Our Side of the Story

Incase you're wondering I'm alive and well just having busy days. I don't want to write or post things in a rush without giving them my time, apologies. During the little breaks I get I will try to proceed from where we stopped until then let's warm up with my playlist for the week, cool? Cool✌️🏾

If you're a fan of all kinds of blues and rock, listen to John Mayer's Continuum album😊

[Sonder] Somethings don't especially add up in my head. For example, the thought that every someone is possibly someone's loved one perplex me. Your mean boss can be the best dad to his daughter. The trash talking guy on a taxi can be someone's beloved brother. The gossipy neighbor of yours may mean the world to her son. Your super annoying classmate can be someone's best friend...the list goes on. Every someone is possibly a beloved someone to at least someone. As much as this reminds me to be more graceful towards both myself and others, it bugs me not to know where exactly this discrepancy roots from. Why is the whatever ounce of "goodness" we have so compartmentalized? I guess as a society we focus too much on being a good parent, a lovely daughter, a wonderful son, a great friend a good student, a good leader, a good employee...that we forget about being a good human being. When the whole is good, it is guaranteed the pieces are just as good. But not necessarily the other way around. Maybe this is what the psalmist had in mind when he said ልጄ ሆይ ሰው ሁን to his Son. @as_hannah_thinks

Off the topics we've been on recently but let me state this real quick. I'm all in for kindness and spreading love with every chance you get. But never let people use you and take advantage of your kindness, I repeat NEVER! Learn how to stand up for yourself and teach others discipline, allowing their attempts to take you for granted ✨IS NOT KINDNESS✨ It just proves your incapability of defending what's right.

I'll drop some points tomorrow that I think are solutions if you've ever faced parental neglect. Till then, as per usual let me know your relationships with your parents. How is it? Are you friends with them? Or do you just give them a slight nod every now and then? Just anything let me know @DebbieTesfaye 😊 Good night and have a great week beautiful humans🤍

How can emotional neglect cause trauma? Those behavioral defects we notice on people? Like arrogance, self centeredness, refusal to believe they're wrong, always looking for validation or approval and a lot more usually are caused by emotional dismissal in the formative years. Moreover a child who's had their emotions dismissed will face difficulties to form healthy relationships because they tend to be attracted to someone with similar personality as their parents. According to psychologist and researcher John Gottman, mate attraction and selection may be either hormonal or the potential result of a phenomenon known as imprinting. This theory suggests that we can become psychologically conditioned to being attracted to a distinct parental personality type, with the accompanying need for love, by the time we’re 18 months old. This “imprinting” is the result of a combination of factors, including, perhaps most importantly, how we received (or were deprived of) love, intimacy, and security from our parent(s) or primary guardian. 3/n