Basic Fucking Kindness

socialization, relationships "i personally wanna see less 'you are not a burden/its not work to love you' and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you' [...] pretending love isnt work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people dont feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we're doing for them"

self compassion, body "repeat after me: [...] sometimes you gotta take care of yourself the way you care for a grumpy pet 'yeah yeah meow hiss we're still going to the vet' "

unscheduled reminder that a poly relationship does not equal an open relationship. polyamory is about being able to love more than one person at a time, not about always being open to the possibility of having more partners if you feel like there are enough people in your relationship already, and feel like bringing more would become more than you could manage, unpleasant in some way, "too complicated to really have a good time" you are allowed to think and say so. a big part of every relationship is setting and respecting boundaries, not only others' but your own too

adhd "why cant i do this simple task!? this should be easy!"

self compassion, trauma, socialization "you hate yourself so loudly. [...] sorry, sorry, sorry. you act as if you have to beat everyone else to the punch. as if the punching bag is you. if you hate yourself first, if you hate yourself loudest, then nobody will hurt you [...] and it meant you never heard their love"

socialization, emotions, trauma, parenting "anger and mistakes "getting angry at people for making mistakes doesnt teach them not to make mistakes. it teaches them to hide their mistakes." "

self compassion, healing, growth "transitioning from knowing better to consistently doing better is a journey in itself"

growth, healing "you are not a machine your "best" will look different each day (and thats totally okay!)"

society, hobbies "success story [...] what do you do?"

activism, society, discrimination "honestly, whats the point of doing anything. humans are a virus to planet earth"

self compassion, mental health "how to NOT kill yourself pt 1 avoid being around people who make you want to kill yourself"

self compassion, socialization, boundaries "empathy without boundaries is self destruction"

discrimination, minorities, society " "how can you not be angry?" "i am angry", the werewolf said. "but unlike you, i dont have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. without someone taking it as a sing of proof that i need to be put down like a rabid dog, that im just like what the stories tell you" "

discrimination, minorities, socialization "i say this in my classes: the problem isnt men, its patriarchy. the problem isnt white people, its white supremacy. the problems isnt straight people, its homophobia. recognize systems of oppression before letting individual defensiveness paralyze you from dismantling them"

self compassion, socialization "the people in your age group who did not experience life altering trauma absolutely had an advantage over you, your brain was focused on survival and they were free to grow up and develop"

healing, growth, trauma "what the fuck brain!? i thought getting better meant i would stop feeling miserable but it actually means learning to deal with the feeling?"

body "i dont know who needs to hear this but, when you're using your phone, stop using your pinky as an anchor. its destroying your wrist and aggravating your ulnar nerve"

parenting, trauma "in 20 years you wont remember the time your kid(s) didnt finish their dinner. but they'll remember how you freaked out and yelled about it"

activism "irregular reminder: never use your fingers to remove fascist stickers"

activism "if you would report an undocumented immigrant to ICE you would have reported me to the nazis and i dont fucking trust you [...] civil version of work-to-rule strike. dont do more than is expressly asked of you, and do what you are asked with such an intense attention to protocol than not asking you at all becomes more productive than even bothering" ["ICE" is the name of the racist gubernamental organization in charge of "dealing" with immigrants in the united states]