Marriage By Choice. MBC International

IS IT A MUST TO HAVE SEX? If you can’t control yourself sexually while single, you still won’t control yourself when you get married. Marriage does not cure lust. The lust of the flesh is the strongest human bondage so abstain. SINGLE LADY, for how long will men sleep with you and dump you? Madness is repeating the same mistake and expecting different results. Get this - responsible men don’t sleep with a girl before committing, it's only the Cheaters who do that so be extra careful! SINGLE MAN, the more girls you sleep with, the less you trust women. You’ll be so insecure imagining other men are sleeping with your woman. And you’ll never be satisfied by one woman in marriage, because you will always be thinking that Jane is different from Mary. Lust is a ferocious evil spirit that can haunt you for the rest of your life. Before marriage, this devil lures you into premarital sex. After marriage, this devil traps you into extramarital affairs. End result will be jumping from one marriage to the other until you die. While virginity does not guarantee success in marriage, chronic infidelity guarantees failure in marriage. Casual sex lowers our human dignity. We are too dignified to act like cats, dogs and goats. MAY THE LOVE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU ALL NOW AND FOR EVER AND EVER 🙏🙏🙌

4 things u must remember as a Lady. 1. Stop visiting single brother alone in the day or night. Don't put that innocent brother in trouble. Don't say you were not informed ✌️✌️ 2. Before you open ur legs because of chicken and rice remember infection is costly then chicken and rice ✌️✌️ 3. Don't use pregnancy to trap a man down. The tears has no end. Think twice ✌️✌️ 4. If you want to succeed in life as a lady don't use prostitution or fornication at a means of survival. You can't served two master as a time. As a lady and you see that no one is correcting you when you make mistake. Don't think you are perfect, you are just beyond repair ✌️✌️

DEAR WOMEN,🥰 Sometimes I feel nature is unfair to you. But you are a miracle.🫂 It's you who bleeds blood every month with severe pains and cramps. Even in those pains, you still have to put things together for a normal day. The cooking, washing, etc.🤦 It's you who carry another human inside you for 9 months including the saviour of this world Jesus Christ. The inconvenience, the discomfort, the sacrifice, and the carefulness. You sacrifice what makes you happy just to keep another life healthy.🤎 When it's time to deliver, your life is on the line. It's a 50/50 chance for you. You may live and you may die. But being the life-giver you are, you will choose the life of a new stranger over yours.🤦 Even if the process is not favorable to you. Either the pains of childbirth or surgery.😪 After it all, you still carry yourself up and continue life activities with bandages and pains. But what is miraculous about this all is the smile you put on your face while facing all this.🥰💕 May God bless every woman💃

LADIES, DON'T LET ANY MAN LOOK DOWN ON YOU. You are not a trash to be trodden on. You are a shining star to be adored and respected! Whoever marries you is blessed! Because you carry favour, any lucky man who marries you is automatically favoured! Raise up your head and walk tall! Stop feeling low because you are 25 and no marriage proposal is coming yet! Stop feeling low because your relationship crashed! Stop feeling low because you have made mistakes in the past! Stop feeling low because your bank balance is red! Stop feeling low because you don't have. University education. Stop feeling low because you don't have figure 8 shape! Stop feeling low because you were abused, molested and assaulted! Stop feeling low because you were born out of wedlock! Stop feeling low because your father rejected you. Stop feeling low because no one believes in you. God believes in you! He created you a star! He is committed to your success and he will never let you down! He will hold you by the hand and lead you till you become exceedingly great! (Jeremiah 29:11). A resounding success! In the name of Jesus Christ, you shall be super successful! Whether the devil likes it or not, your glory will shine! Men and women will envy you! Your failures shall be turned to your promotion! Your mistakes to your miracles! Your shame to your glory! Your pain to your gain! In the new of Jesus! You shall be super successful! This year, we shall be celebrating highly super successful ladies in this group,in the name of Jesus! Can I hear a resounding AMEN

DON'T BE A FOOL! I read a post of a lady who wept bitterly because her boyfriend dumped her for another lady. According to her, she dated the guy for 11 years and had several abortions for him. A relationship that is a decade or more is no longer a relationship. It's foolishness to spend a decade or more in a relationship. People in such relationships must have engaged in several sinful and dirty acts. Stop wasting your time and resources on unworthy relationships. Many people know that their relationship has no future and yet remains in it. Many ladies are the ones wasting their precious time on guys by forcing themselves on them. You will hear them saying 👉 I love him, I can't leave him, he's everything to me, we had gone far, where will I start from, I know he womanizes but he will change when I married him, he hit me occasionally when we have misunderstood but he always apologizes to me when he cools down, he does present me gifts every time he apologizes, he always satisfies my sexual urge, he always meets my needs, gives me money and does shopping for me...🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️ Hmmm 🤔 Ignorance is a deadly disease 🤔🤔 Ignorance which is a lack of knowledge and understanding had killed many people. Ignorance makes some people do things foolishly. Foolishness makes some ladies present themselves cheaply and worthless to guys. Listen to me sister: 👉 it's foolishness to spend a decade in a relationship. 👉 it's foolishness to present yourself unworthy to guys just because of money or material things. 👉 it's foolishness to remain in an abusive relationship just because you don't want to be lonely. 👉 it's foolishness to give your body to a man you are not married to. 👉 it's foolishness to abort once or severally for a guy. 👉 it's foolishness to believe that all that glitter is gold. 👉 it's foolishness to waste your precious time and resources on an unworthy person and relationship. 👉 it's foolishness to think that you will never see someone that will love you if you leave an unhealthy relationship. 👉 it's foolishness to think that someone will change after marrying him/her. 👉 it's foolishness to waste your tears over someone that did not value you or know your worth. 👉 it's foolishness to believe a guy that promise you heaven and earth just to lure you to bed 🛌 👉 it's great foolishness to sacrifice your life and future on unworthy relationship. 👉 it's great foolishness to jeopardise your goals, dreams and vision because of none existence, futureless and visionless relationship. Don't be a fool forever, stop all your foolish acts and behaviour, Wake up to the reality of life. The Bible says in Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Be wise and be sensitive! A guy that truly loves you will value you and treat you kindly. A guy that truly loves you as he claims will never put your life in jeopardy by asking you to abort and sin against God. Always remember this sister 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇👇 You will be the one to lose... If he uses you and dumped you, you are the loser. A scar can never be the same as the body! You may never regain what you lost, never! BE WISE, BE BRAVE AND BE SENSITIVE. JESUS LOVES YOU!

*WHAT TO DO IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP* Just like you as you won't give book to someone who doesn't know how to read, don't give your heart to someone who has continually proven that they don't know how to love. 👏👏👏 If you want a serious relationship leading to marriage, don't rush thing, take your time to know the person you are trying to relate with 👨‍❤️‍👨 One of the reason why some relationship don't last is because some people don't take time to fully know the person they are relating with🤔 Many people rush to give in their All in the relationship without knowing someone intentions. 🥱 This is because many people spend years when they are SINGLE and SEARCHING for the right person. They pray and when they see that answer to their life partner are delay either by God or other situation, so with Time they started seeing they are growing. They lose hope, run out of patience and End up given in their delicate heart , precious body to anyone they meet who shows interest In them. They got blinded by the sugar coated love and care from the early stage of the relationship which never last. 😭😭😭🤔 And within no time they are used and dumped like a trash and eventually they become HEARTBROKEN and SINGLE again.😭😱 Trust me if someone really love you, he or she will understand you, wait for you, stick around you and prove their love to you. 🌹🌹🤔 Again, if the person you are trying to relate with can't be patient with you, take things at a slow pace, somehow rushing you into things doing something that you are not ready for, then just know that he or she is one of those unserious people or a toxic person that you need to be careful with. 👏👏 Actually such a person is not worth of your love, time and heart. Finally in relationship, there is nothing more powerful than prayer because the spiritual control the physical. God know the heart of who you do not know! 🤔 keeping God in the mist of the relationship is the foundation for its success.

Is someone doing 'IT' wrongly? Please, do it right. Enough of the talks. Even if you can't do same, do what you know how to do. It's wrong and very backward to only criticize and point out wrongs when you aren't doing anything to make us better.

HER REAL WEIGHT One of my neighbors where I work has a cute adorable little daughter. Six months of exclusive baby friendly has left this little girl quite Chubby.  The first thing that would come to your mind when you see this little child would be to carry her. So cute, cute smile, chubby cheeks and all. But then after a minute or two of holding her, you wlll begin to notice her weight, Your hand would begin to grow weary, weak, soon you'll be numb in that hand, You'll probably switch her to the second hand, in another five minutes your both hands will be crying for freedom and salvation. You'll be very quick to hand her over to any other person around, and where there is none you'll simply return her to her mom (who will not be very quick to take her from you) The next time you visit, between me and you, you will think twice before you carry the baby. I assure you. ******** You see, Just as anyone who sees that cute baby for the first time will be so eager to hold her, and after having a feel of her real weight become eager to hand her back to her mom So also when it comes to Relationships When we meet people for the first time, or first start a relationship They seem so easy going from afar, The attraction and chemistry is high We are elated, excited and feel so alive A few dates at very nice locations, They behave well on dates and when they visit Everything is so nice and perfect We are so happy to be with someone We flaunt them all over the place, telling all who care to listen we are "in a Relationship" Especially where they are good looking BUT as time goes on, we begin to feel their weight on our hands As the Relationship progresses, we start noticing their real weight Their financial weights, Their spiritual weights, Their emotional weight, Their character weights How they are impatient, stubborn, violent, how they have anger issues, proud, stubborn, authoritative, unforgiving, intolerant, insufferable... Etc And then we start wishing we could drop them. ******** Hear Me Do not be in a hurry to say I DO to anybody till you have felt their weight and it is something you can carry for the rest of your life. ******** Do not be in a hurry to skip friendship and jump into courtship, and skip courtship to the ship of Marriage... ******** Get to know them first Hang around them for a little longer to see how you fare with their weight aside from their looking good and adorable Time always reveals peoples real weight, Time will always reveal MOTIVE, CONTENT, CHARACTER, STRENGTH AND WEAKNESSES Do not be in a Hurry You'll never know the real weight of people till you have carried them for a while. Prayerfully Study and observe People before you commit to anything with them Reduce your "had I known" Marriage is a life time commitment Don't rush into it or you may just find yourself rushing out. ******** Marry someone whose real weight you can carry till death do you part, if not, hand go pain you. ******** I remain my humble self Counselor Simon Brett 

HOW PRE-MARITAL SEX AFFECTS YOUR BODY I have observed that women who marry as virgins or who were not much into pre-marital sex have strong, firm bodies in marriage and old age while ladies who had been heavily involved in premarital sex, abortions and into different guys have a not so good in shape body at old age. While looking good and exercising have their own roles to play, staying off sex till the right time has its own role! Sometimes, when I see some single ladies wear clothes without bra, I feel like hiding my head in shame! What in the name of God is this? Slippers? So flat? Why? How? Some cannot walk a trekkable distance without breaking down! Some can't bend, jump, move, stand or do things a normal single lady can do! You can't walk with some singles, they slow you down. Physically, mentally, emotionally they are so very lazy! The body is something else entirely! Some are ageing very fast! Pre-marital sex, pregnancy and child birth ages you! Please, for God's sake, let your husband marry a youthful body not an old cargo, a beg! The Bible says a man should enjoy the wife of his youth! Give him your youthful body to enjoy! Please! Don't give out all the juice in your single years and pass the remaining to the faithful guy on the wedding night. Pre-marital sex shows more on the woman than the man, hence focusing more on the women. Men too should watch it please! You can't be "hammering" every woman on the road and bring a second hand body to the marriage! Women too want fresh, well toned, firm body! Some men look like 50 years old at 30! He has donated all the freshness to different vampires and old blood is now pumping through his veins! Keep your blood fresh! Why waste in on different women whose background you don't know! I pity guys who have sex with sugar mummies! They are empty walking shell! All their riches, wealth and everything good that could come out if their lives had been swallowed up in the graveyard they called vagina! May the Lord have mercy! Keep your body firm, fresh and healthy for your future spouse. Stop donating your destiny to strangers. Let God use your youthfulness for his glory and let your future husband\wife derive maximum pleasure from your body. You get what I mean? May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers

WE ARE COURTEOUS TO OTHERS AND DISRESPECTFUL TO OUR SPOUSES. 💞💓💗💕💖👉 Marriage is Time: Marriage must be a daily practice and a daily experience. How many hours in a day, and how many days in a week do you actually invest in your marriage or spend with your spouse? The sad reality is that most people spend the best of their time with other people, and doing things that add very little to no value to their marriages. We laugh with strangers and fight at home. We are courteous to strangers and disrespectful to our spouses. We spend more time building other people’s dreams while our marriages are breaking down. When will you prioritize your marriage? When will your spouse take the center stage of your life? When will your family be the only item on your to do list? Time is passing and you, your spouse and your children are not getting any younger. Make the time and create memories with your spouse and children every day. Do not let a day pass without doing something special and thoughtful for or with your spouse. Do not keep waiting for some imaginary blissful day in the unknown future. Today is all you have. Tomorrow is promised no one. Love your spouse like there is no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, wake up and do the same again. MAY GOD HELP US IN JESUS NAME 🙏🙏🙏

The Voice of a Counselor You experience rejection, desertion or abandonment in one of your closest relationship,Now love feels scary and is a source of anxiety and fear rather than of healing and security.You feel regret for something you did or the way you treated person you loved, Hence you don't believe you deserve to be loved or you fear you will badly hurt someone again. You have developed a series of flawed believes which coloured your expectations for Love,for example you have concluded that love leads to pain or that no one can be trusted or love always end in regrets.A voice in your head says you cannot change so you don't believe that ' "you have what it takes" to let go of the past and create a new chapter of your life. You can love again and don't give up on Love.

Dear Bachelor TESTING A LADY Sir, you don't need to use dirty clothes to test a lady to know if she's hardworking. Even if she visits you and your house is well arranged, everywhere sparkling clean, a hard working lady will still show herself. A hard working lady shows herself in her work ethics, how she takes care of herself and her own space and how she handles the responsibilities she has in church, office, home, etc. A Submissive Lady doesn't need you to be bossy and difficult before she'll show her submission, submission doesn't respond to being bossy, if you like be a gentle and meek man, a submissive woman will still submit to you. A rebellious or stubborn lady will still show herself, even if you are gentle with her. Character doesn't hide if you know how to look. A Lady who can manage can manage, even if you give her N50,000, she'll show her management skills, it's not only by testing her with N500 or poverty that you'll know if she can manage. Want to know a Good wife Material? 1) Check the Friends she Keeps. Lions walk with Lions. Dogs walk with Dogs. 2) Check Her Mentors and Role Models. An apple doesn't fall far form the tree. 3) Observe/Listen. How she talks/relates to you and others, How she talks about Authority and Superiors How she handles money issues How she reacts when under pressure. Her ideologies about Love, Marriage, Men, Women, Life, etc 4) Her devotion to her God. And most importantly PRAY.

By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm © Dalai Lama

MARRIAGE AND EX-LOVERS Friendship with your EX can't continue after marriage. If they missed you so bad they should have married you instead of dumping you. Now that you are married, they should please step aside while you enjoy your marriage! Some EX lovers are stubborn! They suddenly wake up, realized all the goodies they missed and start hunting for you in the name of friendship. If you are naive, you fall for their crap, go back to soothing them and helping them where their spouses have failed. Stories abound of married people having affairs with their EX. Adultery is the end result of that folly. Emotions don't die. All the feelings you have for all your EX lovers haven't disappeared. They are simply suppressed. They are there, lying dormant silently, noiselessly until the object of the emotional attraction shows up and there is an explosion! You suddenly discover you have hidden passion that can go haywire for an EX while still under your husband's roof or while you are married to the best woman in the world. Guard your heart is what the holy book says. You have no single business with your EX after marriage. They made a choice not to marry you and now that you are happily married they should leave you alone and let you enjoy your marriage in peace...FEEL FREE TO SHARE, God bless you, cheers!

Dear Lady 3 THINGS THAT CAN'T KEEP A MAN 1) SEX A Lady was honest with me in one recent counseling session I had, "Sir, I thought if I give him sex, he'll stay and marry me, now I know I was wrong" Aunty, WAKE UP from your dream!!! SEX DOES NOT keep a Man. he can sleep with you and finish, even get you pregnant and still deny you like Peter denied Jesus. 2) HOUSE CHORES If you like, sweep his street, turn to dry cleaner. You'll be running helter skekter like a maid with his house chores ever weekend, Cleaning, sweeping, washing, cooking, just to make him stay and marry you, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it doesn't actually work like this. Save your self small dignity and Pride. 3) MONEY Never spend money on a guy with the motive that he'll marry you BECAUSE of the money you're spending or "investing" on his head. You buy him a Car, a Phone, Pay his school fees from your savings, pay his Rent and you now believe he won't misbehave. I wish it was like that. WHAT MAKES A MAN STAY 1) HIS LOVE FOR GOD & LOVE/DESIRE FOR YOU. A Man who has this combination, A love for God (Fear of God) first and foremost, then a love and desire for you is a KEEPER. 👉 His Love for God will make him not to take advantage of You, not to deceive You, but be faithful and true. 👉 His love/desire/value for YOU and your CONTENT will make him stay and Marry you. If he doesn't love/want/value you, he will leave eventually. You can't change his mind with sex. Save your body for your Husband and be a Christian indeed. Before you start trying to keep a Man that can't be Kept, Check. Does he love God? Does he love/want You?

IN THE WAITING ROOM Dear single sister, Are you waiting on God for the choice of your life partner? Are you trusting God for who to marry? Maybe you have even been through lots of disappointments and heartbreaks... Probably you are even already in your late twenties, early thirties, late thirties, whatever be the case... It is a truth that it is not easy to wait. The waiting room is one of the most difficult rooms to be in life. It is not easy, yes it isn't. Whoever says it is has probably not been there before... But the good news is the fact that God reserves the best for those who are able to patiently wait on HIM. Keep hope alive my dear sister. By the time your own spouse comes, you would be glad you actually waited. Don't rush, never fret. Don't be intimidated, shun desperation, don't ever double cross God. Keep calm. Wait!!! Others around you may be getting married, they may be younger than you but your destinies are different. The glory ahead of you is greater, if only you can see it... Keep hope alive. God has not forgotten you. You will soon be out of the waiting room and you shall be celebrated. It is well. Much love 💖 I have for you. You shall soon be celebrated. Can I hear your Amen?

Dear Lady BEING FINDABLE BY Mr RIGHT. Ruth 3:1 "Then Naomi her mother in law said unto her, My daughter,........" 3:3 "WASH thyself therefore, and ANOINT thee, and put thy RAIMENT upon thee, and get thee down to the floor: but make not thyself known unto the Man, UNTIL he shall have done eating and drinking." ♥️WASH THYSELF ♥️ANOINT Thyself ♥️Put thy RAIMENT upon thee Dear Lady, Men more often than none are primarily attracted to a lady by her appearance, before they notice her Character, even Pastors oh. Look good & smell good. Wear decent clothes that are appropriate for your body size and shape, stop wearing oversized clothes, you no be church banner. It doesn't have to be too expensive, but package thyself. . . Ruth 3:4 "And it shall be, when he lieth down, that thou shalt mark the PLACE WHERE HE shall lie, and thou shalt go in, and uncover his feet, and lay thee down; and he will tell thee what thou shalt do." ♥️ POSITION THYSELF RIGHTLY Those of you Sisters that after service, you'll be rushing home as if you forgot your destiny at home, how will be the brother see you to collect your number? Join Choir, you say No. Wait after service for Youth Fellowship, you say No, you're rushing home to go and press phone, you never tire to press phone? don't you want to press somebody's son and be pressed too? Sister, be SEEN and HEARD if you want to be FOUND. Come out and give Testimony in church, be online, reply your chats. Be friendly, social, volunteer to serve in church programs, office events, your compound, stop hiding, you never know where your husband is. Your character too, and self development will position you rightly. And Prayers, to nullify village people effect. Comments on my post, give some words of encouragement. Some guys will admire you secretly.☺️ Thank you for reading.