BROKEN PEN🖊

This is my broken pen for the year. I was pregnant with my man and the plan was to marry before anyone notices that am pregnant because you all know how African parents behave. But my man after using funny excuses to decline from all the plans , he also broke up with me because he thinks my co-tenant whom he came to know just by visiting me is a better human than me because, I was just a certificate community health nurse and the other is a diploma midwife, he quickly went ahead to break up with me while I was still pregnant in my fifth month down just to pave way for him. I didn't give up , reacted to pain as a normal human being, I cried, begged but to no results, Today I'm a BSc midwife, hoping to do my Masters soon. He ended up marrying another woman after realizing he left treasure for island. He now refused to take care of his son using his new family as an excuse but I'm taking full responsibility for my son knowing his father is just not at peace. Most men reap what they sow. Some men are evil

I’m a 34-year-old woman, married to my husband (36) for 8 years. We have a 5-year-old son, and ever since I got pregnant, my mother-in-law has been acting like the boy isn’t my husband’s. Why? Because my son came out with my dark curly hair and deep dimples, and according to her, “No one in their family looks like that.” At first, she used to make small small comments like, “Ei, are you sure of your dates? Nine months diɛ are you sure?” Or, “Hmm… that your travel things was wild paa.” After I gave birth, the comments turned into serious accusations. She told my husband to do a DNA test “just to be sure,” she told people in church that the child “doesn’t really resemble their side,” and has never even once introduced my son at a family gathering as “my grandson… I think.” I kept begging my husband to say something, but he’d always brush it off with, “Oh you know my mother, she just talks. Don’t mind her.” So I stopped asking… and I made my own plans. I ordered a DNA test, took the samples from my son and my husband, and when the results came, it said 99.9999% match. I kept it quietly. Now fast forward to her 60th birthday party. She threw a whole event at an hotel, family, church people, co-tenants, everybody was there. When she stood up to give her speech, she said, “This year I’m praying for truth, peace, and transparency in this family. Especially for those who need it most.” And she looked straight at me. That was it. I took out the envelope from my handbag, walked to her table, and calmly said, “Happy birthday, Ma. Here’s the truth and clarity you’ve been praying for.” She opened the envelope, looked at the paper, went quiet, then started crying and stormed out of her own birthday. Now my husband says I ruined her celebration, and my sister-in-law says I embarrassed “an old woman” in public. But honestly, I feel free. I’ve carried this shame and disrespect for too long, and I’m done. So be honest, was I wrong for finally showing the receipts at the party? Or did she have it coming?

Keep me anonymous…I’m now singlet 🥲💔… I have a girlfriend who is 5yrs older than me. How I met her was God sent. I took my dad to the hospital and luckily she was a Muslim and I am too but she was not able to speak the Hausa language. I’m young but I got beard and I look demure 😅. She was the receptionist so I asked her name and she mentioned Islamic name so I was like wow youre a Muslim and she answered yes. So I changed the language to Hausa and she said she’s unable to speak and that’s where it literally started. I told her I would help her to learn if she wishes… she gave me her contact. It was a week before the Eid ( Sala ), she live alone in Kumasi here, her family is in eastern. So we were talking and I told her I will bring her meat and she said she would be very happy if I quench her loneliness, so I did, I took a very nice fried cow meat to her house around 9 pm, we talked saaaa by the time I realized it was 11 so she insisted that I should spend the night cos their area was scary. She asked me to join her on her bed. So I did and guess what, even though I’ve not proposed cos I knew she would reject me, she looks classy. You know nurses. Masa ff at 1 AM I said let me try something, I started touching her and stuffs but she told me she has a boyfriend.. yawa. I thought that’s all…. That’s where the “but” came in,,, she said but they are having some issues and it’s like two months now.. so ff we did it and it continued…… Now they are back together and about to marry She claims she doesn’t love him cos he’s not that strong in bed but Secof her age if she doesn’t it’ll be too late for her cos she needs to make a family I too love her but not ready for marriage Any piece of advice…. I will be in the comments section 🥲

My girl cheated on me with 4 different dudes 💔 now she acting like none of it happened, talking bout I still love you and I miss us and the crazy part is, I still love her too. Be real y’all, am I dumb if I take her back?

When I went to his place on my birthday, he was not around, he told me when I called him that he was going to collects his mother’s goods from circle and ship it to her but the car delayed that’s why he was still not back He came around 2pm but was busy walking up and down while talking to me I realised he was busy and distracted but I didn’t complain because I had a terrible headache He then asked me to cook and I said I can’t because I was not well so he should order pizza and let’s celebrate but he said if he bought it, he wouldn’t get money for the week so he went to buy rice and we ate After we ate , he showed me an iPhone 13 he went to buy that day So I asked if that was why he went to circle and he said yes and I realised that was what got his attention We both slept off and I left after I woke up but I stood in line for an hour before getting a car so when he called I didn’t answer because I was scared they’ll snatch my phone since it was late When I got home, I texted him that I’m home but my head still aches so let’s talk tomorrow The next day, he didn’t call and I also didn’t because I was busy I washed my clothes and bathroom after church and went to braid because we had a program at work the next day and dignitaries were coming so I had to look presentable since I would be the one to attend to them During the program, an unknown number called me and when I answered, I realised it was him so I told him that I was busy so I’ll call him later but he got angry He texted me later to say that his phone and laptop had been stolen so because I didn’t call him that Sunday i was caring enough I then asked if he was okay and he told me it was kk that the phone was going off I went outside and called his number and the number he called me with several times but it was off When I got home, I called his friend to give me his brother’s number but he also sis he was not home when I called .so I called the friend back to ask if I could get a number to reach him on and he said he had gone to buy a new sim but he said he shouldn’t give the new number to me his brother to said he was not around when he went home so he will call me when he comes but he didn’t Throughout that week both numbers were off and he didn’t call me with the new number too A week later, I called his number back and it went through but he hunged up n didn’t answer the second time I called He later called but gave me clip answers and said bye The next day I texted him with an apology but he said since I didn’t go to his place when I was not reaching him I don’t support him I’ve been apologising since may yet he said he had moved on so I should also But I can’t because I love him so much I got an opportunity in January to marry someone and go outside the country but I said no because I loved him. This led to a fight between my family and I I stopped going to a church I liked because they giving me someone who was interested in me Just because I didn’t want to leave him Yet he got someone knew within a space of a month Broken heart is really painful 😭😭 I know this is long but please bear with me and tell me where I went wrong and how to move on Cus I can’t eat and sleep I cry everyday,everywhere

Anonymous please! It's has been my Dad, mum and my brothers all in my life. I am 23yr old lady doing my national service recently there's this misunderstanding between my parents and my brothers about me. I have dated some responsible man and now he's ready to take this relationship to the next episode(marriage). He went home to do the knocking which my parents accepted it and asked him to come for the list when he's ready. I noticed some changes few days after the knocking which I tested and results came out positive(pregnancy). I informed him and he also informed his people so they planned to do the needful before the thing come out but my mum said I should terminate the pregnancy which I said no. I asked for reason and she said am young and doesn't want my dad to know about it but i still said no. Due to that I can't go to my mum's house again because she hate me so badly to the extent that she has threatened me and also asked me to give her money that she has used on me all my life. Hmm I informed my brothers and they also told me not to touch the baby but rather I should go home and informed Dad about everything. But I am scared that 1. My dad will be disappointed in me 2. There will be an argument between them(mum and dad) Because of that my mum has suddenly changed towards my man because he also said no to the abortion. The guy and his people went home to talk about the list which my mum sacked them when my Dad heard the news he was shocked because mum was happy in the initial stage. Should I terminate the pregnancy?🤔 Also, before all these chaos it was a time to my graduation and my mum gave me kente. Ff she asked me to informed my guy that I don't have anything so that he will give me money for the graduation. I told him and he gave me money for that so my mum took her kente back. Another day my mum said she has informed my uncles and some family members about the graduation so we have to do some sittings which I was not comfortable because none of them didn't help me. She also said we need to hire a car for that and all that expenses will be paid by my man. Ahh I change my mind not to go for the graduation anymore because how can you plan all this things without Consulting the man what if he doesn't have money. I know my man will do it because he can't say no to my mum but this is unfair. I couldn't tell him why I don't want to go for the graduation but I stopped everyone including my parents and siblings from coming because I told them I will not go. I went secretly for the graduation and my people has found out. I know I didn't do well but couldn't watch mum impossing 3ka to someone's son. Please with my issues how should I go about it.

My sister in law want me to give her my clothes, the ones I’m not using again and my children's own, honestly I’m of the belief that you don’t transfer clothes to others this is strictly because of my experiences. Life is indeed more spiritual than physical so i dont do it Its my belief but others might not have issues with it. So, i told her i will send her money to buy clothes she insisted that she wants our used clothes and not new ones. She said the quality of the clothes is nothing compared to the ones she will get which to me is not an excuse. She kept pushing and kept reminding me, the more she does, the more i feel uncomfortable. Even my husband was like give her she's my sister there’s nothing there but instead, i said no. I usually gather and burn them. Whenever i did, i think her brother usually told her. She has refused to take anything i offered her & she has refused to speak to me. Even my mother in-law too. They don't want to see me or my children in the family gathering, they don't visit us or wish us when we are celebrating anything I feel this is too much. Must i give her my used clothes? Is there more to it?

Anonymously as usual. So there's this girl I was dating. Honestly in the beginning she was very good. God fearing, honest etc. I was on her profile for that long and she was also on mine at watsapp. After somewhere 2 years she changed. To me forever was the deal but after receiving a huge offer from Saudi, she decided to leave my club.😂 Ff she blocked me. And I was like eii so is that how the world is😂💔 Life goes on. After like 6 months later, my eldest brother called me saying the girl said I should unblock her. And I was like I didn't block her. Ff she texted me and was like it's been a while and she's checking up on me. Got back in touch. She she used to text me almost everyday. Till I fed up with her. I didn't like her because how can you be in love and be chatting me like that. Till few days ago she texted me that she wants to visit me and spend like four days with me. So can I permit her.? Guys any advice for me😂 This one ebi like Signing off Bonus 😂😂 Anaa my head top😂

Hi brokenpen please kindly post this for me: so I’m a 22 years of age dating a 34 years old man. Starting of the relationship I wasn’t really prepared for it so I really stretched him because I wanted to get to know him more before I start having an affair with him.ff he proposed and I accepted his proposal so I started visiting him at home During this visits I realized he’s still in touch with his ex partner and I questioned him about that but he said he’s just vibing with her because the woman has been helping him pay some bills in dollars with some app subscription thus why he’s still in touch with her. I let it slide because I loved him I recently witnessed how extremely flirty he’s with his clients . I complained about it and he said he does that just to make his clients comfortable. Ff he traveled to akosombo for four days claiming he had some gig there and he stated that he will still explore during his work, I was happy for him because I thought it was work , I just got to know all were lies yesterday after going his phone.😭😭😭 not knowing it was a vacation trip with another woman he claims to be his makeup artist, I was really shocked but still continue scrolling through his phone and I saw him with other girls in his house having fun in romantic ways whilst I was away. I confronted him and all he could say is they’re just friends. I was very hurt so I went home😭. Guys please what do you think I should do, I know it’s very lengthy and I’m sorry about that. I’m depressed and I don’t know what to do 😭 Note : I’m a final year student

I dated Eddie eight years ago. He is an older man who is married with a child. There was no talk of the future between us. It was a mutually beneficial relationship we had. I satisfied his needs for physical intimacy and he met my financial needs in return. Things were going well until we had a little misunderstanding. It was something so insignificant that I don’t remember it anymore. Regardless, it led to our break up. “The relationship had to end at some point anyway. There was no future for us,” I told myself as I moved on. As time went on, I met someone new and fell in love with him. He promised me forever. He said we would be a family. I wanted all of that — a wonderful man by my side as we raised our beautiful kids in a loving home. It made it easier for me to let myself go completely. Now, we have two beautiful children together. It didn’t happen the way I dreamed it but these kids are my everything. I’m doing the best I can to raise them in a loving home. Sometimes it gets hard because I am doing it single-handed. Oh, their father is alive. He just decided to be irresponsible so we are not together anymore. He is not the reason I am here so I won’t get into all of that. Let’s get back to Eddie, my older man. We reconnected two years ago. He asked what I had been up to. “Are you married with kids now?” “No, I never got married but I have one child,” I lied. I didn’t lie about the marriage part. Only the number of children I have. You see, my secondborn was only three months old at the time. I was having a hard time and needed someone to cushion me financially. I felt he would back off if I told him I just had a baby. That’s why I lied. I am not proud to admit it but I have kept this lie going for two years now. When he is coming to see me I hide my last baby with a friend. I feel terrible every time I do this. Sometimes I cry. My guilt is on two fronts. My child doesn’t deserve to be hidden like a dark secret. It breaks my heart every time I send him away. I also hate that I am lying to this man who keeps talking about marrying me as his second wife so we can have more kids together. I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to come clean and be free. The problem is that I don’t know how to go about it. Where would I even start from? Besides, I’m not sure how he would take it. What if he leaves me? I need advice on how to have this difficult conversation.

To all men what’s the hardest lesson a woman taught you?

Hi everyone. Please I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now . He's my first guy . He broke my virginity. There's something going on that I feel so uncomfortable about and that's he still in contact with his ex girlfriend. People I'm sick and tired because I'm so faithful. Loyal and anything expected of a girl. Several times I have spoken to him about this ex thing but he ends up fighting me. I know his ex girlfriend also wants him back because she sends naked pictures of her to him. The way she texts him tells. But this my guy is not doing anything to help because I expect that if not anything you block her for the sake of the relationship you in. Or sometimes I feel he's the one that starts entertaining her that's why she's also able to send those nude why because if you didn't give her the green light she wouldn't even have the guts to. Please guys you all should help me because I'm so much In love with him and it's difficult to unlove him. I can't also endure this because I feel I deserve some respect the same way I also respect him. It's hard I'm not going to lie. Any help on how to forget about him please.

To all women what’s the hardest lesson a man has taught you?

No one told me it would be this påinfũl to give birth to just one child. I gave birth to my baby in the middle of the night, around 12 a.m., after going through so much pąĩn. She was too big and almost tørẽ me in two while she came out. The nurses said she was beautiful and very healthy; they expected a smile from me in response, but I didn't smile. I hated this child. She had kept me hidden for months, and now that she was finally here, I felt trapped for life. The next evening, when I was confirmed fit to go home, I left the hospital with her. I named her Martha because she represented my bitterness and sorrow. On my way home, I thought of abandoning her on a public road where someone might find her, but the moment she cried and I tried to calm her, I brushed off that thought. I decided I would give her to someone else to take care of. I can't let one single mistake destroy my dreams and ambitions. I had to move on. I took her to my mother that evening. To be plain, I had never told her I was pregnant, so she was shocked when I brought a child to her. "How did this happen?" my mother asked. "Take that child back!" my father warned, but my mother took the child from the floor where I had laid her. "Stella, what have you done now?" my mother asked. "Take care of her, Mum," I said and left, even when my mother called me to come back. She said I needed to be taken care of, but I wouldn't stay and let the whole village know I was the mother of that child. All the while I was doing this, my body shook with afterbirth pain, but I endured until I returned to my lodge and continued working and living my life as if nothing had happened. I never asked about my daughter or even requested my mother to send pictures of her—I wasn't interested. I wanted to forget about her completely. A suitor came to marry me, and I chose to tell him I already had a child, which scared him away. I decided I would never tell any man I already had a child ever again! Years later, there were no serious suitors, and I was slowly aging—25, 26, 28. No man came to marry me. Finally, after five years, one man came to propose. He was older, about 45, but he looked younger. We started preparing for marriage. Then, it was finally the day of our traditional marriage. I called my mother and asked her to take my daughter to my maternal home, as I didn't want my potential husband to know I had a child. I wanted her to stay hidden just like I stayed hidden when I was pregnant with her. My mother agreed, and my fears were alleviated. What I never expected was that my sister would come to our traditional wedding with my daughter. My mother had sent my daughter to stay with my sister instead, but my sister stubbornly brought her to the wedding. It was then I found out that my daughter had a page where she sings. My daughter was, in fact, a singer with a unique voice. Seeing her for the first time in five years brought hot tears to my eyes. She was beautiful, fair-skinned, and plump. My mother had taken good care of her. "That is your mother," my mother said to her, and she came running to me, happy. I couldn't believe I had tried to abandon her. Such a sweet girl. But the worst was yet to happen. My husband left our traditional wedding when he found out—not because he didn't like my daughter, but because I had lied to him. The elders present at the ceremony muttered curses at me and said my father would be fined for hiding my sins. All of this weighed heavily on me, but I tried not to cry as I remembered what led to the birth of my daughter. It was Ben's fault. Finally, a consensus was reached by the elders: we would find the man responsible for my pregnancy and make him own up to my daughter. He must take part in raising my daughter and he must marry me. I didn't want that. Ben will never see my daughter. I will not let them take her to a woman-beater like him. And I will never marry a man like Ben. But a law is a law. I committed an abomination. I got pregnant out of wedlock.

Please post for me,im a guy,Ive completed University and done with my NSS too Meet this L100 girl on January 27 and we started dating fast forward everything was going excellent , she made me feel real love for the second time in my life When I met her,my ex was staying with me because of accommodation issues,the reason I let her is because she borrowed me money and I also borrowed the money to my best friend,unfortunately for me my best friend has also refused to pay me back the money so I didn’t have any choice but to allow her stay with me since I had just 2months to leave the place The problem is the girl I met in January always wanted to spend her free time with me if she doesn’t have class, mind you she doesn’t live around campus but because of my ex I sometimes makes excuses to my girl in order to avoid my ex At the long run i told her about my ex staying with me and she was cool with it When I met this girl she told me she like bad boys and that she presume im a bad boy because I’ve braided my hair,frankly speaking im not a bad boy (serious determine hard working man)and also she doesn’t like sex but at the long round she gave it to me The problem all started when I went home and came back with a down cut ,this girl started giving me attitude,changes in the way she text,how she reply to my messages,someone who will call me 63x if I miss her calls just changed,no calls ,nothing and me too I know when a lady starts behaving like that that means there’s something wrong somewhere so I confronted her about it and she said she has lost interest because of how I’ve been bothering her with sex ,she also later came to tell she has lost concentration in her academics so she wants to focus ,deep down I know it’s a lie but I guess there’s nothing I can do so i just let her go It’s been a month now since we broke up,well we didn’t really talk about break up but I just stopped talking to her and blocked her since she also didn’t care Already my friends saw her countless times with certain guy and I also realized she has moved on with another guy This is the 6th time someone has lost interest in me after few months after dating and i just can’t figure what is causing that cx i dress well, I look good, 7.5/10 guy It’s been a month now,now wey the thing pain me paaaa anytime I want to start something serious,someone come and F me up 😔😔🤦🏾‍♂️ Sorry if my story is lengthy and there are mistakes ,there’s more but im at the office so I just trying to summarize,Your insults and opinions are welcome

Please keep me anonymous Kindly post this for me I am a guy who has a well paying job and takes good care of my girlfriend . My girlfriend is an SHS leaver who is trying to better her grades and get a good life for herself. I have supported and keep supporting her in this quest and in anything she wants to do. We had a discussion this afternoon on tattoos and I was kinda shocked. My girlfriend has a tattoo of his ex boyfriend name on his hand before I met her. I registered my complaint on this when we started dating and she assured me of cleaning it. The issue is that am not a fan of tattoos. Today, in our conversation she said she wants to do another tattoo when she has funds for that in the future. So I came in and questioned why she wants to do another tattoo and the response she gave me is that, it something she loves since childhood and nothing is going to stop her from doing it. She further said even if it’s going to cost her our relationship she is ready to quit because she will definitely do it one day. We plan for her to study overseas when her results are ohk. She went further to say, it’s even her plan to get tattoo when she travels to study. I tried reasoning with her on the effects of tattoos and how that to some extent prevent her from getting job opportunities in the government sector but she still insisted that she will do it. We have plans of her getting into one of the civil services. My worry is the energy and confidence she used in telling me if I insist that I don’t like tattoos we can go our separate ways. My question is am I imposing my thoughts and reasoning on her?? Does she value the relationship that we have?? Is this a basis we can use for separation??

I close from work one day and we were waiting for the office car that moment too my phone was low so I decided to give it to the security to charge for me when I got there he wasn’t with his charger then so there was another security guy there I asked him if he has charger he quickly gave it to me so I plugged the phone and left to the car station, when I saw the car coming I rush for the phone when I got there he was like can you give me your number so that you will be teaching me Twi since he’s not Ashanti so I agreed ,that evening he called me and everything started from there we began to date we love each other so much ,but sometimes I feel like something is wrong with him but couldn’t place my hands on it actually,He said he is pastor but sometimes I don’t believe him even if I asked him for something he will be like this is what my father said i should give you . He gets upset easily and can decide not to talk to you two or three days and sometimes try to hit me but never did . So one day I was going through his phone and I found out that he is a psychiatric patient I melt that moment which means he is not a pastor but because of the sickness he thinks he is working for God I sometimes try to understand him but his actions and behavior push me back I really love him but I can’t also stay with such a person What should I do

Please kindly help post this for me, I need your advice and guidance most importantly the experience ones.🙏🙏 A Love That Faded Like the Evening Sun "The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes in from your enemies." They say love is the most beautiful thing in the world. But sometimes, love is not enough. And when trust is broken, love fades like the evening sun, leaving behind nothing but darkness and regret. This is my story a story of love, sacrifice, heartbreak, and the painful realization that sometimes, the person you would give the world to is the one who destroys yours. The Beginning: A Love That Felt Unbreakable It all started in 2016. I was just a teenager when I met Gifty. Young, naive, and full of dreams, I had no idea how much she would come to mean to me. We grew up in the same neighborhood, and though life had thrown struggles our way, we found solace in each other. She was the kind of girl every man longed for, beautiful, hardworking, and fiercely loyal. Even when older men, more financially stable than me, tried to win her over, she stayed. She wasn’t materialistic; she was real. And that was what made me fall for her. Our love was the kind you see in movies, innocent, passionate, and full of promises whispered in the wind. We exchanged letters, shared dreams, and built a world where nothing could come between us. But life, as it often does, had other plans. In December 2019, at just 19 years old, we crossed a line we could never uncross. I was her first, and in those moments, it felt like we had the whole world in our hands. But passion has consequences, and soon, reality hit hard. One phone call changed everything. She was late. Fear gripped me as I told her to take a pregnancy test, hoping against hope that it wasn’t true. But when the result came back positive, our world crumbled. We were just kids ourselves ( we were of the same age- 19years ) how could we raise a child? For a moment, we considered abortion, but we had no money, and before we could decide, the secret was out. Her friends found out. The school counselor found out. And soon, her mother did too. When my father learned about it, he was furious. But after the storm of anger passed, he made a decision. “You’ll keep the baby,” he said, his voice heavy with disappointment. “But be ready for the consequences.” The consequences came swiftly. Her family demanded a fine what they called “kosiabuo,” a penalty for getting a girl pregnant before marriage. Money was tight, and the weight of responsibility felt suffocating. It was 2020 still in COVID-19 and the lockdown made things worse, and I had to take up labor work at construction sites just to survive. This one to came with it own stories but will be left for another day When Gifty gave birth, I wasn’t even there. I was stuck trying to make ends meet while she was sent to her village to deliver our daughter. By the time I saw my baby for the first time, it was through the quick naming ceremony with my dad, aunt and I The Sacrifices I Made Hmmmm😭😭 My father urged me to forget about them and focus on my education. “Finish school, get a good job, and if you still want her, marry her then,” he advised. But my heart wouldn’t let me walk away. I wanted Gifty and our child to live with me. Mind you we both were not coming from a rich home, we stay in Sakumono, I took every bit of money I earned and used it to prepare a small home for us( single room with porch)in Sakumono. It wasn’t much, but it was something a place where we could be a family. I thought love would be enough. I was wrong. It was rather a Knife Through the Heart 😭😭 They say love is blind, but no one tells you how much it hurts when the blindness fades. For over a year, Gifty was away at school(teaching training collage), and though we were apart, I trusted her. I believed in us. But one day, a whisper of doubt crept into my mind. I pushed it away at first, but it kept coming back. Something felt… off.

Good morning Guysss please help me apologize to Fred🥲. He knows himself. I just need another chance to make things better. Minion, remember those good times and how we met and how far we have come. The movie marathon, cooking together, your beautiful girls, I appreciate you very much. Please just one more and if I blow it off you have every right to never let me hear from you again 🥺. I know I have been stubborn but please I really need you at this point please don’t let this go. I’m working on myself. I’m progressing. You know my big dreams. Please I am still learning and growing kindly have patience with me. I’m sorry 😞 🙏🏻🥲