Basic Fucking Kindness

socialization "you have to meet ppl where they are. and sometimes you have to leave them there."

trauma "there are moments that divide your life into before and after"

parenting "kids are not responsible for"

socialization "if you are hiking in a group and waiting for slower people to catch up, dont start walking again when they do catch up, because then you got a rest and they didnt"

self compassion, socialization "being angry at someone who hurt you doesnt make you a bad person"

self compassion "i just saw this "you're not lazy, you only have a certain amount of energy and right now you are using it all to survive" "

body "not eating because i feel nauseous | feeling nauseous because im not eating dont get me wrong, this is # mood but try eating a piece of bread with salt"

mental illness "i want to upgrade my depression to the one that makes you create starry night"

self compassion, trauma "who you are becoming is more important than who you've been"

socialization, self compassion "important reminder: you get to decide who you give your time, energy and space to and you really dont have to feel guilty about it"

extra post today: watermelons

kindness, socialization "your level of education means nothing if you never learned any compassion"

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therapy, trauma, self compassion, healing "therapist: you need to open up more me: i cant"

self compassion, intrusive thoughts "if courage isnt the absence of fear but doing the right thing regardless of it, maybe confidence isnt the absence of insecurity but knowing you have real worth despite it [..] by this same token, maybe goodness isnt the absence of bad thoughts or impulses, but the conscious choice to behave according to your moral ideas in spite of them"

self compassion, socialization, trauma "not to get too deep on main but did anyone else have such deeply rooted issues with their self worth for so long that they thought as a kid/teen that their only redeeming feature was being “low maintenance” and now as an adult you give yourself guilt pangs asking for any more than the barest minimum in virtually any relationship because asking for things might negate your only good quality which is just “doesn’t ask for things” "

socialization, love "if you love a flower, dont pick it up. because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. so if you love a flower, let it be. love is not about possession. love is about appreciation"

society "look at rosaline, the rose that grew out of concrete"

self compassion, socialization "when you're not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance when you're used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression when you're not used to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish your control zone is not a good benchmark"

self compassion, impostor syndrome "whatever you think you cant do, just know that there is someone who is confidently doing it wrong right now"