Basic Fucking Kindness

unscheduled reminder that you cant love someone's mental illness away. it is hard as fuck to acknowledge and deal with that fact, but letting your own mental health be dragged to hell with that someone's is not gonna help any of you. if help is required, try to get help, real help, and do not consider yourself as qualified to deal with other's problems unless you are very sure of what you're doing and have really studied the issues also reminder that while you cant love someone's mental illness away, you can love them trough it and with it. you can offer company, and try to understand, and show kindness. be aware of your own limits at every moment, for the things you cant do, and for the things that you can do

socialization, feelings "my feelings are hurt and i need some time to process them so i can better communicate with you is a perfectly valid response"

socialization "just bc someone gets vulnerable and wants your support, doesnt mean they lack awareness or coping strategies. sometimes they just need an outside perspective to validate a feeling or experience, see a blind spot, or feel not so alone in the process"

anxiety "the human stress response seems so maladaptative!"

impostor syndrome, anxiety, socialization, self compassion "what i know ; what i think others know || reality ; what others know"

depression, neurodivergency, self compassion "one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former gifted kid™ is that half assed is better than nothing"

art, self compassion "creativity is like a muscle"

socialization, art "when an artist wants to show you their art"

unscheduled reminder for everyone here that yes, you deserve to exist, and yes, it is okay that you do

self compassion, chores, society "gentle reminder that the 40 hour work week is outdated and was designed with the assumption someone else was going to be always taking care of cooking, cleaning and household errands. it wasnt designed for you to be doing it all and if you're having a hard time, you're not a failure"

adhd, neurodivergency, self compassion "executive dysfunction life hack"

trauma, self compassion "forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time"

long ago, when humans still lived in caves, someone had to stay up all night to watch out for bears etc part of the evolution of the humans made it so a part of the group would be awake at night and sleep at day that part of human history wasnt "that" long ago. there hasnt been time to make brains de-evolve that bit even nowadays, a part of the human poblation has their brains wired to be awake at night no matter what if you have a hard time staying awake at day and/or sleeping at night, dont beat yourself up too much about it. its unfair if you blame yourself for stuff that isnt your fault

parenting, trauma "there is a tiktok i saw of a woman who was 80 who said when she was 13/14 and was first trying out makeup and her mom saw her put on blush, her mom said she looked like a clown"

meds, adhd, depression "life hack got something you need to do at a certain time every day (e.g., take meds)? start giving your cat a treat right before you do it"

emotions, trauma, self compassion "emotional flashbacks often dont have a visual component. pay attention to suddenly feeling small, powerless, helpless-- they're signs you might've been triggered and yanked into an emotional flashback"

drugs, trauma "psychedelics are not therapy" [subjetive take. dont take sourceless posts on the internet as medical advice carelessly]

socialization, abuse, self compassion "please dont beat yourself up for not picking up on red flags sooner. you did your best at the time and ultimately its not your fault someone was treating you badly"

socialization, lgbt "if someone is coming out to you/telling you about their sexuality, match their energy"

mental health, self compassion, socialization "you hate yourself so loudly"