USMKK Confessions

Interesting pasal dobi

kesimpulnnya, macam mana effort kita pun untuk make sure we get the right partner, jodoh tu semua already written in Luh Mahfuz way before the human being actually exist so dia adalah takdir yang memang takkan berubah. so imo, the way our deen ask us to seek for our partner is the perfect way. lagi menjaga, lagi jauh dari fitnah. i cant argue yang if you couple, yk more abt your partner. their habit, how they handle themselves but if the end goal is marriage i’ll stick with macam mana yang agama kita anjurkan. sebab couple itself terlalu banyak (read: terlalu 10000x) keburukan if nak compare dengan kebaikannya sebab macam mana pun caranya, at the end bagaimana nasib perkahawinan kita tu sendiri is already written. effort is so damn important but jangan lupa yang kita juga adalah hamba dan ada tuhan yabg suda memegang takdir2 dalam hidup kita. kita jangan berusaha seolah olah kita takpercaya yang adanya takdir yang dah ditetapkan untuk kita. that’s what i always said to myself.

yk, hukum Allah ni senang ja tapi kita yang selalu susahkan dengan alasan2 yang semata mata untuk buat nafsu kita puas. as for your question, Islam itself has its own way for us to decide and choosing our life partner and it’s called taaruf and there’s also a thing called istikharah. islam dont ask you to accept the proposal w/o go thru the process of taaruf dulu. like terus terima w/o know anything abt him/her, or tanpa minta petunjuk dekat pemilik takdir tu sendiri (read:Allah). kenal keluarganya, berkenalan dengan dia thru orang ketiga, selidik pasal dia, habit dia, akhlak dia tanya orang sekeliling pasal dia. tanya la segala macam soalan semasa proses tu nak tanya dia antivax ke ada kes jenayah ke, dia comunity flat earther ke. tanya semua benda dan if dia tak jujur thats another thing cause we already asked. kalau kita couple pun kita yakin ke semua yang partner kita bagitau tu betul? bukan islam larang untuk tanya semua benda ni malah sangat digalakkan but dengan syarat jangan sampai ada unsur2 yang membawa kepada unsur haram semasa dalam proses tu. like chat atau call w/o keperluan, chat benda2 lagha yang takde kaitan and etc. dan kalau boleh lebih elok if melalui orang ketiga. dan kalau nak jumpa sendiri pun bole if nak lebih yakin dengan peribadi dan akhlaknya but bawaklah mahram sekali time proses pertemuan tu. no rush in islam in proses taaruf ni. ambikla masa banyak manapun untuk yakinkan diri, buat istikarah andd for thosee yang couple and dah kenall before kahwin, you guys rasa itu jaminan ke yang she/he actually shows you guys dorang punya real self?? and if they show you their real self pun apa jaminan untuk dia terus act like that way after the marriage? yakin dia akan sentiasa jadi orang yang kita kenal dan nak as pasangan? berapa banyak kes2 dekat dunia ni bercinta bagai nak rak bertahun tahun tapi lepas kahwin terus berpisah juga. so perkenalan bertahun before kahwin tu tidaklah menjamin even kita rasa kita memang dah kenal sangat. even kita memang kenal sangat luar dalam dia, still tk menjamin kebahagiaan. kesimpulannya, banyak cara untuk kita kenal psangan kita before kahwin it’s just you want to go thru the halal way or haram way? you are the one who choose but bear in mind that all of that tidaklah menjanjikan macam mana utuhnya, bahagianya perkahwinan tersebut nanti. but for sure benda tu menentuka bagaimana taatnya kita kepada suruhan dan larangan-Nya. sebab bagaimanapun caranya, takdir kita, bagaimana kehidupan kita after kahwin still dalam rahsia dan pegangan allah. you go thru haram way ke or halal way ke but if memang takdirNya memang macam tu macam tu lah yang kita akan go thru. so why not just choose the halal way? yang Dia redha? yang lebih tenang? yang lebih menjamin bukan kasih sayang si dia tapi for sure Dia.. sure, ramai je partner yang sangat baik and after couple 10 tahun together pun they still never change even after the marriage. but thats their stories, what about yours? do we get the same story like them? but bear in mind there must be price yang mereka kena bayar in their marriage sebab dosa yang mereka commit before kahwin. maybe kita tak temgok sebba soc med ni tunjuk yang indah je tak pun kalau allah tak bagi kat dunia akan dibalas kat akhirat kalau mereka still tak bertaubat. and as for those yang not so lucky even after go thru the halal way in the process, it’s okay. it’s never your fault please not blame yourselves for not recognizing your partner that well. because whatever the method was, if He it’s already written that he/she isn’t the one then he isn’t the one. pada akhirnya, pengakhirannya akan tetap sama.

seeing our current situation, i feel the need to up this confession back: #usmkk3706 Nak tanya geng terpaling halal, manusia yang sentiasa berzikir "bercinta lepas kahwin, couple itu haram setiap hari" dekat sini. Okay sorry terlebih sarkastik Macam mana korang nak kenal diri sebenar potential life partner korang kalau tak couple dulu? Sure, kita boleh kenal seseorang semasa berkawan, tapi cukup ke? Someone can be a good friend but a horrible partner. Or some narcissistic and abusive person hide themselves really well in social setting. Ada yang dah dating bertahun baru sedar yang partner diorang toxic and manipulative. Ramai yang dah kenal bertahun baru sedar yang diorang punya partner is abusive and controlling. At least kalau belum kahwin boleh blah gitu je. Kalau dah kahwin terus, you're trapped. One of the common method of manipulation is to socially isolate the victim. Marriage seems like a great tools for that. Are you sure that your "bercinta lepas kahwin" partner is not abusive, gaslighter, kaki pukul, panas baran, financially irresponsible, closeted flatearther and antivaxxer, or someone who doesn't think that marital rape is a thing? Seems like a game of russian roulette to me. And just like any other things in life. Maintaining a relationship needs an experience. Korang sure ke korang boleh handle a relationship tanpa pengalaman. First relationship usually doesn't end really well, let alone when you're legally binded by marriage while dealing with abusive partner Okay let's assume "bercinta lepas kahwin" is more prevalent in muslim community (which I doubt the significance anyway because most muslim I know date around): According to department of statistics, Divorce rate of malaysian in general is 6.1 and 6.2 for man and women respectively.. However, divorce rate for muslim are 7.1 and 7.3. while non-muslim are 4.4 and 4.5. Do whatever you want with this information I don't want to listen to your religious opinion. I want to know what is your plan regarding marriage, how do you decide if someone is worth marrying. Or you just kahwin first find out later, rambo style. I'm expecting some "kita nak kenal orang, kita kena tengok agama dia". I have news for you, people can be hypocrite. Personal experience, worse human I know always hide themselves behind religion. For me marriage is (hopefully) once in a lifetime things. Both marriage and divorce are expensive, I don't want to take any chance Nak tanya geng terpaling halal, manusia yang sentiasa berzikir "bercinta lepas kahwin, couple itu haram setiap hari" dekat sini. Okay sorry terlebih sarkastik ……. r: if He says it’s haram then your opinion isnt matter. nak cakap tu je sebenarnya but ik you dont want the “religious opinion”, according to you.

#usmkk9086 Dengar cerita student curang dgn budak KLE tu ambik MC seminggu .. Betul ke? R: from kle here, sapa tuuu…spil the tea sis

#usmkk9112 Can we please not normalize budaya cop meja especially dekat LEARN and PUMA? I come few time to check on meja kosong but what’s left only the bag/ stuff. Tuannya takde🤡 R: seriously annoying wif them ady, especially single seat tu setiap hari sama benda je, next time takde tempat duduk I akan terus pindahkan benda2 atas meja single ye🥰🙏🏻

#usmkk9005 Sedihnya tak dpt bantuan pusat islam tu. Dulu mohon jpa tak dapat. Mara pun tak dapat. Padahal saya ni kategori b40. Ada ke orang lain yg takde luck macam saya? Monthly parent bagi rm250. Mana nak topup, beli pad lagi. Ada tak idea mcm mana nak survive dgn allowance ni? Nak buat part time saya takut tak terbahagi masa. Mana yang dapat bantuan tu guna elok elok tau. Jangan beli benda yg tak berfaedah. Seeloknya guna untuk beli makanan. R : Dia mamacam ni la. Sy bukan b40 tapi parents sy bagi 200 je. Kita kalau tak ada duit jangan spend macam orang lain. Makan tak boleh byk macam orang lain. Makan kalau perlu je.

#usmkk9100 Once phoenix, will always be phoenix kan C*lina? r1: spill the 🍵

#usmkk9140 kejadian di dobi dm3 belah dm6.apa function beratur dari pagi kalau bakul tu asyik duk situu jaa xgerak langsung. kesian la jgk dkt org lain beratur lama2 mudah je dia g basuh xberatur lgsung. bukan sekali je jdi byk kali dh. kalau nasib x baik lg siap pinjam sabun bakul yg beratur ni ha. mmg org letak situ utk kegunaan ramai pun.