Women of Paradize 💎

The responsibility of an unmarried woman.

How can a curse be taken lightly?

The number of unmarried, divorced, single beautiful women around the globe is enough to tell you that beauty no longer counts as a criteria for marriage. There has to be a blessing in marriage for it to sustain otherwise its a forgone conclusion. Real Muslim Men are now looking for taqwa, common sense, morals, and good character.

🌷 𝐀 𝐁𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐓𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐰 ! Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen رحمه الله said: "Today you are a bride and tomorrow you are a mother. So be sure that you maintain an appropriate Islamic household. You should instill in your children and your husband's children a good sense of direction, and look after them and monitor them whether they are at home, at school, or at another place away from home. Be a mother who is kind-hearted and compassionate and a wise teacher who will cultivate the generations of tomorrow." [Taken from 'The Concise Manual of Marriage', revised second edition, pg. 91]

🔻Another cause of heart softness is looking at those above you in religion and those below you in worldly matters. One of the main causes of hardness of the heart is a person's admiration of their own religious status and contempt of their worldly status. Everyone loves to have a high status. If you see a person praising themselves for their religious achievements, feeling secure in their deeds, and seeking more from the world than they have, know that this is one of the causes of their heart's illness and hardness. From the causes that will soften your heart, is following what the Prophet ﷺ instructed in the authentic hadith: looking at those above you in religion and those below you in worldly matters, for this is more likely to prevent you from belittling Allah's blessings upon you. When you aim to reach the religious status of those above you, it softens your heart because you are occupied with a significant and beneficial matter, while looking at those below you in worldly matters, removes the corruption of preoccupation with the debris of the world and its adornments, and thus softens your heart. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) has beneficial words in "Ighathat ul-Lahfan" and "Al-Jawab al-Kafi," and his discussion in "Ighathah" is more detailed regarding the corruptors of the heart. He mentioned five corruptors of the heart, such as excessive socializing and talking among others, and explained what a person should be like in protecting their heart. Unfortunately, most of those engaged in seeking knowledge do not address these issues except rarely, and they do not preoccupy themselves with the means of softening hearts, rectifying souls, and refining morals. This results in their souls being corrupted and their hearts becoming hard. Knowledge is praised only if it it results in a soft and tender heart that draws closer to Allah. Therefore, a seeker of knowledge should not disdain reading books on heart-softeners, zuhd, and biographies, as they contain great benefit for the heart. What is intended from knowledge is what benefits, not for what elevates one's status, as Abu Amr al-Maqdisi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “People say knowledge is what is in the heart, but I say knowledge is what accompanies you to the grave,” meaning what benefits you. A person should strive for what benefits them, including heart-softening works, moral refinement, elimination of psychological ailments, and revealing the states mentioned by scholars in their writings. One should focus on the works of the scholars of Ahlus-Sunnah, especially the books on zuhd by the great scholars such as Ahmad ibn Hanbal, his student Abu Dawood, Ahmad's teacher Waki' ibn al-Jarrah, “Az-Zuhd” by Hanad ibn al-Sari, “Az-Zuhd” by Asad ibn Musa, and other books on zuhd. This concludes the answer to the question, by Allah is all success. May Allah's peace and blessings be upon His Prophet and Messenger Muhammad ﷺ and his family and companions. 🎙سؤالات برنامج التعليم المستمر

Question: We request that you explain to us practical steps to cure the hardness of the heart we are capable of. Sheikh: Allah has said, “So fear Allah as much as you are able.” When a person desires to do something, they are able to do so. In the hadith of Maimun ibn Abi Shabib from by Mu'adh ibn Jabal, reported by al-Tirmidhi, Mu'adh asked the Prophet ﷺ, “Tell me of an act which will admit me to Paradise and distance me from Hellfire.” The Prophet replied, “You have asked about a great matter, yet it is easy for those whom Allah makes it easy.” Although this hadith has a weak chain of narration, its meaning is supported by Allah’s words: “And those who strive for Us, We will surely guide them to Our ways.” Whoever is sincere in their strives, Allah makes it easy for them to achieve what they seek in good deeds. Allah does not burden us beyond our capabilities and strengths. If there is something in the Shariah prescribed for a particular matter, then know that it is within your capacity and ability, but you need to strive earnestly to be able to do it. What I will mention to you now is within your capability, but it requires sincere striving. 🔻One of the greatest means to soften a hardened heart is the constant remembrance of Allah. Allah has said, “Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest,” and the tranquility of the heart removes its hardness. Al-Makhul (may Allah have mercy on him) said, “The remembrance of Allah is a cure, and the remembrance of people is a disease.” Abdullah ibn Awn said, “The remembrance of Allah is a remedy, and the remembrance of people is a disease.” When a person persists in the remembrance of Allah, their heart becomes soft. The most important remembrance to maintain is that which Allah has obligated and emphasized: the five daily prayers. Beyond that, there are other recommended remembrances throughout the day and night, such as morning and evening adhkaar, and adhkaar before sleeping and upon waking, and when eating and drinking. Whoever maintains these prescribed remembrances throughout the day and night will be among those who remember Allah often, as explained by Abu Amr ibn al-Salah and agreed by Ibn al-Qayyim. Constant engrossment in the remembrance of Allah removes the hardness of the heart. 🔻Another means is to focus the soul on what benefits it, for one of the causes of hardness of the heart is occupying oneself with what does not benefit. If you focus yourself on what benefits you, it will soften your heart. In Sahih Muslim, it is reported from Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Be keen on what benefits you, seek the help of Allah, and do not feel helpless.” When a person strives for what benefits them, it occupies them from what does not benefit, gathers their heart on what is beneficial, and softens it. Being idle weakens the strength of the heart, diminishes its energy, and brings upon it ailments and diseases. One should not take idleness lightly, even if it is brief, as Ibn Hazm (may Allah have mercy on him) said, “An hour of idleness corrupts a year of discipline.” If a person spends an entire year disciplining themselves on a matter, then occupies themselves with the ways of people of idleness for even an hour, it can ruin the discipline of the year from knowledge or work.

Jahannam: The Abode for Melting the Hardened Hearts Just as a Muslim is commanded to purify their body and soul in this world through the actions of the limbs and heart that Allah has obligated, a person will be punished on the Day of Judgment if they turn away from this purification and fall short, by being admitted to the fire of Jahannam. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said, "The fire was only made to melt hardened hearts." This means that if a person from the people of Tawheed falls short in their duty to Allah and their heart remains hardened in this world, and they leave this world without purifying their heart's impurities and their shortcomings in their duty to their Lord, they will be placed in the fire of Hell until they are purified from this impurity. And once they are purified and made like the rest of the believers, they will be transferred to their abode in the dwellings of bliss. وكما أن المسلم مأمور بتطهير بدنه وباطنه في الدنيا بما أوجب الله عز وجل أعمال الجوارح وأعمال القلوب، فإنه يعاقب يوم القيامة إذا صد عن هذه الطهارة وقصر فيها بأن يدخل نار جهنم. قال ابن القيم رحمه الله تعالى: "إنما جُعلت النار لإذابة القلوب القاسية." انتهى كلامه. ومعناه أن من قصر في حق الله عز وجل من أهل التوحيد، وكان قلبه قاسيًا في الدنيا وخرج منها ولم يتطهر من نجاسات قلبه وتقصيره في جناب ربه، فإنه يُجعل في نار جهنم حتى يطهر من هذه الرديئة، فإذا تطهر وصار كبقية المؤمنين، حُوِّل إلى دارهم دار النعيم. 📝 تعليق على كتاب التوحيد للحافظ ابن رجب

Why has Knowledge come to cause a kind of Hardness in the Later Generations? Knowledge in its essence, softens the heart and brings one closer to Allah. However, when the sciences became muddled with discussions of disagreements and the explanation of various preferences, which were not present in the early generations, knowledge started to induce a type of hardness. Ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) mentioned this in his book “Sayd al-Khatir,” saying, “I reflected on knowledge, the inclination towards it, and the preoccupation with it, and found that it strengthens the heart in a way that tends to cause a type of hardness...” Ibn al-Jawzi did not mean the knowledge which the early generations were upon; rather, he referred to the knowledge that people have reached in these later times. When the disagreements, disputes, and conflicts increased, and the need for weighing and refuting in matters of beliefs and rulings, knowledge began to carry this type of strength that leads to hardness. This was not present in the knowledge of the early righteous predecessors (may Allah have mercy on them). Therefore, it is essential for the teacher to take care of softening the hearts of their students with various means of heart-softening, including admonishing them, reminding them, and narrating stories to them, seeking to remove this hardness and soften their hearts with advice and guidance. This was the way of the Prophet ﷺ, as he used to provide his companions with regular admonitions, as established in the Sahih. لماذا صار (العلم) مورثاً نوع قسوة عند المتأخرين ؟ والعلم في أصله مُلينٌ للقلب مُقربٌ إلى الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالى، لكن لما تكدرت العلوم بذكر الخلاف يأتي وبيان وجوه الترجيحات مما لم يكن في الصدر الأول صار العلم مؤرئًا نوع قسوة، كما ذكر ذلك ابن لجوزي رَحِمَةُ اللّهُ تَعَالَى في كتابه ((صيد الخاطر)) فقال: «تأملت العلم والميل إليه والتشاغل به فإذا هو يقوي القلب قوةً تمیل بہ إلی نوع قساوةٍ)) انتهی کلامه. وليس مُراد ابن الجوزي العلم الذي كان عليه الصدر الأول، ولكن المراد به: العلم الذي انتهى إليه الناس في هذه الأزمنة المتأخرة لما كثر الخلاف والنزاع والشقاق، واحتيج إلى الترجيح والرد والإبطال في أبواب العقائد والأحكام، فعند ذلك صار في العلم هذا النوع من القوة الذي يجر إلى القسوة، ولم يكن هذا موجودًا في علوم الأوائل من السلف الصالح رحمهم الله تَعَالَى، فلا غِنى حينئذٍ عن أن يعتني المعلم بترقيق قلوب أصحابه بأنواع المرققات، ومن جملتها: وعظهم وتذكيرهم والقص عليهم، طلبًا لإذهاب هذه القسوة، وتليين قلوبهم بالوعظ والإرشاد، وقد كان هذا هدي النبي صَلَّى اللّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فإنه كان يتخول أصحابه بالموعظة كما ثبت في ((الصحیح)). 📃 تعليق على (شرح حديث أبي الدرداء رضي الله عنه) للحافظ ابن رجب