Basic Fucking Kindness

self compassion, socialization, boundaries "someone said that self care is also choosing not to argue with people who are commited to misunderstanding you"

socialization "not sure if this will make sense to anyone besides me but: the antidote to negativity is not positivity, its warmth positivity tells a sad person that there is no reason to be sad, warmth asks the sad person if they want to go get some ice cream"

socialization "use things, not people. love people, not things."

self compassion, mental health "the hard truths about self-care"

anxiety, socialization "as an introvert, the best thing is finding someone who isnt draining to spend time with its interesting trying to explain to people who dont experience social exhaustion that there are some people who are less draining than others [...]. all socializing is not equal"

self compassion, growth, healing "a tree doesnt grow any faster when you sit there and criticize it. neither do you."

medical "hrt announcement you need to aspirate before injecting [...] filling the syringe with medicine"

parenting "y'all refuse to be a safe heaven for children on some "the real world wont coddle them" bullshit."

activism "i was at whole foods yesterday"

feminism "just cant vibe with the kind of feminism that implies or states outright that the reason men mistreat women is because of some insurmountable biological difference rather than social phenomena. you're not explaining or saying anything interesting about misogyny you're just naturalizing it"

self compassion, labels " "its just a phase" the moon has phases but is still literally always the moon. just because the moon's doing something different today doesnt mean it was lying about being the moon yesterday"

mental health, cognitive defusion "i was just about to spiral into a bad panic attack, and my boyfriend goes "stick an ice cube in your mouth" "

self compassion, rest "capitalism is like. resting is a waste of time. eating is a waste of time. sleeping is a waste of time."

socialization, mental health, labels "it is past time we jettisoned the useless false dichotomy of introversion vs extroversion"

body "dont forget to drink water and get sun. you're basically a houseplant with complicated emotions"

socialization, self compassion "animals learn their most vital skill fast hours old foal can run, a newly hatched snake can bite what do babies do? babies cry your most important survival skill is asking for help"

art "to whomever needs to hear this: your art matters. please dont stop creating."

lgtb "thinking about how the narrative around medical transition is all body hate, when in fact reworking my body has been a supreme act of love"

socialization, adhd "neurotypicals will be like"

socialization "your shitty childhood isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty luck with relationships isnt an excuse to be a shitty person. your shitty experiences arent an excuse to be a shitty person. we ALL have our shit, and you can either let it define you, or you grow from it"