Long Days and Empty Cups
When most mothers think of December and what their household will look like in that month, they feel some pressure to perform and to –ideally– make the entire month of December “Pinterest worthy”. Many months, we homeschoolers just try to knock out the homeschool and chore schedule, let alone decorate a tree, bake cookies, wrap presents and to make our home sparkle enough to welcome guests. After an exhausting (but beautiful!) December comes January, what seems like the longest month of the year. Here is the month with most potential to emphasize that our Days are Long, but the Years are Short.
My day is split up into parts: breakfast, homeschool, chores, lunch, more homeschool, more chores, activities, dinner-prep, dinner, cleanup, activities, wind-down, and finally bedtime. Rinse and repeat the next day. We make our own schedule, but we are also responsible for sticking to it, and for getting done what needs to be gotten done. We are flexible, but we do not have much room for surprises or extra activities. December represents one big extra activity. Despite careful planning of our curriculum, December always entails several weeks of school, and we usually manage to get sick during a few weeks of this month. Despite its length of 31 days, this month does not factor in extra time for tree decorating, present wrapping or traveling to pleasant Christmas events.
In a general, we white mothers try to give our children as many beautiful, Pinterest worthy Christmas moments as we can manage, and we often forget to take out extra time for ourselves to rest and recuperate. We tend to internalize the items left unchecked on that mental list of ‘
Things to Do to Create Beautiful Christmas Memories’. At the end of December, we’re overwhelmed and not feeling very festive.
Many mothers I talk to end up with their reserves depleted by the time January rolls around and yet they still manage to feel bad about being overwhelmed. After Christmas, living rooms seem to have become much smaller due to the sudden influx of toys, and visits from guests. This is why we make New Year’s Resolutions: for that extra motivation to pack old toys away, to have a healthier diet so we feel better. We should give ourselves more grace, especially during the months of December and January.
The Third Reich had wonderful arrangements for women, including almost mandatory mother vacations and spas and health centers dedicated to a mother’s relief. It was well known in the Third Reich: mothering is hard. Homeschooling, having a family in these hostile times, managing a household, cooking for a family when grocery prices are going through the roof seems almost impossible. We parents have no choice but to make it happen and for the sake of our race we have no choice but to be parents! It is because of all of these difficulties, that we have to expect that things can and will go wrong.
Although we mothers know how hard everything is, we also know how beautiful and wonderful it is to raise a family and to invest everything in our children. We do all of this, for the future of our children. We’re very often forgetful of one thing amidst our efforts and that is to take care of ourselves. We owe ourselves a lot more grace and patience than we admit.
@DissidentHomeschool