🤍 Soul writes 🤍

Arguments There is one thing I have understood about arguments.. Whenever I feel like explaining this to someone, I would give them this example I created.. Imagine I am driving a car on a road... From the opposite side, a truck is coming towards me at full speed. I realize that I cannot control the truck's speed or direction. The only thing I can control is my own steering and my own brakes! If I keep speeding just because I know I'm on the right side, we may still crash. And when that happens, both of us will be damaged. The accident won't hurt only the person who was wrong.. it will hurt me too. So what do I do? I slow down.. I apply the brakes.. I move aside.. Not because I was wrong.. but because I value life more than proving a point! I think arguments in close relationships are very similar.. When the other person is angry and raising their voice, I may try once or twice to explain myself calmly. But if I see that their anger is only growing, I choose to stop. Not because I have no answer, but because continuing at that moment will only make us say things we don't truly mean.. After every heated argument, people rarely remember who was right. They remember the hurtful words, the silence, the distance, and the damage those moments created. Sometimes, saving a relationship is more important than winning an argument. There will always be another chance to talk when both minds are calm. But some words spoken in anger leave marks that even a sincere apology cannot completely erase. Peace is not always about being silent. Sometimes, it is about knowing when to press the brakes. Also, here is a catch.. the truck might feel that it was on the right track and car was in opposite direction.. It is all about perspective.. But at a particular moment.. what matters is avoiding the crash! ~ 🦋