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A lot of parents and teachers might mistakenly translate the idea of empathy into ‘pampering children’ or ‘sparing the rod’ which inevitably leads to ‘spoiling the child’. This is what ignorance does to people.  Empathy is about seeking to understand and relate with the child as if we are the child. Empathy is about treating the child the way we like (and spend much of our lives clamoring) to be treated.  Empathy is about seeking to understand what motivates the actions of the child, by asking, by listening without judging, by correcting because children need to be corrected, and not because we are angry or embarrassed. We often find parents and teachers who describe themselves as “no-nonsense” continuously overlook a particular mistake for a child because it doesn't affect them. Then one day, the child makes this same mistake around people, and this parent is embarrassed and he beats daylight out of the child because he is a “no-nonsense” parent. This is the height of parenting and teaching that is devoid of empathy, where actions are motivated by the feelings of the teacher and the parent and nothing else. These parents and teachers are teaching children that their actions are wrong because “it makes Mummy feel angry.” Empathy is genuinely seeking to understand, and showing that we understand what they experience. It is to put our feelings aside, and to see through the eyes of the child.  In all of this, it is important to remember also that to teach empathy, we have to teach with empathy. ©Naas Educators

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Regardless of your child’s unique challenges, if you want to parent well, you have to work on yourself, too. A child doesn’t cause the anger or anxiety that hooks us into power struggles; that comes from our own fear and doubt. Our own childhood experiences, our own early traumas—major and minor—are part of who we are. What’s more, they’re the part of us that takes charge whenever we’re upset; so when you’re angry or frightened, you know that’s almost always an early bad experience driving your reactions. Children have a way of triggering those unhappy feelings from our own childhoods, so the only way we can be peaceful parents is to mindfully prevent old feelings from causing new problems. ©Naas Educators

What matters most: Stay connected and never withdraw your love, even for a moment. The deepest reason kids cooperate is that they love you and want to please you. Above all, safeguard your relationship with your child. That’s your only leverage to have any influence on your child. It’s what your child needs most. And that closeness is what makes all the sacrifices of parenting worth it. *Laura Markham, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.*

The process of winning your child's heart is stressful and long, but the price you will pay for not doing it now will make you regret later on. For many parents, when their daughters become teenagers, the parents have to behave like thieves, sneaking in on their daughters at night to read their chats. The daughters just wouldn't open up to them. Parents who invest early in winning their children's hearts would be reaping the joy by then: their daughters are eager to tell them everything, eager to ask for their guidance, eager to be around them, and very eager to please them. Do the work when they are young: chat with them, read to them, tell them stories, listen to them, have fun together. Win your child before it's too late. ©Naas Educators

Question: How can I start correcting my baby, she beats people and throws things at her siblings. What is the best way to correct her in a loving way? Answer: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4786 Question: What can I do about a student that fears me greatly? He is honestly very very afraid of me and I don't know what I did to him to warrant such fear. I beat him sometimes, however its the same way I beat other students yet he's the only one that is so afraid. He cannot even concentrate in class anymore. If I call upon him to answer a question, he starts to shake and hyperventilate. It's starting to scare me. Please what can I do to reduce this fear? Answer : https://t.me/c/1598904984/4787 Question: One of my students get a haraam haircut and I've talked to him and his parents and even beaten him over it but they do not listen, what can I do to make them stop? Answer: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4788 Question : How do I stop my 3 year old girl from throwing tantrums? Answer: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4789 Question :  My 13 year old finds it hard to do well in his academics Answer: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4790 Question: I have a 9 yr old son that gets very angry, I have talked to him and scolded him and punished him but nothing is working, please what can I do to control his anger? Answer: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4791 ©Naas Educators

Assalaamu'alaykum ! Jazaakumullahu khayraa for all your questions. We received all of them and have answered some alhamdulillah. *The rest would be sent soon bi idhnillah.* To get the answers, please join the telegram group here first, if you do not join, you would not be able to access them. https://t.me/+WG_laoh_zGRmNjlk If you're unable to join through the link above, then click on this link while stating that you're messaging to be added to the telegram group. t.me/2348100617144 Baarakallaahu feekum.

Here are the questions and their answers. Q: What tips would you give make a 13 Yr old girl confide in her mum? A: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4777 https://t.me/c/1598904984/4778 Q: What can I do to help my child that forgets quickly ? A: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4779 Q: How can a 2 yr old child be stopped from begging?  A: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4780 Q: What can I do about a child that dares me and doesn't mind facing the consequences of his actions? A: https://t.me/c/1598904984/4781 Baarakallaahu feekum.

Assalaamu'alaykum ! Jazaakumullahu khayraa for all your questions. We received all of them and have answered some alhamdulillah. *The rest would be sent soon bi idhnillah.* To get the answers, please join the telegram group here first, if you do not join, you would not be able to access them. https://t.me/+WG_laoh_zGRmNjlk If you're unable to join through the link above, then click on this link while stating that you're messaging to be added to the telegram group. t.me/2348100617144 Baarakallaahu feekum.

Read Till The End! Assalaamu'alaykum! Every fortnight Thursday which is today has been exclusively dedicated to addressing questions from parents, so kindly send in your questions. Kindly note that questions posted on any other day of the week will not receive official responses. Also, note that questions posted on the group should not be answered by members of the group. Insha Allah, we will diligently address all questions submitted today only, and the answers will be revealed on Sunday, insha Allah. Please note that the form would be closed once the questions are much. *Once it is closed, it shall not be opened till next two weeks Thursday bi idhnillah.* So please, hasten to ask your questions. To participate, *click on the the following link:* https://tinyurl.com/2xn8zmsa *Do not ask questions on the group, please use the link above as all group questions would be disregarded.* Jazaakumullahu khayraa for your understanding. We look forward to your questions! Baarakallaahu feekum.

Invest Your Time Meaningfully, Dear Parent! Some days ago, someone asked me, "how do I teach my little child tawheed?" So, I answered. You do not "teach" a very little child tawheed. It is the mistake many parents and schools make: they mistakenly attempt to "teach" tawheed directly. Teaching anything to very young children is generally more effective through storytelling rather than direct instruction. For instance, rather than simply saying to your child, "Allah loves when you are kind to your parents," narrate the story of the three men stuck in a cave, as told by the Prophet. Describe how, in their time of need, they realized the significance of calling upon Allah with their best deeds, and how one of the men invoked Allah with the tremendous act of kindness he showed to his parents. These stories create a more lasting impression compared to straightforward instructions. There is a story for almost anything you want to teach your child, but a lot of parents are not familiar with books of tafsiir and hadith. Invest your time studying those books and stop wasting time on social media. Parenting is a full-time job! ©Naas Educators

Do Not Be a Visiting Parent Dr Gabor Mate once said: "mothers form a better bond with children because they're more present. The fathers go to work throughout the day and only VISIT the kids at night." Now what about families where both parents are visitors? In the absence of a parent to be attached to, a child will fill the void with his peer group. They become more attached to their peers than is healthy for them, and they will be very easily influenced. Unfortunately, being at home with your kids is not enough to make them attached to you. You can be home all day and still be a visiting parent if you do not spend quality time with your children. ©️Naas Educators

Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullah. The third day of our workshop continues today by 5pm insha Allah. Our focus will be on alternative methods to: 1. Make children co-operate 2. Make children respect you 3. Make children disciplined all of this, without beating. Please share this with other parents.

https://t.me/c/1598904984/4311 This is the recording of yesterday's session. We have chosen to send it because most parents were unaware that the recording would be unavailable, so they missed the session, and we would not like anyone to miss out on the benefit. Please note: recordings of the coming sessions will not be sent to the group, so strive to be present.

As salaamu alaykum warahmatullah. We received an overwhelming amount of messages from parents asking for a replay of yesterday's episode. In response to this, we have to explain some things. Naas educators are totally run by volunteer teachers, parents, and homeschoolers; you will realize these are some of the busiest commitments one can have. Due to the busyness of the volunteers, we have been unable to provide consistent support for parents the way we wish to. We have several beneficial courses, children books, meetups, that we have planned, but have not been able to execute because everyone is busy. In order to solve this problem and compensate some of our volunteers for their time so that they can even provide us with more help and support, we decided to create some courses to be sold. This current workshop is a part of a more comprehensive course we are preparing on disciplining children, and the course is to be sold. However, because we understand that a whole lot of parents who really need to understand this concept of discipline might not be able to afford the course, and our number 1 goal is to help parents, we decided to do the workshop FOR FREE to benefit them. That is why we are not going to be sending the recordings. So, we can be certain that everything will be available in the course when it is out, and insha Allah, we will be cognizant of our financial situation and ensure it is not too costly. But whover is scared they may not be able to afford the course should strive to attend the live sessions now. Jazaakumullahu khayran!