Basic Fucking Kindness

socialization, microinjuries, invisible problems, discrimination "if you smell the same smell too often, if you taste the same food every day, it irritates you. [...] the pointless remark you just said isnt the first drop. it might be the 2000th drop, or the 3000th drop, or the 10000th drop. even if it means absolutely nothing to you, and you thought nothing when you said it, people being irate about the racist, classist, sexist or transphobic thing you just said is not irrational. it might be your first time saying such shit, but it is not their first time hearing it"

everyone is welcome to share their own tips on this, you might help anothers even if it seems like a small thing

depression, self compassion "self care for when you hit rock bottom"

kindness "honestly that "it costs 0 dollars to be kind" bullshit is bullshit. it does cost things to be kind. it costs time. it costs energy. and it isnt always easy and it isnt always natural. it costs so much to be kind, sometimes. but thats the whole point."

for reciprocity's sake, and because it does no harm to do it, shot out to https://t.me/heartwarmingmemes not focused on educating, but more focused on making their subscribers feel better whenever the chance arrives. for those who might need extra smiles every now and then

gaslight, definition "gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spin, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity"

abuse, trauma "growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude...... if you've never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why i get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why i ask "are you mad at me?" when you set the bag of groceries down too hard? [...] abused kids speak a language you cant learn" [kindness is not just actions; kindness is also understanding]

unscheduled reminder for old and new subscribers/visitors alike (for the ones interested, that is) that this is still, and will keep being, active, and you are still welcome to participate in it, regardless of it being an "old post"

unscheduled reminder that it is okay to feel sad after making the right decision

trauma, abuse, socialization "abused children have been taught that love can coexist with abuse. this shapes our perceptions of love."

self compassion, mental health "this is progress this is also progress and so is this"

kindness, self compassion "no need to be best only good and kind"

mental health, self compassion "dont let a bad day distract you from all the progress you've made"

lgbt, labels "viewing queer identities as "this is the label that makes me happy and feels most accurate now" rather than "this is who i am, was, and always will be" will definitely take the pressure off, friends. changing your mind is proof that you have one"

society, kindness "reasons why im polite to waiters"

socialization, kindness, mental illness, lgtb "i live my life under the basic principle that people know their minds, bodies, genders, and orientations better than i do so."

unscheduled reminder for those who may need it: you own your body, but you are not your body

mental health, intrusive thoughts "do you ever catch yourself thinking of something so weird and fucked up that you have to stop mid-thought [...] our thoughts arent always from us. sometimes random thoughts are our brain trying to process and understand concepts we've heard from other people. your reaction to that thought shows your true feelings on the subject"

socialization, kindness, invisible problems "on the surface, things seem the same for all but you dont know how deep their troubles run be kind. or just, dont be a jerk. good enough."

kindness, society "remember kids: if you see someone shoplifting food, no you didnt"