Reception Psychologist

1. A fixation on the difficulties of life Confucius once said: "Life is actually simple, but we persist in complicating it". When faced with a difficult situation, we often focus on its insurmountability instead of trying to solve the problem in a simple way. We succumb to what is called complexity bias. It's a trap of thinking that causes us to focus on the intractable 10% of the problem, ignoring the 90% that are easy to overcome. The next time a difficult situation comes your way, move away from thinking about how difficult it will be to deal with. Instead, think of strategies that will help you deal with it all. Ask yourself what the result will be if you tackle it head-on: will it be more difficult or will it get a little easier? In any case, obsessing about the difficulties won't help at all. Only action, however simple, will get rid of the problem.

💥The top 5 factors why life can seem more difficult than it is We live in an unpredictable world. Sometimes problems come pouring out of the horn of plenty. But more often it is more prosaic: we make up our own difficulties and worries and make our lives more complicated. 📌This is usually due to five factors that affect each of us from time to time. To be continued .....

AVOID PRAISING ONE, SCOLDING THE OTHER ❗️Remember that public censure and punishment are psychologically damaging. And when you praise one child and scold the other, thereby making comparisons, it makes it worse. For example, "Jennifer doesn't cry in kindergarten and eats well, while you are always crying. There will always be someone who will do something better or worse. You should love children as they are and praise them even for small results. Even if your child has done something unpleasant (say, took away a toy from a friend), try to make your child apologise. Leave all punishments and lectures for the home. Scold your child in private.

Other people have no idea what you want Many difficulties in communicating with loved ones arise because we think it goes without saying that we want love, support, care and acceptance. But it's not obvious to other people! Needs that you have, other people may have naturally be met. They get this recognition without thinking. And they can't even imagine that this is a difficulty for you.

The rules of destiny - follow them and you'll be happy 🤗 🍃❤️ ✅ One is always annoyed by what sits in people. Other people can be mirrors for us. We just need to look closely into them. Then we can get to know ourselves better. ✅ The similar is always attracted only by the similar. There is nothing accidental in life. We are not attracted to people we want to be with, but to people who are completely similar to us. ✅ Accept yourself as you are. Then your anxieties, worries and complexes will disappear and you will be able to start living your life to the fullest. ✅The world around us is completely neutral. We are the ones who make it good or bad. Try to perceive reality in a positive way, and then it will become happy and joyful. ✅ Never take the opinion of others as the ultimate truth. You cannot be good to everyone. There will always be detractors. Don't let them get the better of you.

EXPRESSIVE WRITING TECHNIQUES🖌 📃Instructions: 📝 Write about how you feel about life, what you care about What's going on in your life right now, at work, in relationships. Are you happy with your life? 📝 Use the "stream of consciousness" technique For 5-10 minutes, write the first thing that comes into your head without trying to think anything through or keeping an eye on the folding of your words. 📝 Have a dialogue with yourself Try writing down questions with your right hand (if you're right-handed) and answers with your left to enhance the feeling of real dialogue. 📝Capture inspirational moments What pleased you today? What gave you a burst of energy? Concentrate on the positive emotions. 📝 Paint your portrait Don't worry about the likeness. Let the emotion be the main thing in the drawing. Allow yourself to fantasies. 📝Use the third person for your troubles and problems This will help you distance yourself from unpleasant feelings and be more sober about the situation.

EXPRESSIVE WRITING TECHNIQUES Social psychologist James Pennebaker, author of the Expressive Writing method, says describing our thoughts and experiences weaken our psychological defenses, which are a drain on the body's resources. He suggests writing by hand or on a computer for 15 to 20 minutes a day. It is not necessary to think in advance what it is about: the process is more important than the result. The text can be thrown away or erased as soon as it is written. 💥To be continued...

CATASTROPHIC THINKING OR HOW CAN I STOP THINKING ABOUT BAD THINGS ALL THE TIME? If you notice a tendency towards catastrophic thinking, here are some tips to help you reduce your stress and anxiety levels. 📍 Postpone important decisions until the morning Lack of sleep can also increase anxiety and a tendency to think negatively. So it's worth putting off all important decisions until the morning. 📍 Change your imaginary scenario Despite what we tell ourselves, past failures don't mean that things will be as bad in the future. Try specifically imagining a few optimistic scenarios. 📍 Be kinder to yourself When imagining future scenarios, try to be kinder to yourself. Unfortunately, this is often difficult even for those capable of empathy and sympathy for others. Nevertheless, we are capable of "redirecting" it. Try to imagine what advice you would give to a close friend if they were in your position. This kind of practice can help you to see solutions where you have only seen problems before.

Turn a difficulty into a challenge Resilience is one of the ingredients for happiness and success. How well you respond to adversity determines your resilience. Columbia University clinical psychiatry professor David Hellerstein explains that if you view a situation as a threat, your fear response systems are activated. This means that the body will release hormones that raise blood pressure and blood glucose levels, which increases anxiety. Conversely, when the situation is seen as a challenge, your body releases hormones that promote cellular release, trigger relaxation responses and stimulate efficient energy use. 📌Any challenge is an opportunity and an adventure. ❓🤔 Ask yourself what new skills you need to learn to cope with the current situation, and how overcoming this adversity will help you become a more resilient person.

4. Dreamers We realize that setting goals and working hard can help us achieve things that many people find unattainable. To maintain this sense of purpose, we should surround ourselves with people who have similar goals living in their heads. These dreamers don't necessarily have to be engaged in the same activities as you or your business; the most important thing is to be close to people who have big plans for themselves. Observing the aspirations of others will help you keep your own thirst for achieving your own goals as well. You are the sum of all the people you spend your time with. Make sure you spend time with people who uplift you, inspire you and motivate you to do more and be something more. Self-development and business development may involve changing your friends and colleagues, but it's part of our lives. Just believe that hard work, a positive attitude and high spirits are something you should never lose if you want to build the life of your dreams.

3. People asking questions Albert Einstein once said: "The most important thing is never to stop asking questions". As professionals, we must constantly ask questions about ourselves and our work. However, no one person can voice all the important questions. People who ask questions can offer you a different perspective on a problem or idea, and these questions can ultimately lead to an important breakthrough for your career. The point of view is the foundation.

2. Positive thinkers 🙂💬 People tend to do better at what they do if they are happy. Negative thinking can reduce work discipline and does not inspire you in any way. Surrounding yourself with negative people can kill your creativity and sense of purpose, which can ultimately lead to the collapse of your business. People with a positive mindset, on the other hand, can show just the opposite effect, helping you move more effectively towards success. By treating your work with a happy attitude, you will keep your morale up and keep people around you. To be continued ...

1. Tireless workers 🚧 You probably know someone who is a tireless worker, or perhaps you are one yourself. This type of worker pushes us to work harder every day. Comparing our personal success with another person's success is like comparing apples to oranges, but we can compare our passion for a goal with the passion of other tireless workers. 📌 Sincere passion and determination are at the heart of a successful business.

When we try to change something in our lives and it doesn't work, it's easier to say it's just 'bad luck', 'apparently not mine', and few people will just look around. Sometimes it's the environment that becomes the weight that pulls us back, by our own volition. Success doesn't come out of nowhere. In fact, there are a number of factors that lead people to success. Hard work and drive are always necessary for success, but your personal improvement leading to success can, for the most part, be based on other people. The people we choose to surround ourselves with influence the way we think, act and feel day to day. In many ways, professional success is determined in the same way as success in any other area of life. By surrounding ourselves with the right people, we allow success to come more naturally to us than if we surround ourselves with those who hold us back. There are several types of people you should keep close to in order to move towards your goals. To be continued....

Ways to combat anxiety The body tends to hold its breath when we feel tense. Make sure this doesn't happen by breathing calmly and deeply. Move around if you can. 🔹Firstly, moving around helps to release the tension. 🔹Secondly, no one will see your trembling knees or hands if you walk/gesticulate. Convey your excitement to an object Take some object, squeeze it tightly in your hands, close your eyes and imagine conveying all your anxiety to it. Lock it in a drawer/box and go.

Psychologist's tips on how to organize your workday Tips from psychologist and author of "The Best Place to Work" Ron Friedman: ✏️ __Cherish the first three hours __The first three hours of the working day are your most valuable and most productive time. ✏️ __Spread the tasks out __Spending a few minutes in the morning to distribute your tasks will make it easier to focus during the day. ✏️ __Give your mind and body a rest __Always pay attention to your body's telltale signs: if you start to yawn or get distracted, it's probably time to get up from your desk for a few minutes.

How do you recognize a sociopath? 📌A sociopath is someone who makes decisions based solely on self-interest and without considering how their actions affect others, including those with whom they are in a relationship. Key points: 🔸Rude and abusive behavior In doing so, the sociopath expects you not to react and act as if nothing has happened. 🔸 Inexplicable behavior The sociopath always treats you differently at different times or on different days for no apparent reason. 🔸 Shifting blame A sociopath always blames someone else and never admits their own fault for mistakes or crimes.

❗️DON'T ACCEPT DISRESPECT The urge to be friends with their children is shattered in the early months of adolescence when it turns out that the mum-friend doesn't support her grown-up daughter's desire to have a sleepover at a fun hangout. Friendship is fine, but distance is still necessary in a parent-child relationship. And equality in this case is impossible and unlikely to take a healthy form. Any rudeness and disrespect on the part of the child must be suppressed. You should not swallow insults in front of children and leave insults against you unanswered. ✅ Talk, analyze, confront, but do not remain silent.

❗️FORGIVING DOES NOT MEAN FORGETTING Forgiving does not mean forgetting and continuing to be friends. Forgiving is letting go of the burden of resentment, drawing conclusions about the person, but not forgetting. If you let go of the resentment, then you no longer need to hold the resentment in yourself, then that person will lose control over you. 📌 Here's what you can do to help you let go of a grudge: Close your eyes and imagine a chair. There's a person sitting in it. Now start saying all the things you think about that person, tell them your pain. You won't believe it, but this practice is so powerful that soon you may cry or, conversely, kick the chair, scream... End it when you feel relieved. Repeat the exercise if necessary. Try to work through all your grievances against people and your life will change. 🧐 If you can't deal with your own resentments, you should see a professional who can help you become a confident person and let go of the past that is preventing you from moving on.

How do you create a chain reaction of healthy habits? Any change in your life triggers a chain reaction. All you have to do is focus on a habit you like and you'll have a "domino effect". 1️⃣ Start with something you like very much. Even if it's minor, don't forget about consistency. 2️⃣ Don't stop; don't slow down and move on to the next task that you can do. It is important that the momentum of the first task spurs you on to the next one. 3️⃣ If you have difficulties or doubts, divide the task into several smaller parts. Any habit you master must be easy, this is very important. If you follow these principles, the result will appear literally in front of your eyes. Try it!