sweet message was the highlight of their day. if you have the ability to literally make someone's day by taking a moment to say a few nice words like, just do it"

autism, neurodivergency, labels, society, diagnosis "i am autistic but not diagnosed. can i ask for really small accomodations at work or school? [...] if you dont want to pursue an autism or adhd diagnosis and you have access to a doctor or therapist you can get them to write you a note attesting to a symptom of your neurodivergence (rather than naming the condition itself) and stating the need to be accommmodation"

neurodivergency, language "please stop saying [...] neurodivergent people didnt consent to be your metaphor for evil"

mental health, socialization, suicide "how to make someone who's suicidal feel loved" [everyone is welcome to leave their "personally, this helps/helped me a lot"s in the comments]

society, "being a girl and hitting puberty is so traumatic"

trauma, socialization "just so we're clear, it is okay to miss people you no longer want in your life"

lgtb, socialization "hi hellow fellow queer ppl lets fucking stop with this "cracking eggs" thing? with potential trans ppl? [...] build a nest"

self compassion, growth, healing "sometimes i wake up & have to remind myself: "there is nothing wrong with me. i have patterns to unlearn, new behaviors to embody & wounds to heal. but there is nothing wrong with the core of me & who i am. i am unlearning generations of harm and remembering love. it takes time." "

art "its so important to me that artists remember they can fuck around"

neurodivergency, labels, autism "its not aspergers, its autism" [reminder that this is to educate people, not to be weaponized against those who dont know. dont vilify everyone you hear saying asperger]

trauma, parenting, abuse "abusers be like "i dont remember that happening" no shit, sherlock! for me it was a formative memory that forever changed the way my brain processes information and for you it was a FUCKING TUESDAY"

growth, healing, [probably some other tags] "when people talk about traveling to the past, they worry about radically changing the present by doing something small, but barely anyone in the present really thinks that they can radically change the future by doing something small"

relationships, abuse, boundaries "are you ok? do you want to stop?"

insomnia, rest, anxiety "thank god for the mythbusters though because it used to be that whenever i knew i had insomnia i'd just kind of accept it and stay up doing whatever until my morning classes and spend the day feeling like shit but then they did an episode where they established that even just fucking lying there for a half hour, not even sleeping just laying there and not even for an hour, makes a significant difference and you'll feel way better"

socialization, relationships, trauma, abuse "when teenage girls have crushes on you its your job as an adult male to ignore it [...] this is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. if you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, its your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away"

self compassion, body, society, chronic illness, invisible problems "the body positivity movement needs to start moving hard into including disabled bodies and this is what i mean by that [...] unhealthy bodies deserve to be appreciated too [...] your body is what allows you to exist, [...] your body is what your loved ones see when they look at you and the love they feel for it as an extension of you makes it a good body"

extra post for the usa residents healthcare, legal advice "medical hack so, your doctor ordered a test or treatment and your insurance company denied it. that is a typical cost saving method. ok, here is what you do:"

self compassion "do yourself a favour: start a folder on your desktop - mine is called "you're doing a great job" - & when you get positive feedback, a compliment, etc, screenshot it & put it in there"

self compassion, body "your body is not a temple. temples can be destroyed and desecrated. your body is a forest [...] you will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated"