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01 Keep a diary
By the way, the practice of keeping diaries was already known in ancient Japan in the 10th century when court ladies kept their records of life and love in "sleep books".
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So how does a diary work❓
It's a great if not the best tool for REFLECTION - getting to know yourself, your feelings and emotions. It's the best way to safely EXPRESS yourself, that case when pen and paper are your best friends. Paper will accept everything. Your anger, your sorrow, your love and your craziest ideas. | 213 | 3 | Loading... |
02 How to train your brain to focus on POSITIVE
We all tend to register negativity.
This is called negative bias - an adaptive feature of the human psyche, which was especially necessary for survival. However, now this task is no longer urgent and negative bias just HURTS us.
But you probably know that our brain is EXTREMELY malleable. This means that we can "reconfigure" these ancient settings quite successfully☝🏻
For this purpose we need to do the following.
1️⃣Recognize negative bias and note that moment when you start feeling fear and anxiety.
2️⃣Switch to pleasant memories as if you're shifting your mood.
3️⃣And now stay in that mood and try not to go back into your anxieties. | 752 | 7 | Loading... |
03 To be alone with yourself
Why it can be helpful❓
Exceptionally alone with yourself, you can really sort out your thoughts, slow down, take a rest, immerse yourself and hear your emotions.
There are many more opportunities to feel your own uniqueness when you are one-on-one with yourself.
When we are alone, we hear our BODY MUCH better.
We feel our reactions, listen to our emotions and THIS allows us to find our source of power, to take control of ourselves and overcome crises and difficult times ✅ | 910 | 6 | Loading... |
04 How to stop wasting your life on vain expectations?
We all tend to live in expectation of love and acceptance. But one of the stages of growing up is accepting the fact that it is stupid to waste your life seeking approval, understanding and warmth.
When you improve your identity, find the strength to know yourself, discover and understand your desires and accept your peculiarities you become YOU - unique and real. | 1 100 | 6 | Loading... |
05 Do you want to change something in your life, but there is no support from your loved ones?
Is it worth wasting time and energy constantly seeking approval for your actions and decisions?
If this is YOUR dream and the decision is measured a hundred times and weighed two hundred times, WHY do you need the approval of others? After all your life belongs only to you and only you are responsible for your decisions.
Not only have you found no support, but you also face angry hissing and unreasonable criticism❓
Stop, listen.
Don't protest, don't make excuses. Use this negative attitude as an extra incentive to move forward.
The main thing is to believe in your strength❗️ | 1 151 | 4 | Loading... |
06 What are personal boundaries?
It is our inherent temperament, well-being, mood, established attitudes, beliefs, values. Our choices, decisions, desires and needs. Our self-esteem, virtues, talents, abilities. Our feelings, feelings, thoughts, thoughts, dreams.
What does it mean to guard those boundaries?
If you are forced to act in a way that is uncharacteristic of you, disagree and point it out. For example, if an introvert is offered a rest in a noisy company, not only will he not rest, but he will overstrain himself and will not be ready for further work.
And what does it mean to violate the boundaries of the other? For example, to require a hyperactive child to sit still for forty minutes. Or rushing a slow child, and even punishing him for his sluggishness | 1 314 | 6 | Loading... |
07 What to do if you're full of it?
If you restrain yourself, you will accumulate emotions, sooner or later you will explode. If a person for a long time accumulates a small irritation, creating gradually, but steadily internal tension - sooner or later, at the slightest puncture, because of a trifle and nothing, discontent explodes with the force of a snow avalanche.
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Like other emotions, discontent cannot be accumulated, it must be expressed, but do it competently. | 1 289 | 3 | Loading... |
08 Practice for relieving tension
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Facial exercise:
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- mask of surprise: raise your eyebrows high;
- anger mask: furrow your eyebrows;
- kiss mask: close your lips as if to kiss;
- mask of laughter: a "Pinocchio" smile;
- discontent mask: press your lips together, press your chin and lower the corners of your mouth; squeeze hard and open your eyes; tense and relax your nose.
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Now sit for a few minutes, enjoy the peace. When you feel like you are slowly floating, you are completely relaxed. | 1 389 | 6 | Loading... |
09 7 ways to cope with the stress of a change of residence
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Moving is one of the strongest stress factors. And if it is a move to another country, it is doubly stressful.
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Here are some tips to help you cope with stress:
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✔️ Start learning the language of the country you live in.
✔️ Learn the culture and customs of that country.
✔️ Keep in touch (call) with friends and family (Skype, WhatsApp, Viber, etc.). Distance is no longer an issue.
✔️ Make new acquaintances, socialize, meet.
✔️ Take up or continue exercising. This will help increase your stress tolerance.
✔️ Take up something you've wanted to do for a long time (a hobby): fencing, yachting courses, etc.
✔️ Watch your daily routine (sleep at least 8-9 hours), eat right, go for a walk in the fresh air. All this will also help you overcome the stress associated with a change of residence. | 1 563 | 5 | Loading... |
10 How we do NOT get each other
For example:
A good driver is:
▫️ Cautious, not sure don't overtake
▫️ Racer, cool and fast
▫️ Calm and follow every single rule
So is a good one, two or three?
Hence all the misunderstandings between people. Speakers of different languages understand each other better, because they clarify, am I right to understand that you mean this and that? | 1 573 | 1 | Loading... |
11 What is it about the filter that keeps the shit out of your life?
▫️ That’s respect for yourself.
▫️ The value of your own life.
▫️ Knowing your limits.
▫️ Awareness and acceptance of your feelings and emotions
And, of course, taking responsibility for how you live your life. | 1 631 | 4 | Loading... |
12 What to do about laziness?
First of all, determine what kind of laziness you have at the moment. Then start taking action.
In case of physiological laziness:
- get enough sleep
- revise your plan for the day / week / month
- give yourself permission to be healthy and lazy
- do things that energize you
In protest laziness:
- drop everything, say "no"
- change your attitude
- find something that will motivate you to do the task
- think of something to reward yourself with
Process laziness:
- find an expert
- use reverse planning
- divide the task into subtasks, and those, in their turn, into even smaller tasks.
In creative laziness:
- look for what inspires you (a person, a book, a walk, a trip)
- read the post about "creative laziness" (wrote earlier)
Lazy for company:
- think about what's keeping you here
- run away from such company.
In prolonged laziness:
- if you notice such a sin with you, I recommend planning and clearly tracking your lazy time. Yes, yes .... Just set an alarm, set a reminder. | 1 774 | 8 | Loading... |
13 What is laziness? A lifestyle? Lack of motivation? A state of mind?
There are several types of laziness:
1) Physiological laziness
- chronic lack of sleep
- malaise
- busy schedule
- other reasons
2) Protest laziness
- don't like the project that I have to work on
- don't like the subject of the term paper or thesis
3) Process laziness
- don't know where to start
- don't know what to do
4) Creative laziness
- lack of inspiration
- depression, melancholy
5) Laziness for company
- the people around you are not doing anything 🤪
6) Lingering laziness.
- thought you were going to lay around for an hour, but, in the end, laziness has taken over you for days | 1 664 | 15 | Loading... |
14 Taking responsibility for your life
Some people are used to blaming everyone and everything for their problems. When confronted with this or that problem, they often try to find an object to blame, thereby choosing the role of the victim. This may be a temporary relief, but it also keeps them tied to their problems.
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Accusations breed cynicism and hopelessness. If we start to believe that we are victims of circumstances and give up, we lose hope and persistence, we resign ourselves to our fate and stop evolving.
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Not everyone is prepared to accept responsibility for what is going on in their life and to take the initiative needed to deal with their problems.
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It's important to realize that you are the creator of your own life! | 1 605 | 6 | Loading... |
15 About being happy
Why is it that one person, after going to the theater or visiting a place, tells his acquaintances how wonderful, unforgettable it was, how he had a great time?
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And another person, having been to the same show, having gone to the same place, says that it was nothing special. Or that he did not like this or that, and it was not the way he had imagined, or the way it was presented to him.
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It's also a skill to notice the beautiful things around you, to focus on the positive things. It's a skill that can be developed.
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Setting goals, enjoying the process and achieving those goals - that's a skill you can learn, too!
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You can also learn to overcome difficulties in life, to perceive them not as problems, but as points of growth. | 1 791 | 7 | Loading... |
16 What helps us develop?
I’m the main partner, the main friend, the main support and pillar for myself. Things can change, but I stay with myself forever.
That’s my central value around which I align all other areas of life.
If there is a "do or don't?" question, I ask, "Do I want this? How will it affect me? Is it to my detriment or for my benefit?"
This helps me make choices in the most difficult situations. I don't have the agony of a torturous choice, and it makes me feel relaxed. Do you do this? Do you feel better afterwards? | 1 733 | 6 | Loading... |
17 The World Cares About You
If you were excited about this thesis, I'm going to disappoint you – the truth is that the world literally doesn't care about us. Of course, your friends and family may care about you and do you good. And there may be people in general who are willing to lend you a helping hand. But no more than that.
The world can be a cold, harsh and unfair place. But are you here to whine? If you don't make an effort to make the world within your sphere of influence better, it won't get better on its own, either.
The sooner you realize that the world owes you nothing, the sooner you can start taking action and getting what you want. This is what the world really owes you and allows you to do. | 1 835 | 6 | Loading... |
18 To live in harmony
In harmony with yourself, with your loved ones, with the world.
Who doesn't want that?
Harmonization happens at the moment when a person:
▫️ clarifies his true values;
▫️ realizes their innate potential;
▫️ creates his or her own life principles, which he or she embodies in action.
This makes one "alive," manifest, energetic, active, easy-going, and at the same time strong and committed to one's goals. Never neglect time "for yourself."
A genius sleeps in all of us. And it's getting stronger every day. | 1 768 | 5 | Loading... |
19 RESET DAY is a cool and easy way to be more productive
When I start to feel like a haggard, angry, green animal...
Or not green, but definitely haggard😉
I make myself a RESET DAY.
What is it?
It's a day with no schedule, no planning, and no routine... No commitments.
No courses, studies, or "work" meetings.
A day where you just get high from the day itself.
Zeroing in, recovering.
Your intuition will tell you what to fill such a day with:
▫️ Meet with elderly relatives, look through family albums, gather the family around a big table for no reason, do something useful together.📔
▫️ Pay attention to relationships with near and dear people. Unexpectedly cancel all business and have a noisy meeting with friends or a date with a loved one. On weekdays, in the middle of the work day. Just like that. For yourself.
▫️ Dedicate a day to sports. Show initiative and build a team. Volleyball, wake, soccer, jogging. A boost of energy and enriching socializing without obligation is guaranteed. | 1 855 | 4 | Loading... |
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21 The Rule of Three Arguments
As annoying as it is, this is not my invention. But it's a tool I enjoy using. It's said to have been invented by Homer in the 8th century B.C.
So, I'll be consistent:
First, we use the strongest argument, then the middle argument, and finally, the LARGEST ARGUMENT.
Based on that, we don't use weak arguments at all.
Notice?
They do more harm than good❗️
Your opponent will gladly latch on to a weak argument and give it maximum attention and time. Do not rely on the quantity of arguments, bet on the QUALITY. | 1 835 | 4 | Loading... |
22 Do you trust your plans?
By the way, this is also an important point.
There is no more painful state, when the decision is made, the first steps are made, but somewhere deep down, a small black worm of doubt gnaws and gnaws at your inner content.
Growth is often challenging, but that's no reason to limit your opportunities for growth. Create your new comfort zone with small changes for the better.
Long-range goals are nice and appealing, but in a world of chaotic incremental change, they are vulnerable. But the next 2-3 days or a week is enough time to do something useful and promoting.
Risk is present in any business, but you should not spend more energy on assessing risks than on implementing what you want to do. It's impossible to foresee everything, but it's easy to waste energy on imaginary negative consequences.
Check yourself, which zone is the most developed and which is the most vulnerable? | 2 061 | 4 | Loading... |
23 We are fully responsible for our lives, not only for our actions, but also for our inability to act
Catch the practice for motivation. I hope it helps your desire come true!!!
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Do the assignment for one month:
▫️Write down your wish (goal), accurately and in as much detail as possible. It can be anything: I want to buy a new car, go on vacation to the Maldives, make repairs, find a new job, start a new project, etc.
▫️Choose the type of physical activity you will do daily - exercise, run, pool, fitness (rocking abs, squats, push-ups), etc. You can choose several options and alternate.
▫️Every day, after your workout (exercise), think through the details of your desire. And be sure to write down something new and important.
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If you suddenly missed one day, do not get upset, but start from the beginning. It's a must!!! | 2 111 | 9 | Loading... |
24 Alexithymia or I don't know how to explain how I feel
Tell me, do you ever have this? Something is pinching somewhere, clenching, whether it's from joy or from fright, I can't exactly determine...
People who have trouble identifying their emotional state are more prone to psychosomatic illnesses.
What can you do on your own?
Start keeping a diary of your feelings/emotions during the day (write down 3-5 times a day what emotions you are experiencing right now). First try to determine which emotion you are experiencing at the moment - positive or negative. Next, try to determine which of the 5 basic emotions it is closer to:
⁃ Joy
⁃ Sadness
⁃ Anger
⁃ Fear
⁃ Disgust
Emotions can be expressed with varying degrees of intensity and can mix with each other to form new emotions.
If you cannot identify more than 3-5 emotions in a moment, I recommend that you start keeping a feelings/emotions journal to better start identifying your inner emotional state. | 2 034 | 5 | Loading... |
25 Resentments, painful memories, anger, dissatisfaction - these are often obstacles to a happy and joyful sense of life
Negativity often interferes with the energy of life and contributes to gradual emotional exhaustion. After forgiveness, we begin to look and feel much better.
We begin to feel light and strong, energetic and thirsty for life. It is much easier to realize all the things we have dreamed of for years before, because now there are no barriers to action.
And better to start with yourself. Think about what you need to forgive yourself for. | 2 041 | 3 | Loading... |
26 Self-actualization is not only a process of self-improvement and self-knowledge
It is also the pursuit of inner potential, and this is the starting point in life. Recognizing your uniqueness is the first step to living the dream.
You can set millions of goals, load your day with dozens of tasks, solve problems, read books, take classes, but all of this will be useless if you are moving in the wrong direction, if the goals and objectives are not aligned with the kind of life you really want to live. | 1 957 | 11 | Loading... |
27 Manuel Smith's Rules of Assertive Behavior
- I have the right to express my feelings;
- I have the right to express my opinions and beliefs;
- I have the right to say "yes" or "no."
- I have the right to change my mind;
- I have the right to say, "I don't understand."
- I have the right to just be myself and not conform to other people;
- I have the right not to take responsibility for other people's problems;
- I have the right to ask something of others;
- I have the right to set my own priorities;
- I have the right to be listened to and taken seriously;
- I have the right to make mistakes and feel comfortable admitting them;
- I have the right to be illogical when making decisions;
- I have the right to say, "I don't care."
- I have the right to be unhappy or happy.
Assertiveness is a person's ability to boldly assert his or her rights and express his or her thoughts without violating the rights of others. | 2 137 | 25 | Loading... |
28 Life is about 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we relate to it.
Our attitude towards different life situations depends only on us. For some, the divorce from her husband will be the end of the world (how will I live now, what will my friends say, how will I pay the loan now, how will I raise the child alone, etc.), and for some it will be a point of growth.
We choose the role of winner or victim. | 2 046 | 13 | Loading... |
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30 Sometimes it's good to be lazy
I love laziness. Not the kind where a person is lazy, doesn't do shit, lying around punching holes on the couch.
But when he sits, contemplates the universe, and then bang! And produces an awesome result. It's fast, it's clear, it's efficient.
And he can't do it fast, clear, efficient if he doesn't have that faltering moment, when outwardly it looks like he's lazy and kicking the crap. And in fact, his brain is generating a mega-cool solution in the moment.
How long have you been contemplating the universe? | 2 210 | 11 | Loading... |
31 The Power of Silence as an Underestimated Tool
In the hustle and bustle of the city, we forget that silence is a powerful weapon that people usually forget to use. It can often say more than hundreds of words.
With silence you can quench the anger of the person you are talking to, surprise them, even make them smile. There is also a kind of silence - a pause.
Do an experiment. You feel that the interlocutor is not telling you something. By taking a short pause, you let him know you are guessing. So he is more likely to tell the truth.
Or his behavior will show that he is lying, also useful info for you. | 2 200 | 11 | Loading... |
32 Do you have addictions?
Let's check ourselves.
A list of addictions:
⁃ Gambling or gambling addiction (pathological gambling addiction)
⁃ Internet addiction (inability to control time spent online)
⁃ Love addiction (confluence of the boundaries of the self and the self of another, the meaning of life is in search of an object of love)
⁃ Sexual addiction (pathological attitudes toward sex)
⁃ Workaholism (uncontrollable compulsion to work; all non-work related activities cause irritation)
⁃ Relationship addiction (inability to make everyday decisions without help from others)
⁃ Urgent addiction (dependence on a state of constant lack of time)
⁃ Food addiction (addictive overeating and addictive starvation).
With any addiction it is better to consult an addictologist. | 2 185 | 16 | Loading... |
33 Conscious love - what is it like?
The conscious lover is not trying to turn the object of his love into something in his own image, or into something that he himself has dreamed of but failed to find. Conscious lover is constantly scrutinizing the one whom he loves, trying to find hidden, maybe not yet realized, but inherent in him, the loved one, unique and unrepeatable qualities.
Conscious love is always a search for conditions for the beloved to become what he can and should become - in accordance with his infinite potential for growth, development, formation, transformation.
Conscious love is not something that comes by chance, by birth, by itself. It is the result of a conscious choice and a firm desire to make an effort and even a super effort on oneself. | 2 302 | 11 | Loading... |
34 Forming new healthy habits
For example, everyone knows that it is extremely important to wake up your body with a glass of clean water. But how to make it a healthy habit?
Write it down👇🏻
✔️ Form a strong need by clearly defining for yourself exactly what the benefit of the new skill is.
✔️ Strengthen the need. Find something related to the habit, for example motivating stories from other people. This will allow your brain to see the importance of the habit to you.
✔️ Work with explanations and challenges. The brain will resist as hard as it can, but you'll outsmart it - give it clear facts about the importance of the habit, write out all the explanations in advance and work through them.
✔️ Come up with a simple trigger. For example, if you want to start the day with a glass of water, set a wave noise on your alarm clock.
✔️ Define a reward. Habits are driven by longing. If you understand how to trigger it, the new habit will be much easier to form. | 2 308 | 13 | Loading... |
35 Am I busy or am I working
Ever think about the fact that all of the tasks we do on a daily basis can be divided into "real work" and "busy"?
And these tasks affect us and our lives in very different ways.
Real work are those tasks that only we ourselves can do: they are complex and move us toward our goals, and we get paid to do them. For example, only I can decide what kind of business I open next and what I need to do it.
Busy tasks are tasks that eat up our time and energy, while we are not paid for them or paid little, they do not move us towards our goals and they can be done by someone else.
For example, only I can make the decision to open a business, but calculate everything, assemble a team and set up sales.
Sure, I can wash the floors, but who will do my job better than me? | 2 152 | 4 | Loading... |
36 Where is the exit?
The way out of the Victim's position...
Resentments, burdensome memories, anger, resentment - these are obstacles to a happy and joyful sense of life.
When you forgive, you step out of the position of Victim, and you have a new vision, energy, and desire to live.
It is up to you to forgive or not to forgive.
But when you choose to forgive someone, you must understand that you are doing it ONLY FOR YOU. You are forgiving so that YOUR life can be better. You forgive in order to find happiness and joy in your life. You forgive so that your relationships with others can be improved.
You forgive in order to become younger, healthier, richer, more beautiful and successful. YOU FORGIVE FOR YOURSELF! | 2 221 | 4 | Loading... |
37 Forgiveness Technique
That’s actually a practical task for the previous post.
Position yourself horizontally, more comfortably. Enter into a state of half-sleep. Thoughts and images flow freely.
Imagine the image of the person you want to forgive.
▫️ I forgive you completely. I draw conclusions from the past.
▫️ I thank the Universe (god, universe...) for the lessons I am learning.
▫️ I am on my way to harmony.
▫️ I understand that you had the best of intentions.
▫️ I get why you did what you did. I forgive myself for....
▫️ Subconsciousness, help me draw conclusions from what happened.
Give yourself time.
Write down the conclusions.
▫️ I thank you.
▫️ I am on my way to harmony.
Keep in mind that you have to choose one grievance or situation. Once you've worked through one particular situation, you only move on to the next one after that. | 2 091 | 9 | Loading... |
38 The main thing is to strike a balance.
Balance between intimacy and co-dependence, a fine line.
How to understand, to feel this difference?
▫️ The desire to share your emotions - intimacy. Trying to impose your moods is co-dependence.
▫️ Talking openly about what you're not happy with in a relationship - intimacy. Imposing blame on the other for relationship problems is co-dependency.
▫️ Holding your OWN social circle and letting the other have theirs is intimacy. NOT having a relationship outside of a couple is co-dependency.
▫️ Sharing your values and interests with your partner is intimacy. CHANGE your values to your partner or try to change them to match your own - co-dependence.
Knowing how to balance such subtle issues can save a relationship. | 2 120 | 7 | Loading... |
39 About Purpose, Dreams and Plans
What is the difference between a dream and a goal?
It's very simple, a goal has a DATE! Work through your dream and give it a clear date.
What is the difference between a goal and a plan?
A plan is a goal broken down into step-by-step steps. Literally step by step, with dates and clear definitions describe your actions.
And finally, only a plan confirmed by methodical actions makes our dream come true! | 2 124 | 7 | Loading... |
40 Why grow up?
Growing up will help you assess the situation with a cool head and find ways to solve it.
Without counting on or expecting help from others. Relying on yourself will give support, faith and confidence even in difficult moments.
Adulthood will allow you to set priorities and refuse unnecessary things. Inner support will allow you to do it quickly, without long deliberations and feelings of guilt or shame. Adulthood will allow you to delegate some things. And support will help you avoid anxiety and fear that the other can't handle it.
Adulthood will assess your condition and signal that it's time to rest. The inner core will allow you to take time for yourself without remorse and fear of "What will they think of me?"😰
Inner core together with adulthood will help transform fears into resources, negative qualities into helping qualities. | 2 242 | 10 | Loading... |
Keep a diary
By the way, the practice of keeping diaries was already known in ancient Japan in the 10th century when court ladies kept their records of life and love in "sleep books".
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So how does a diary work❓
It's a great if not the best tool for REFLECTION - getting to know yourself, your feelings and emotions. It's the best way to safely EXPRESS yourself, that case when pen and paper are your best friends. Paper will accept everything. Your anger, your sorrow, your love and your craziest ideas.
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How to train your brain to focus on POSITIVE
We all tend to register negativity.
This is called negative bias - an adaptive feature of the human psyche, which was especially necessary for survival. However, now this task is no longer urgent and negative bias just HURTS us.
But you probably know that our brain is EXTREMELY malleable. This means that we can "reconfigure" these ancient settings quite successfully☝🏻
For this purpose we need to do the following.
1️⃣Recognize negative bias and note that moment when you start feeling fear and anxiety.
2️⃣Switch to pleasant memories as if you're shifting your mood.
3️⃣And now stay in that mood and try not to go back into your anxieties.
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To be alone with yourself
Why it can be helpful❓
Exceptionally alone with yourself, you can really sort out your thoughts, slow down, take a rest, immerse yourself and hear your emotions.
There are many more opportunities to feel your own uniqueness when you are one-on-one with yourself.
When we are alone, we hear our BODY MUCH better.
We feel our reactions, listen to our emotions and THIS allows us to find our source of power, to take control of ourselves and overcome crises and difficult times ✅
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How to stop wasting your life on vain expectations?
We all tend to live in expectation of love and acceptance. But one of the stages of growing up is accepting the fact that it is stupid to waste your life seeking approval, understanding and warmth.
When you improve your identity, find the strength to know yourself, discover and understand your desires and accept your peculiarities you become YOU - unique and real.
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Do you want to change something in your life, but there is no support from your loved ones?
Is it worth wasting time and energy constantly seeking approval for your actions and decisions?
If this is YOUR dream and the decision is measured a hundred times and weighed two hundred times, WHY do you need the approval of others? After all your life belongs only to you and only you are responsible for your decisions.
Not only have you found no support, but you also face angry hissing and unreasonable criticism❓
Stop, listen.
Don't protest, don't make excuses. Use this negative attitude as an extra incentive to move forward.
The main thing is to believe in your strength❗️
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What are personal boundaries?
It is our inherent temperament, well-being, mood, established attitudes, beliefs, values. Our choices, decisions, desires and needs. Our self-esteem, virtues, talents, abilities. Our feelings, feelings, thoughts, thoughts, dreams.
What does it mean to guard those boundaries?
If you are forced to act in a way that is uncharacteristic of you, disagree and point it out. For example, if an introvert is offered a rest in a noisy company, not only will he not rest, but he will overstrain himself and will not be ready for further work.
And what does it mean to violate the boundaries of the other? For example, to require a hyperactive child to sit still for forty minutes. Or rushing a slow child, and even punishing him for his sluggishness
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What to do if you're full of it?
If you restrain yourself, you will accumulate emotions, sooner or later you will explode. If a person for a long time accumulates a small irritation, creating gradually, but steadily internal tension - sooner or later, at the slightest puncture, because of a trifle and nothing, discontent explodes with the force of a snow avalanche.
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Like other emotions, discontent cannot be accumulated, it must be expressed, but do it competently.
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Practice for relieving tension
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Facial exercise:
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- mask of surprise: raise your eyebrows high;
- anger mask: furrow your eyebrows;
- kiss mask: close your lips as if to kiss;
- mask of laughter: a "Pinocchio" smile;
- discontent mask: press your lips together, press your chin and lower the corners of your mouth; squeeze hard and open your eyes; tense and relax your nose.
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Now sit for a few minutes, enjoy the peace. When you feel like you are slowly floating, you are completely relaxed.
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7 ways to cope with the stress of a change of residence
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Moving is one of the strongest stress factors. And if it is a move to another country, it is doubly stressful.
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Here are some tips to help you cope with stress:
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✔️ Start learning the language of the country you live in.
✔️ Learn the culture and customs of that country.
✔️ Keep in touch (call) with friends and family (Skype, WhatsApp, Viber, etc.). Distance is no longer an issue.
✔️ Make new acquaintances, socialize, meet.
✔️ Take up or continue exercising. This will help increase your stress tolerance.
✔️ Take up something you've wanted to do for a long time (a hobby): fencing, yachting courses, etc.
✔️ Watch your daily routine (sleep at least 8-9 hours), eat right, go for a walk in the fresh air. All this will also help you overcome the stress associated with a change of residence.
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How we do NOT get each other
For example:
A good driver is:
▫️ Cautious, not sure don't overtake
▫️ Racer, cool and fast
▫️ Calm and follow every single rule
So is a good one, two or three?
Hence all the misunderstandings between people. Speakers of different languages understand each other better, because they clarify, am I right to understand that you mean this and that?
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