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, was just walking by, but Have noticed one very interesting phrase ... :
"You are always in my heart, my dear!"
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Happy people are characterised by the belief that they are able to control their situation, whereas unhappy people tend to believe that they are a victim of fate. Happy people are also more psychologically resilient, assertive and open to experience.
But how good is the evidence for this alternative viewpoint then - that happiness, and not financial status, contributes to good health and long life? A study of nuns, spanning seven decades, supports this theory. Autobiographies written by the nuns in the early 1920s were scored for positive and negative emotions. Nuns expressing the most positive : emotions lived on average ten years longer than those expressing the least positive emotions.
Happy people, it seems, are much less likely to fall ill and die than unhappy people. But what must we do to be happy? Experts cite the old maxim : “be happy with what you’ve got.” Look around you, they say, and identify the positive factors in your life. Concentrating on the negative aspects of one’s life is really a no-no, and so is worrying.
Worrying is a negative thinking habit that is nearly always about something that lies in the future. It stems, apparently, from our cave dwelling days, when we had to think on a day-to-day basis about how and where to find food and warmth, for example.
But in the modern world, worrying simply undermines our ability to enjoy life in the present. More often than not, the things we worry about never come to pass anyway. Just as important is not to dwell on the past; past mistakes, bad experiences, missed opportunities and so on.
What else can we do? Well, engage in a loving relationship with another adult, and work hard to sustain it. Try to plan frequent interactions with your family, friends and neighbours (in that order). Make sure you’re not working so hard that you’ve no time left for personal relationships and leisure. If you are, leave your job voluntarily to become self-employed, but don’t get sacked - that's more damaging to well-being than the loss of a spouse, and its effects last longer. In your spare time, join a club, volunteer for community service, or take up religion.
If none of the above works, then vote for a political party with the same agenda as the King of Bhutan, who announced that his nation's objective is indeed national happiness.
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