Muslim Marriage Tips

I am reminded of a hadith where a sahabi came to Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Prophet asked Him about His attar fragrance he sensed. He said that He got married recently. Prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not say to him why you did not invite me, why you did you not informed me about your nikah. Social media talks about boundaries only to break relationships while Islam talks about boundaries to maintain relationships.

Observing Your Wife’s Beautiful Manners The Noble Scholar Ibn Sa’adi [رحمه الله] said ❝When a husband reflects over his wife’s beautiful manners and good qualities that he loves about her, and then compares these qualities to those reasons which causes him anger and irritation, perhaps there is some negativity he sees whilst living with her, but it could be that he is focussing on just one or two [negative] things, yet, in reality, those qualities that he loves in her are much greater. Therefore, if the husband was just, then he would overlook her bad points which actually disappear and vanish due to her goodness. In this way companionship continues. As for turning away from good qualities, and only observing shortcomings – even if they are very few – then this is from being unjust, and the husband can hardly be settled with his wife.❞ [Bahjat Al-Qaloob, (Page: 153-154) | Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya Miraath Al-Anbiyya]

Claim: Muslim women are in polygamous marriages because they have no choice 1. Islām is based on the natural disposition of human beings, Allāh is the All-Knowing and He knows His creation. This is His Legislation. 2. Whether in monogamy or polygamy, men are maintainers and protectors of women. So in that sense, women need men, whether it is one woman or multiple women. Polygamy has been the norm all throughout history with the exception of our current "civilized" era. 3. The human society since the beginning of time is patriarchal, meaning, that men are in authority. Islām has regulated this natural disposition of human beings. 4. This "independent" woman syndrome is nothing but deception. A woman who thinks of herself that way will have a very hard time finding a good man to be her husband. 5. Even if this "independent" woman eventually gets married, she will face many problems. Her spouse, if he is a real man, will not settle for having an equal in the marriage, unless he is a half-man. 6. Muslim women can choose whether they want to be in a polygamous marriage or not. If a man who is already married approaches them, they can either accept or reject the marriage proposal. 7. In its history, the West has a terrible track record of how its women were treated, and thus, feminism was a reaction to that. In Islām, women are already given their rights and roles. The West should deal with its own problems and not try to impose its "morals" on the rest of the world. 8. Being dependent on a man is not limited to financial support. It extends to love, nurturing, and caring for her children. The West is not interested in any of that. The Western materialistic culture is mainly about material gains and indulging in physical pleasures. 9. If a woman, Muslim or otherwise, thinks that she is independent with her top paying corporate job and perceived "freedom", then let her wait until she is in her 30s and 40s when the bitter reality strikes. 10. Feminism is a cancer and is nothing less than a tool to destroy the family structure. If you suffer from it, free yourself before it is too late. Conclusion: women need men as their protectors and maintainers. A protector and maintainer is the one in authority. A woman can marry any man she chooses to marry. Not all men are responsible, but responsible and masculine men do exist. And such men will not give a second look to an "independent" woman.

Dear sister, Before you say yes to an already married man,here are few things to note. He has been married to his wife(ves),they had lived and loved.they had being through different phases and you can only continue to exist from where you met them.You can never become the person with whom he learned marriage with. The other wife/ves doesn't have to be bad before a man marries another. Regardless of the number of kids you would have,The joy he felt holding his first child will be not same as the one he will feel while you have your own child(probably) There will be days you will want to take over as a wife,but there would be restraints because you are unsure of how the other wife will feel about your decision. You will feel not loved,you will feel like a second option (sometimes) and that will be no one's fault. A man is a man and therefore,He can never dispose equally There would be jealousy in your heart.there would be days you wished there is no other woman (may Allah ease it )And there would be negative talks that will penetrate your heart but By Allah,You will overcome it In Sha Allah. If you can't cope with these and more, please do not say yes. May Allah soften our hearts.Ameen https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips

🍃🍃 ▪️الأم أو الزوجـــة ⁉️ ▪️سُئل الشيخ صالح بن فوزان الفوزان حفظه الله تعالى ما نصه : أمي تسكن بمفردها مستوحشة ، وأخشى عليها ، وتلح علي أن أنقلها إلى بيتي لتسكن معي وأرعاها وتأنس بي ، وزوجتي مصرة على الرفض لمشاركة أمي لها في البيت ،فهل أطيع زوجتي أو أمي ؟ ▪️فأجاب حفظه الله قائلا : إذا كانت هذه الزوجة لا تتلاءم مع والدتك فأسكنها وحدها وأسكن أمك معك ، أو فالتمس زوجة غيرها تساعدك على بر والدتك . أما إنك تضيع والدتك وتذهب مع زوجتك وتطيع زوجتك ؛ هذا أمر لا يجوز ، هذا من العقوق . 📖 مجموعة رسائل دعوية ومنهجية(١٨٩/٢) The mother or the wife? Shaykh Saalih bin Fawzan Al-Fawzan (may Allah preserve him) was asked: My mother lives alone lonely and I fear for her, so I want to bring her to my house to take care of her and keep her company. However, my wife refuses to share the house with my mother. Should I obey my wife or my mother? He may Allaah have mercy upon him replied saying: If your wife does not get along with your mother, then house them separately, or find another wife who will help you take care of your mother. But if you abandon your mother and side with your wife, this is not permissible and is from disobedience to your parents. _ Majmoo'atu Ar-Rasaa-il Da'wiyyatu wa Manhajiyyatu (2/189) https://t.me/MuslimMarriageTips

An Advice For Our Married Sisters! When you become a wife, once in a while, look at your husband's face when he is asleep. That is the person who has no blood relationship with you but keeps trying to love you. Once in a while when your husband comes home from work or from his place of business, look at his face, kiss his hand. That is the hand that is working hard to find sustenance to provide you and your children. Before the marriage contract he had no debt of gratitude to you. In fact, he has a debt of gratitude to his father and his mother. He chose you before he could repay all his parents' debt of gratitude. Once in a while when you are alone with him, look at your husband, look at his face with affection and full of respect. It's the face that's struggling out there, it's the face that's burning in the hot sun, it's the face that holds back the heat of the sun and sometimes ignores himself, ignores his own safety, only because of you and your children. Their sacrifice, the sacrifice of a hard worker is very noble. Islam highly respects people who have a high work ethic. People who work can be said to be Jihaad fi sabilillah. As the Prophet (PBUH) said: “Who works hard to make a living for his family, then he is a mujaahid fi sabilillah." (Narrated by Ahmad) The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) also said: “Whoever in the afternoon feels exhausted because of the work of his hands, then in the afternoon he gets forgiveness.” (Thabarani and al-Baihaqi). I salute and look respectfully at people whose hands are black and rough because they seek sustenance in the way of Allah. And I salute and look respectfully for all the struggle of a man who seeks sustenance in the way of Allah, seeking halaal sustenance for his family. Don't give up brothers, fathers, all men with *father's titles* out there. May Allah SWT protect you and give everything you want for your family. #Ameen

From The Traits Of Ahlus-Sunnah: Gentleness With One's Wife The Imām Al-Albānī [رحمه الله] said: ❝The gentlest of the people to their wives are Ahlus-Sunnah; and from the Sunnah is to have good dealings with one's wife.❞ [Mutafarriqāt Tape, (No. 282) | Translated By Raha Batts]

"But Khadijah رضي الله عنها was a businesswoman!" You forget that she was: • A righteous woman with modesty. • A woman with noble manners and she was a wonderful mother. •A loving wife who obeyed her husband, she had no trouble following him. She was his biggest supporter. • She suffered hardship after hardship, but remained faithful to her dīn and to her husband. • She made her home righteous! Next time you mention Khadijah bint Khuwaylid رضي الله عنها try to mention these qualities and characteristics as well.