Andy Frisella

Don’t Resist Change Do not fear change. Change is a necessary element to becoming the person you're meant to become. ...and no matter how hard you fight it... Change is unavoidable. Your relationships will change. Your goals will change. Your plans will change. Your friends will change. Your values will change. Your schedule will change. You will change. Instead of spending all of your time, effort, and energy attempting to resist it... Learn to embrace change. Be grateful for the experiences you're leaving behind and get excited for the new experiences in front of you. Life is about moving forward ... not staying still. ...and without change... There can be no progress. Don't hold yourself back from building the life you dream about by running from change. You'll never forgive yourself. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

What Do You Think? The less you give a fuck about what people think... The happier you will be. Don't build your value in what others think of you. Build it in what you think of you. Operate on that standard. Tell yourself the truth. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and move the fuck on. Take the lessons and do better. What people think of it is irrelevant. 99% of people don't even try. You are in the game. Fuck what they think. What do you think? That's what matters. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Don't Be One of Them They want you to get tired and lose interest. They want you to go back to sleep. They want you to give up on your dreams. They want you fat. They want you poor. They want you sick. They want you angry at your fellow citizen. They want you to quietly float along blindly consuming. They want you as a lifetime mega-customer for their systems. They let you have just enough of the crumbs to make you think it’s freedom. It's not. It never has been. You just never realized it. That's the truth. Why? Because at times like these... People get tired and lose interest. They go back to sleep. Don't be one of them. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Base Hits Win the Ballgame Winning in business and life is the result of small daily wins. It's the compounding effect from stacking these wins over and over again that will ultimately help you win long-term. Most people think it's the opposite. Instead of pouring their focus and efforts into stacking the small wins repeatedly... They spend all of their time looking for the home run or the one massive hit that's going to fast-track their progress or somehow guarantee success and smooth sailing for life. This is flawed thinking. ...and the longer you pursue this strategy... The longer you'll keep yourself from making progress. Hitting a home run may get you some traction in the short-term... But if you're always looking to hit your next home run... 1. It's highly unlikely you will ever get one. 2. Even if you do, you won't have any formula or strategy for replicating that win in the future. Do you know how most baseball games are won? They're won by stringing together base hits and running up the score as much as possible. These base hits are your daily wins. They're the days you show up and execute your tasks at a high level. They're the days you hold a high standard for yourself and the people around you. They're the days you attack with the proper urgency and intent. They're the days you keep moving when you'd rather fucking quit. When you pour your effort and energy into stringing together as many of these small wins as possible... You’ll win the game. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Stop Treating Relationships Like a One-Way Street If you truly want meaningful, lifelong relationships with others... You have to stop focusing on what the other person can do for you... ...and start focusing on what you can do for them. Real genuine intent and care is not showcased through your words... It's showcased through your actions. So ask yourself... Are you putting in the effort? Are you treating people the way you'd like to be treated? Are you showing up for others in their time of need? Are you staying true to your word? If you aren't... How could you possibly expect to build strong connections with others? Stop treating relationships like a one-way street. When you go above and beyond to serve others with 0 expectation of a return... You'll have no problem building amazing relationships. That's a fact. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Your Story Matters You were meant for great things. No matter how hard the path is now. No matter how hard the journey is now. No matter how much you are struggling. Push through. One day at a time... One win at a time. Never lose sight that you are here for a very important reason. You are here to show the people around you what it looks like to persevere and overcome. The path you are on matters. Your story matters. You matter. You know what needs to be done. Do it. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

It Takes a Lot More Than You Think What you think it takes vs what it actually takes are two very different things. When these two things are not aligned... Nothing will happen and you will be incredibly frustrated. When you get them aligned... Things start happening fast. It's not magic. It's just the way it is. If you're wondering what it's actually going to take... It's likely more than you think. A lot more. Make sure you align yourself on this. Failure to do so will deliver you a result that's far less than the one you want. Don't let that be the case. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

The World Needs More Real Leaders The title of "Leader" is not given... It's earned. ...and it's earned by serving the people you lead through your actions and example. Most people think otherwise. They think that being a leader is being "in charge" and telling people what to do. They think that having “a title” makes you a leader. They think that they have to wait to lead until someone tells them they are a leader. ...But this, among many other reasons, is why most people are shitty leaders. Leadership is organic. It’s not a title. It’s not a position. It’s not a “right.” It’s earned through action. Being a great leader is no different than being the tip of a spear... It's the dirtiest, bloodiest, and most damaged. Which means if you want to establish yourself as a leader... You have to go first. You have to hold yourself and THEN your team to a high standard. You have to drop your ego and be willing to admit when you fuck up. You have to audit your actions and intent. You have to put the mission first over everything … even yourself. You have to make plenty of difficult decisions that not everyone is going to agree with. You have to seek discomfort and train your team to do the same. ...and you have to do these things consistently with 0 compromise. Only then can you earn the ability to be seen as a leader amongst your team. Yes ... being a great leader is hard as fuck. ...But it's also required for the success of the team and the mission. The world needs more real leaders. You are supposed to be one of them… …or you wouldn’t be reading this. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Learn to Be Present Learning to be present is one of the most underrated skills you can develop in life. It also happens to be an extremely practical skill when it comes to your success. Without it ... you will severely limit your potential in life. Allowing your mind to wander aimlessly and going through the motions produces a poor result. Being present and putting the proper intent and focus into the task at hand produces a far greater result. It doesn't matter if you're having a conversation... Knocking out a task at work... Pushing yourself in a workout... Reading a book... ...or really doing anything else. If you aren't fully immersed in the moment and focused on whatever it is that's directly in front of you... You are passing up on the opportunity to produce the best possible outcome. Be present. Not only will it produce a far better result... But it will also make the task at hand a lot more fun. Sounds like a no-brainer to me. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

These Moments Will Define You The times you want to quit the most are the most important moments in your journey. What you decide to do in these moments will define you. That's why it's important to become mentally hardened... It will determine what you do in those moments. The more of these tests you can pass... The more control you'll have over your desired outcome. Becoming mentally tough and disciplined is the best gift you can give yourself. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Exercising Forgiveness Will Set You Free One of the greatest ways to improve the quality of your life immediately is by learning to forgive others for their mistakes. Holding a grudge and bottling your frustrations over what somebody else did to you is a waste of your energy. It's self-inflicted pain and suffering that will only keep you from going out to build a better life for yourself. Forgive and move on. Spare yourself the energy. Spare yourself the pain. Spare yourself the frustration. Spare yourself the despair. Every single one of us makes mistakes. That includes you. ...and if you want to be forgiven for the mistakes you make... You have to start forgiving others for the mistakes they make. Quit holding onto something you can't change and keep moving. Exercising forgiveness will set you free. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Are You Proud of Yourself? It's nearly impossible to feel bad about yourself when you are doing everything you know you're supposed to be doing... ...and doing it to the absolute best of your ability. On the flip side... It's impossible to feel good about yourself when you know deep down in your soul that you are leaving everything on the table and wasting your life. Get off your ass and build yourself into someone you are proud of. You'll feel better. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Align Your Decisions With the Mission Winners make decisions based on what will produce the best possible results. Losers make decisions based on what will satisfy their ego and personal interests. Which means if you truly want to win long-term... You have to learn to swallow your pride and focus on the overall success of the mission. At times... You're going to feel stupid. You're going to feel uncomfortable. You're going to second guess yourself. You're going to question whether or not you made the right decision. Expect it. Oftentimes the best decisions are also the hardest ones to make. That's the truth. ...But as long as you're operating with the bigger picture in mind... You'll always know you made the right choice. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Don't Believe Comfort's Lies Never buy the lies that comfort tries to sell you. You aren't that good. Neither am I. But as soon as you get a few wins under your belt... It can be very easy to fall into the trap of thinking you are. Don't buy it. If you plan on continuing to win... You have a lot more work to do. You always will. Don't allow comfort to convince you to veer off course in even the slightest degree. It will destroy your entire life if you allow it to creep in. Keep your foot on the gas and always remember... Comfort now leads to massive discomfort down the road. It’ll only be a matter of time. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Comparison is a Tool Comparison is a tool... ...and if you use it correctly... It can help you make significant progress in life. Most people will tell you "comparison is the thief of joy." While this can be true... It only will be if you allow comparison to make you frustrated and bitter. The key to comparison is developing a realistic understanding of where the people you compare yourself to are on their journey vs where you are on yours. It's easy to look at someone who is much further down the road than us and get upset. But when you actually audit yourself against these people... Can you honestly say you've put in the same time, effort, and energy that they have? Consider the skills... The habits... The mindset... ...and all the other qualities these people have developed to get them wherever it is they are now... Then use this information to guide your own progress and personal growth. Learn to use comparison to your advantage. If you truly want to win and make something of yourself and your life... It's required. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Shift Your Internal Dialogue The wrong internal dialogue can make your life a lot harder than it needs to be. All of us have days where we don't want to show up. Show up anyway. It's not the tasks themselves that cause the suffering... It's the anticipation of the tasks. So instead of thinking of your daily tasks as things you "have to do"... Start thinking of them as things you get to do. Because the truth is... The opportunity you have is a blessing. Be grateful for it. Train yourself to look at all areas of your life through this lens... ...and things will change for you FAST. That's the truth. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Don’t Let This Opportunity Go to Waste You may not realize it... But we have a historic opportunity in front of us to change things and make a real long-lasting impact. Not many people in history get that chance. Our thoughts... Our ideas... Our words... Our actions... Our lives as an example... All of these things have the potential to legitimately curve history. Very few get that chance. Most people will not matter... That's just the truth. But every single one of us has the chance to make a massive impact. Think about that when you think about your purpose. Make it bigger than yourself. Make it bigger than all of us. Your opportunity to make a difference is right now. Don't waste it. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

Be Willing to Go Alone Never be afraid to go alone. It's a necessary component to building yourself and your life into something of true greatness. ...and when you first set out to become the best version of yourself... It's the only option you have. You'll work alone. You'll sweat alone. You'll suffer alone. You'll build skills alone. You'll spend mornings, nights, and weekends alone. Expect it. Only when you go out and make significant progress will you begin to attract other like-minded people to build with. These are the relationships that will actually help propel you toward your destination instead of keeping you from it. So while you may be alone in the beginning of your journey... As your actions and results start to speak for themselves... The right poeple will take notice... Be inspired... ...and accompany you on the journey. But this can only be possible if you're willing to go alone first. Get moving. Even if you're alone now... You won't be for long. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

There is No Easy Path Hard things are hard. Winning is hard. Being fit is hard. Being your best self is hard. So are the alternatives. The "easy" things will ultimately reveal themselves to be hard too... It just takes about 20 years. Regardless... When it comes to achievement... It's weird to me how many people feel entitled to an "above average" existence and expect it to be easy. The higher the target you set for yourself... The harder the path is going to be. So if you have big goals and big dreams... You would do yourself a favor by understanding this concept right now. Know that it's going to be hard. Know that it's going to be progressively harder the higher and further you want to go. ...and instead of being surprised when the extremely hard path actually gets extremely hard... Be ready. Expect it. Prepare yourself. Build yourself into someone who is equipped to keep moving forward. That's a far better strategy than expecting it to be easy and having a fucking life crisis every time shit gets hard. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella

What’s the Story Being Told About You? Despite what you may think or what you may have been told… What people think about you matters and will be reflected in every area of your life. Your relationships... Your opportunities... The money you make... The impact you have... They will all be influenced by the story that's told about you when you're not around. So unless you're at the top of the food chain of success... I recommend you start controlling this story by being a living, breathing example of the story you'd like to be told. It's really that simple. Leave a great impression of the person you are by making the people around you feel good. Go above and beyond to give more than you receive. Serve others without expecting anything in return. Because what people think about you will either make your life very fun... Or very miserable. What's the story being told about you? If it's not good... It's never too late to change it. #AndyGram @AndyFrisella