Marriage By Choice. MBC International

I took my cloth to my tailor and asked him to fix the little opening near the pocket. The man turned the cloth inside out and then began to TEAR the pocket with his hands... Hah! I was like, "I said you should sew, not tear". So I shouted, 'You are tearing my cloth o'.But he replied "I KNOW". Those two words sank into me like a heavy stone sinks in water. I couldn't talk again. He's the tailor, and I'm just a customer. Even though I couldn't relate tearing with sewing but the Tailor says "I KNOW". God is saying, 'I KNOW'. He hears your complaints. Father i need a job, its been long i left school.... "I KNOW" Father, My fiancee just left me... 'I KNOW'. I have no money to pay for my rent... 'I KNOW' I have no money to cater for my needs... 'I KNOW' I am waiting to have children....I KNOW I need a husband....I know I can't pay school fees.....I know I just lost my job and i have a family.... "I KNOW" So many times when the Lord is fixing us, He starts by 'tearing' us. Tearing our confidence in ourselves, Tearing all our philosophies, Tearing our pride and fake humility, Tearing the things we call dear and giving us the truly dear things. The only thing necessary is wisdom. Wisdom to know when it is the Lord and when it isn't the Lord. The devil tears to KILL, God tears to FIX. God tears the old to give you the new.

🔰 *Be a responsible parent* ________________ Many children who go wayward especially during their adolescent do so as a result of neglect of parental responsibility. When your child notices that you're not able or willing to provide his needs, they automatically develop disrespect towards you because, human beings by nature, respect their benefactors. And when a peer becomes his/her benefactor or through a bad peer influence, he/she gets someone who's willing to provide his/her needs, then you as the parent is in trouble because your child will do almost everything that person tells them willingly. So as parents we must be responsible by providing our children with their basic needs and also some wants. Good food, clothing, safe and healthy shelter, including some occasional celebrations: birthday, Christmas and new year parties. Once in awhile you can take them out on a family hangout etc.

They seem to have abandoned me here, i can't even pay my rent anymore, I retired long ago, i have been moving from one relative to another for a place to sleep, they don't even pick my phone calls anymore. Please what do I do now? my life is so miserable" - Man narrates." Happyhomebreed

VERY SAD 💔 "I married my wife 25 years ago. She came with two boys from her previous marriage. I really loved them and adopted the kids since I I'm not medically fit to have a child of my own. We stayed peacefully in rented houses. I was working back then and made sure to take my adopted kids to the best schools, thier father never came to claim them or even support them. The boys were very bright in school and as I write this, one is a doctor who got scholarship to finish his studies in USA. He is back and already employed, the second boy is a pilot whom I used all my savings to pay for his course in South Africa, he is also back and employed too. My happiness is that my boys are successful and have bought big houses, my problem is that my wife and the two boys have reunited with their dad and now living happily together as a family.

They say that time changes things but I have realised that Humans change things. You have the power to change any situation to a favourable one. Yes you can! Take that action now. Best regards. _Ms Sark

Hello everyone. May our new week be filled success and meaning progress in Jesus name. Be encouraged that God is working behind the scenes no matter what you are going through. Jesus loves you.

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Happy New Month, Family. Don't be afraid to shoot your shot for that good intent. God is with you. You are marked for success. Best regards 💖💝

A SENSITIVE LETTER By Oheneyere Gifty Anti -OGA Dear Woman, Before you go to bed and when you wake up… Let me touch on this very sensitive issue. You see, for years I was consistently celebrated on TV and radio on Mother’s Day, though I was not married and had no child of my own. There were times it really made me emotional because I really and desperately wanted a child of my own, though many people called me mummy and treated me as such. One day, a makeup artist of one of the media houses actually said to her colleague “ah why do they also celebrate her when she doesn’t have a child”. I wasn’t too far from where she gossiped and so I heard it and it really broke me. Actually I felt she wanted me to hear. I cried. Oh I wept!! But I went on air and did what I do best… And after that, I cried. But i didn’t give up. I kept honoring invitations, year after year because I wanted to be the example to show that you can live and achieve irrespective of your marital or motherhood status. That you are worthy and valuable just by being a woman. That you can mentor and be a role model for young people. Those were very emotional and painful days but I kept moving on. The fact that I wasn’t married didn’t make it any easier, because I was in my late 30s and it continued to my early 40s. I was on tv and a very public space. Society really dealt with me harshly!! But I still didn’t give up. And remember I married, still believing that I can’t have a biological child (read my book Fifty Nuggets @50). It wasn’t easy, especially, Marrying a young chief. Hmmmm Dear woman seeking for the fruit of the womb, I know it gets tough around these times (Mother’s Day) but I want you to know that I understand you. I get you. I have been there before and I know what you are going through. It’s not easy but HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH!! You have cried enough. Wipe your tears!! I know God will come through for you too…. But while you wait, my dear…… Mother other children.. touch other Children’s lives. Your child is not only the one you carry in your womb. And note this: God always works in mysterious ways. He has given our doctors and specialists wisdom and now there are options. There is IVF, surrogacy, donor egg and sperm, there is adoption etc… So you have choices and options. Discuss with your partner and speak to your doctor and pray about it. My dear, Whatever your decision is, woman… I pray the Lord gives you a testimony and a new song!! Hold your head high woman!! Live, achieve, do your best and leave the rest to God. If you have ever invested in the life of a child, including donating to any of my programmes for children…..You are a mother, so start getting ready to celebrate!! God is faithful!!! I am praying with you and I believe in you. Much love Mama!!

No matter how bad it hurts or how bad you feel, it’s time to stop thinking about that person who played with your feelings, who took your love for granted, who never appreciated your care, who wasn’t contented with what you could give him or her. You can’t stay at that hurtful place anymore. You can’t keep shedding tears over someone who doesn’t deserve the love you gave. You can’t keep feeling sorry for yourself and thinking if only you did more. You can’t make them want the relationship because if they wanted they wouldn’t have let go of you. You deserve better now. You deserve someone who appreciates you and who won’t play with your delicate heart.. Just like a cut on your hand will take time to heal, your broken heart needs time to heal as well. That’s not the end of your life. You will get over that pain you’re having right now and one day you’ll be happy again it is well okay. Stay bless and May God be with u

HOW TO CORRECT YOUR SPOUSE 1. Do not correct your spouse in public. It makes him or her feel embarrassed 2. Do not shout at your spouse when correcting 3. Do not use words like "You never...", "You always...". Doing so is an unfair exaggeration. Say "I don't think it was proper what you did yesterday" 4. Do not correct your spouse as if he/she is a child saying "Please act your age", "Grow up", "You're so childish". This doesn't show respect 5. Do not correct your spouse about something serious when you two don't have ample time to talk about it. Do it in a relaxed atmosphere 6. As you correct your spouse speak with a loving tone 7. Do not correct your spouse in front of your children. It shows disrespect 8. Don't compare your spouse with others saying "Why can't you be like other women/men?", "Why can't you be like so and so?". It undermines your spouse and kills self confidence 9. Don't bring up your spouse's mistakes of the past. It only compounds issues 10. Praise your spouse more than you give criticism 11. As you correct your spouse, don't let your spouse doubt your love. You can do this by saying "You know I love you. Sweetheart, I noticed that...." 12. Do not let your feelings get the best of you and say irrational things 13. Expect a push back from your spouse or a justification, most adults don't take correction lightly but if you remain gentle, eventually you're spouse will be receptive 14. Once you've corrected your spouse, don't police him/her; this will only demoralize your spouse's efforts 15. Appreciate your spouse's growth 16. Don't take life too seriously 17. Remember that the purpose of correcting your spouse is not to prove you're right but to inspire your spouse to be better. When you focus on proving you are right, you might win the argument but lose your marriage or make things difficult.

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