TheGirl_inBlack ™

purpose in life? "Just for the hell of it." Seriously—why should I objectify myself by reducing the value of my existence to my usefulness? Purpose is for tools. I ain't no tool; I'm a human being, dammit! For a sentient lifeform, there is only ever but one purpose in life, and that's to live. And if you're gonna do a thing, you might as well do it well, right? Otherwise what's the effing point? So a less dehumanizing focus than "What's my life's purpose?" is "What does ‘living well’ mean to me?" @Thegirl_inblack

People might see me as a weird quiet introverted person. Sometimes, when I’m in a sugar high, I will be the most outgoing crazy adventurous sons of bitches who don’t give a flying fuck about anything.. And I keep switching between these two and it confuses/fascinates people as it makes them think “how can someone that weird be that confident” which is…. Honestly exhausting sometimes cuz you want people to know that you’re not like that ALL THE TIME and you need your space just like any other weirdo introvert. It’s just that.. I hate saying this to people cuz it might hurt their feelings and make them feel unwanted which is only temporarily true :( <3 And also when I’m being quiet/withdrawn it’s not because I’m sad or angry and sure as hell it doesn’t mean that my former extraverted adventurous self was a lie or an act, it’s just that my main function and natural mood is to be silent and that (for some reason) intimidates people into thinking I’m angry or sad *face palm* #juststhIcanrelatetoo @Thegirl_inblack

Always remember that even 10% is better than 0%. A piece of fruit is better than eating nothing. 3 hours of sleep is better than 0 hours. One paragraph of the essay is better than an empty page. Splashing only your face with water is better than not cleaning yourself at all. Making your bed is better than leaving your room completely messy. With any of these things, you are going to end up better off than you would if you didn't do that. Again, it may not be the best, but it's your best on that day, and that's what you need to focus on. @Thegirl_inblack

"I have no hope to give you, I'm sorry. I have none for myself. We can talk about all the fucked up sad stuff, but I can't tell you beautifully why you shouldn't be sad. I don't have that light. But yes, I can understand you. I can sit with you on the same rocking boat, the same couch, and we can hold hands to comfort each other and talk about our problems, but I won't tell you why tomorrow might be a better day. But honestly, I hope it might. I truly hope so." @Thegirl_inblack

“You think you should be forgiven just because you apologized?” “Apologizing only makes YOU feel better. It doesn’t reduce the victim’s pain. Grow some empathy.” @Thegirl_inblack

He felt I wasn’t interested in him the same way he was in me. That I didn’t seem to experience the same kind of romantic interest/attraction. Which perhaps might be true. Honestly I still don’t know. I know I had some sort of feelings for him and that I miss the connection we had.. but I’m struggling to find words to describe those feelings. @Thegirl_inblack

Breakups are ok. Starting over is ok. Moving on is ok. Saying no is ok. Being alone is ok. What is NOT ok is staying somewhere where u are not happy, valued, or unappreciated, that's NOT ok. @Thegirl_inblack

I know you are going through a very, very rough time. And I don't know why, but also don't want to know. What I want you to know is that I love you the way you are. And I’ll always be there for you whenever you need me. – Anna, 2019 (Movie) @Thegirl_inblack

“There are many types of monsters that scare me: Monsters who cause trouble without showing themselves, monsters who abduct children, monsters who devour dreams, monsters who suck blood... and then, monsters who tell nothing but lies. Lying monsters are a real nuisance: They are much more cunning than others. They pose as humans even though they have no understanding of the human heart; they eat even though they've never experienced hunger; they study even though they have no interest in academics; they seek friendship even though they do not know how to love. If I were to encounter such monsters, I would likely be eaten by them... because in truth, I am that monster.” - L, Death Note @Thegirl_inblack

self care tips for people that don't feel like doing self care: 1. don't feel like showering? that's fine! dry shampoo or just brushing your hair is okay. if you can't brush your hair, you can also use hair ties or bobby pins. baby wipes or makeup wipes can wash the face too. 2. can't make your bed or wash your sheets? push your blankets out of the way and shake the crumbs off your sheet. it will at least be a bit more comfortable. 3. can't change out of your clothes? hit yourself with some febreeze and a lint roller! 4. can't make anything to eat? if you can, there's no shame in ordering food. in fact, it's probably better you eat something rather than go hungry. if you can't, try and find something that comes pre-made or takes minimal effort to make. at the very least, drink some water!! if you have trouble eating, go on tiktokt and there are videos of people eating. sometimes watching someone else eat can encourage you to do the same. 5. can't respond to messages? don't feel bad for sending a mass "i'm sorry, i'm in a personal emergency right noww. i'll get back to you as soon as I can" to everyone. 6. can't sleep? listen to some asmr, bob ross, vintage autumn music, or something that gives you a more peaceful environment to think in. 7. can't brush your teeth? use some gum or mouthwash! you can do this. i'll be here with you every step of the way. thank you for being alive. you deserve so much love! ♡ credit: castrus on reddit. these aren't my ideas but i thought it would be nice to share. @Thegirl_inblack