Confessions

Hi Admin. Please keep me anonymous. My uncles went to my woman's place for lobola negotiations and payment. My woman engaged her family on the amount we agreed on, so my family knew beforehand that we'd be charged R50 000. They went there armed with R55 000. The negotiations went well and my uncles paid what was charged by the other family on the spot. They agreed that makoti would be officially handed over the following weekend. Two days later she complained about pain in the stomach. She sadly passed on the following day. Would it be insensitive of me to ask for the lobola refund?

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PINK WATER Out of desperation, I used pink water to attract rich men. Since I used it only taxi and truck drivers hit on me. So I went back to the person I bought it from to give me anti pink water and she said she doesn't have it. I tried a sangoma but she failed to help. Does anyone have a solution for me? I want things to go back to natural.

MARRIAGE AND HIV STATUS My boyfriend is 29 years old we been in a relationship for almost 2 years now I'm 23 ,He wants to marry me! I'm scared because I did not tell him my status of being HIV positive 😭good people it's not easy to disclose your status to someone you love💔😭 because of fear to be rejected I swear it's not easy😭💔I know you gonna judge me because you are not in my situation 👏 please good people help me😭what should I do?! Ilove him! Yes I want to get married to him! I've been giving excuses when he wants to marry me👏I'm even thinking of breaking up with him because of marriage 😩I don't know why I got my self in relationship yet I know my situation 😭I never knew it will end up in this marriage level😭

Please hide my identity. Are we really forced to stay with men because they took us to school when our families couldn't? He paid lobola when I was a student and now he wants a big wedding and children. Reality is I don't enjoy doing anything with him. Sleeping with him feels so forced. I'm on a pill because I don't want his children. I never loved him and don't think I'll ever do. I appreciate things he has done for me and my family when we had nothing. But I'm working now and he doesn't have to do anything for us, I just want to leave. When I tell my family I want out they say he will pull a trigger on me. Am I supposed to stay where I'm not happy because of fear of death? Don't people help out of their good hearts anymore? Isn't that what God expects? I'm sure his soul mate is out there waiting for him, cause I know he's not my type.

DATING MY BEST FRIEND’S FATHER I'm a 19 year old girl currently on gap year. Please keep me anonymous. I'm dating my best friend's father, he is 46. My friend does not know about this. When I visit my friend he has this habit of deliberately being loveydovey with his wife in front of me. But later on he'll be texting me asking for naughty pictures. I told him to consider my feelings when I'm at his house but he doesn't. When I want to break up with him he threatens to take the iPhone he bought for me. So I started dating a guy my age, he lives next-door from my sugar's house. He gets angry everytime he sees me with the boy. How is it fair that he can show love to his wife in front of me but I can't do the same when I'm with my boyfriend? Why is he being selfish and childish?

WE WILL KEEP THIS A SECRET I'm a woman from Giyani. I have one kid from my previous relationship and I been married for 6 years with my husband and we don't have a child together yet and he doesn't even have one outside. We been trying but nothing is happening. Yesterday my husband's aunt visited me and told me that they can help me in this situation, she said she asked my husband's younger brother to sleep with me so I can get a baby since he already have 2 kids and he agreed so they only waiting for my approval and we will keep this a secret. I didn't know what to say to her because the brother she's talking about is 24 years and I am 38 years, my husband is 41. I just told her I will think about it. I feel like this is a disrespect but at the same time I feel tempted to agree because I feel like a baby would bring happiness to our marriage. My baby from a previous relationship stay at his father's place. Please help me what should I do ?

A maπ should always focus on his purpose and mission.

A Maπ Who Frowns At Hypergamy Is A Fool A maπ who frowns at womeπ for being hypergamous is a fool. Hypergamy is the check and wake up call. If you are building and making moves, she orbits around you. If you are relaxing and procrastinating, she leaves. A womaπ is, and should be naturally hypergamous. She craves for a maπ who is capable of offering her offspring security and protection. We are not talking about hypergamy extremity here. Some womeπ will leave even when you are able to provide basic necessities. That one is a serpentine Jezebel, a queen of the streets. If you are smart as a man, you will smell these a hundred yards away. A man who cannot provide is useless, maybe. A man like that won’t be able to take care of his offspring. This is detrimental, not only to him but the offspring. To prevent this, hypergamy as a natural imperative have been put in place. And this is why it’s the womaπ who decides whose baby to carry and whose to discard. This is why there were no family planning measures for men in the olden days. Sometimes, a womaπ thinks that she’s won because she was able to wrap a man with her little finger. But as much as nature is at work, most times, the real winner is the woman who walks away from such a man. Women love intentionally because they want to fulfil their selfish interests. The self interest is in her nature and it has its advantages, for example, she benefits together with the offspring which somehow looks like low-key exploitation towards the man. Extreme hypergamy is a vice. A womaπ demanding to be taken care of by a maπ yet she does not have his offspring is low-key exploitation. Even demanding child support might be low-key exploitation because a mother benefits from such proceeds. If the man is a failure, lacks purpose, and is not driven by mission, the womaπ automatically loses. A Womaπ who walks away from such a maπ wins. Mission in a man’s life is the king, and the woman is only a reward. As a maπ, one should always prioritize his mission for a woman who walks away from him if he doesn’t wins. Let’s be realistic. Why should a woman marry a 45 plus year old man who is broke. And why should she stay with him? Only a foolish womaπ would stick to such a man. Such meπ spent their youth chasing women, drinking alcohol and idling around. They never chased a mission. They did not cultivate a purpose, and if they did, the plough-back was taken away by random womeπ. 20s are for learning. 30s are for practicing what you learned in your 20s. It’s for execution. This should be the age of a man to accumulate wealth and so we should see the outcome in his 40s. Remember life does not have reverse gear. If you falter in your youth, you are likely going to suffer in your old age. That’s why men should be discouraged from getting married in their 20s. ‘Why should I get married to a 40-year-old maπ who spent his youth chasing women and giving away his commitment cheaply?’ She is going to ask every man who does not heed to the above advice and her question is going to be a hundred percent legitimate. If a man does not listen to these teachings, his old age is going to be chaos and tears. As a young maπ, focus on your purpose. The womaπ you are chasing and spending on until you forget to invest in yourself because you are ‘married’ will soon leave when she is done squandering your cash. She is going to leave with these kids you call yours and there is nothing you are going to do. She won’t consider all the sacrifices you made for her thinking that she was your family. She has higher chances of making it in life credit to her hypergamy than you. She is going to marry a wealthy s!πp while you d!£ of poverty and the memories you shared two decades ago. For everything a maπ gets in his life, he must sweat for it. It was written that a maπ will have to toil to get something to eat. A womaπ who has no skill or education will live in a mansion and scale heights a maπ with a skill and a degree can only dream of. Stop investing in her. Stop chasing her.

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Hi Admin . Please hide my name. I'm a married woman and my husband has been unemployed for quite sometime. I cheated on him with an employed guy. Out of greed, I fed the employed guy korobela. At first I just wanted him to leave his wife and take care of me, but the korobela was so strong that he wanted to be with me all the time. So I found a room in another village and the married guy moved in with me. I told my husband that I found work somewhere. I only go home on weekends. The married guy has abandoned his family but he takes good care of me and my husband to some extend. I use his money to buy my husband and kids food. He is also assisting with refurbishing my house. Here is the thing, my husband is about to receive his RAF money. That's what the lawyer said. I want know if there's a way I can suspend the korobela this side and go back to my husband full time? Please don't judge me, you are not God. A girl gotta do what she gotta do to survive. I don't want to cancel the korobela, I want to put it on hold.

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Please keep me anonymously ⚠️⚠️⚠️ I live at home with my brother and his girlfriend, we are both working, me and my brother, my problem is, my brother doesn’t buy food at all when he gets paid, I am the only one who buys everything but his girlfriend will waste them, she will cook 3 seshebo’s all in same day, for example, chicken,wors, and cow heels, she cooks like she is cooking for 8 people and her and my brother will eat everything before we go to sleep, this girl is on druğs, she is so untidy, I am not sure why my brother thinks she can make her his woman, everyone in this village was surprised when she first got here, my brother is a handsome guy but I guess love is blind, our families from both sides tried to chase her away but my brother will go and fetch her again, our parents are late, they were both very strict, none of this will not be happening if one of them was still alive, there is always full of boys at home that she smokes with, she sleeps with all this guys, my parents’s house lost dignity because of my brother, this girl left her 4 kids back home which none of the kids belongs to my brother, her mother has even given up on her, I don’t know if I should move out or continue living in pain here, my fear is to move out and my parents’s house becomes very dirty because I am the one who tries to clean when I am off, please help on what I must do, police are not helping too😭

Please keep me anonymous🌎🌎🍒 My husband once cheated on me and I forgave him, deep down I knew I didn’t forgive him and I want a revenge, this December we were at a funeral at my in-laws, I saw my husband’s friend whom I know he is a womaniser, I asked for his numbers (it was on Tuesday and the burial was on Saturday) he gave me his numbers and later I texted him and asked him what was his fantasy in the bedroom and he said 3 some, I said same, he asked if I wish to try it soon I said yes if there is a third available one, as I said he is a womaniser, he organised one of his many girlfriends and I told them they should be ready I will tell them the date soon, later that day we left at the funeral (his grandma’s place) to our house, our house is 2 hours drive from there, so the next morning my husband packed his bag and said he will only return on Sunday since he is the one organising the funeral, I was happy since I home alone ( our kids went my mother at the beginning of December) I woke up and cleaned the house and changed bedding, I texted the guy and told him I am home alone, he asked if I will host them I said yes, the day went on and later on around 7pm, he came with his girlfriend, I cooked nice food and we are, he brought alcohol and bubbly, we drank and we all went to shower around 9pm and went straight to the bedroom😋😋 I enjoyed very much, it best night of my life, the following day, they left in the morning, I am now relieved because I did a revenge of cheating on him, I will never repeat it unless if he cheats again then game on😋😋

Please keep me anonymous🍒🍒🍒 I am married and my husband found me with 2 kids from different baby daddies, we are good and he loves my kids as his own, my problem is me and my both baby daddies we are still seeing each other in private, each and every week I make sure that I visit both of them in their rooms while my husband is at work because we stay not far from each other here at Thembisa, I don’t know if I am wrong or what but in December while I we were at his home ( mošala lapeng) my first baby daddy’s sister called me and asked me if she should bring her kids to me for few days because she found a new boyfriend and she wants to visit him, I agreed because I didn’t see a problem with that because there is no one she can leave her kids with as they don’t have parents, she brought her kids and left, my husband was not home that time, when he returned I told him my first baby’s aunt brought her kids here for few days as she is not available, he got so furious and told me that is a sign of disrespect and the kids are not welcomed here🥹 I was so hurt asking myself why will my husband hate 1st child’s family this much, he told me I must never involve people from my past relationships in our home, am I wrong for babysitting my ex squiza’s kids or my husband is the problem?

Keep me anonymous🚫🚫🚫 I am 42years I stay in Polokwane because of work, I’ve been here for over a decade now, I usually have a corner that I use to get ladies who offer paid service, last year around June when I went there as usual, I found a young from the same street as me offering the same services, she lives in the same street at me and I attended school with her mother because we are the same age, I was very shocked to see her as young as she is, she was only 18 years and fresh from matric, she matriculated in 2024 and failed, last year in 2025 she came to Polokwane to upgrade in one of the colleges, I don’t even think she goes to school, this hurts me very bad because she is still young, I thought she will come to her senses and quit the first time she saw me but she continued as if nothing happened, I guess it is because she told herself that should I tell her mother, she will tell my wife back home too, what must I do in this case? Should I tell her mother or I should just let her be? It pains me because every time when I go home her mother always ask me “have you ever seen Phuti there”? And I always say no🥹 this gives me sleepless nights because she is exactly the same age as my daughter and she went to university around Pretoria, what if she does the same there? Eish please help with advices🥹

Please sir help me post Happy new year,I enter this new year with pains . my husband who have sacrifice everything for my job ,my life and everything left me since for another and this lady is my chief braids maid when I found out she did not feel resmoursful of her action either my husband.I have never cheated on my husband before,i have two kids for him boy and girl ,his family is saying he is old enough to take decision.nobody is saying anything. i called his friend that did best man for him to talk to him but he refuse to listen to any one .his best man said I should allow him be and keep praying.right now am stuck at the middle with no hope ,I woke up yesterday and took a bold step to face my life the way I have seen it and give the best to my kids so I packed my things and kids and left for my cousin sister house because there is no space in my father's house because of my brothers wives and fight .. please I really need help to start up zobo,kunu and snacks business to pick up the pieces of my life and prepare for my kids in resuming school next week. please if you can help me with any of these items I will appreciate it alot and come and pick it up ,I stay at idemili nkpor

Hey Admin Can you please keep me anonymous. I'm struggling with emotional attachment. I have been dating this guy for two years I became so attached to him, and now I'm failing to move on from him. I'm trying my level best to move on but I can't. I have lost so much weight I'm even losing myself. Can you please ask your followers you have been in the same situation help me with some advice. I'm struggling. I think I'm still holding on to memories he was such a good person, he loved me, cared for me. He never cheated. I never did as well. I became so obsessed with him. He decided to leave I tried fixing my obsession for him. I'm struggling to let him go. 24 year old female