Marriage By Choice. MBC International

We are dating people who are busy doing meet ups with other people while we still in the picture, people who are brave to sleep with someone else and come back to sleep with you, a person who will look deep in your eyes and say I love you while they don't mean it. We are a generation were alcohol is turned into cool drinks, Relationship are hobbies, Breaking a girls virginity is an achievement, Hurting someone is a joke, Beating up your girlfriend is a discipline, Suicide becomes natural Death and cheating is a part of relationship .

Our sanity is sacrosanct. You know I love you. An impactful and responsible relationship and marriage is possible.

I used one hour 45minutes to write this but you can use 15 minutes to read. TIPS TO MANAGING POST BREAK UP ERA Going by incidences of break ups, disappointments, heartbreaks being experienced especially by ladies, guys not left out but you will agree with me that ladies are the worst hit.  The need to learn how to manage the post break up is very important, I am inspired to write about it in order to help people walk through this critical period.  Read and be Intentional about doing them. Breakups and the emotions they bring up are complicated. Relief, confusion, heartbreak, grief — all of these are perfectly normal reactions to the end of a relationship. Even if things end in healthy and productive way, you’ll probably still be left with some uncomfortable feelings. The following tips can help. 1. Establish boundaries. It’s sometimes easy to avoid crossing paths with an ex-partner after a breakup. But what if you live in the same town or attending the same church? Hard you say. You can actually set a clear boundaries for future contact. 2. Take some time apart. Even if you decide to maintain normal friendship, a little space for sometime won't hurt. Taking a break from texting and hanging out together would help a lot in the healing process. This gives you time to focus on yourself. It can also help you avoid falling into a harmful pattern of offering emotional support to your ex-partner and prolonging the breakup. 3. Respect each other's need. If you want to stay friends but your ex doesn’t want any contact, you need to respect that. Don’t call, text, or ask their friends to talk to them for you. You might miss them dearly, but not respecting their boundaries will likely hurt any future chance of friendship. Alternately, if your ex contacts you, especially before you’re ready to talk, don’t feel obligated to respond. This can be difficult, especially if they seem vulnerable or express feelings similar to your own. Remind yourself that you both need time and space to deal with those difficult emotions and wait until the no-contact period has passed. 4. Maintain physical and emotional boundaries. There are things you do together before the break up, like you always hold each other hands when walking together, this is good as it builds intimacy but try as much as possible to avoid this after the break up. It brings the feeling of "seems like we never broke up" and that will only compound issue. 4. Resist the urge of checking your ex's social media page. You might be tempted if you see him or her with someone new. May be you want to know if they feel as awful as you do or you are looking for that status update of them missing you or wanting you back. But ask yourself "what will looking at their page accomplish?" probably nothing healthy. So avoid it. 5. Express yourself. Normally anger, resentment, self pity, confusion, hatred etc will set in after break up. Let it flow but avoid wallowing in them. You take comfort in the reason for the break up "in the best interest of the two of you" right? 6. Prioritize self care. Everyday do things that makes you happy, things that nurtures you, things that add value to you, things that motivate you. 7. Do the things you love. Post break up era provide you with opportunity to do what you always love to do. Now you have enough time. Do it! In fact see it as an opportunity in disguise to discover yourself. Read books. Serve God and man. 8. Manage your social media engagement. Don't post about the break up. If you and your ex agree to be friends, don't unfollow them. There is more to life. 9. Take your time. Healing is very important before going into another relationship in order not to experience the same mistake. Make sure you are ready for another relationship so that you don't unleash your pain, anger, frustration on your partner. 10. Pray. Connect to God He can always help you walk it through. You can do nothing without Him. I believe this is helpful. You don't need this? Send it to those who need it. 

A woman has sex because she wants the man. A man has sex because he wants sex. Do you see the difference? Sex is a physical thing to some men. But for a woman, sex is both physical and emotional. A woman can have sex because of love. But a man can have sex because of sex. Before a woman can have sex with you, she must have feelings for you. She must be emotionally attached to you. That EROS dimension of love will be there. Hardly will you find a woman having sex with a man she does not love. Except if she's a prostitute. But for a man, the reverse can be the case. A man may have no iota of love for you, and still have sex with you. This is why a man can hire a prostitute just to have sex. He doesn't need to love the prostitute before he fulfills his sexual desire. Now, understand this: As a woman, a man can use you to feed his sexual desires. He can even give you money. He can take you out. All because he wants sex, not you! If you want to know if a man truly loves you, don't give him sex. Sit back and watch. If he leaves you because you don't give him sex, then he doesn't love you. He only loves sex! Dear young adult girl! As you're growing up and getting closer to the journey of marriage life..please try to understand that you can choose a husband for yourself but your kids can't choose their father, while choosing a father for them pls choose a father, a friend, a tutor, a believer, and guidance for them... And don't forget to be a good mother. You can raise a hero and not a zero

Dating with Marriage at heart . Listen, you don't deserve whomever you don't give a genuine attention to. You can't treat someone like a piece of garbage and expect to be treated like a diamond.. ~ Every clean compound has its committed cleaner.. Admiration doesn't make a relationship but commitment does.... No relationship exists without communication.. " I'm busy may be an excuse " but it can never build a healthy relationship.... ~ If it's not working out, why pretend? One of the greatest way to respect your partner is to value his/ her feelings and time.... #When Marriage is @Heart# ~ You must plan together to avoid distance at heart... √ Don't allow your partner to beg for attention. √ Don't use the past against him/her... √ Don't date by deceit.... ~ There is no profit in Wasting people's time. " If you know it won't work out, why keep someone for 2, 3, 5, 4, 6, years just for fun? Haba! That's sheer wickedness... * when you're mentally ready; you will be conscious of people's time and feelings.... The problem is that we give little to relationships yet expect to reap a bountiful harvest of marriage.. No one wakes up in the morning and starts a journey without a destination.. Are you dating for marriage or for fun? Why most people struggle in their relationship is because they are dating for fun and not marriage.. Dating for sex and not love... Dating for money and not vision.. We want to know how long he/ she can last in bed.. But difficult to know how long he/she can last in prayers... Are you mentally, socially, spiritually, and economically ready? Just ask yourself this. Marriage is a responsibility; if you're not compatible you can't work together... " Remember They Will Soon come Back... Stop waiting in vacuum, watch body language and intention.. ~ Not everyone loves you for you, most people love because of what they want..because of their selfish desires. If the body language, words and actions are not correlational, know it that something huge is cooking hence don't wait for it to get done before you decide to take a walk . Don't invest your feelings and time Cut if off.... Keep good communication.. Give every necessary attention Show care to keep your love... Marriage is honourable; but don't marry when you're doing nothing. Every other person is a distraction, if you're truly in love.. Love is wise! #COACH

_*My wife took my phone and deleted my girlfriend Jane's number and saved her own number as Jane _*You see, someone has told my wife about Jane my girl friend. _*I then got an SMS from Jane asking for mobile money 50,000. _*I rushed to my wife and lied to her that I need 50,000, for an emergency. I told her that my mother was unwell and she needed the money urgently.*_ _*My wife gave me the money and I rushed to send it to my girlfriend Jane _*She did not acknowledge receipt of the money. _*When I was relaxing at home after work, I kept wondering if Jane had received the money. _*I sent her an SMS to find out if she had received the money. Her response was, "Call me now".*_ _*I got out of the house to make the call.*_ _*You can imagine my horror when my wife answered the call instead of Jane!!!!*_ _*It's been 3 hours. I'm still standing outside.*_ _*I don't know how to come back into my own house!*_ _*Any advice?😭😭 Note: Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.

UNHEALTHY THINGS PEOPLE DO IN RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES 1) FIRST TO CALL Like seriously, it's childish to wait for someone you are in a Relationship with or married to to call first before you do, You wake up in the morning and you are waiting for your spouse who maybe stays at a different location or traveled to be the one to call you First. That's unhealthy. Soon none of you will be calling each other. Not as if you don't have airtime, not as if your phone is down, You even want to hear their voice oh, but you don't want to be the first to call, That's a sign of IMMATURITY. 2) FIRST TO APOLOGIZE So you guys have had a misunderstanding, you both said harsh things, and you know you should apologize, but then you want them to apologize first, and the silence drags on for days, and you are still waiting for who will apologize First. This is a sign of PRIDE in You personally. Break the cycle, be the better person, be the peace maker today. If you both have this mindset, settling issues in your relationship will be as easy as taking candy from a baby 3) TRY TO SHOW YOU CAN DO WITHOUT THEM Many people who do this do it out of fear. "if I show him/her how much I truly love him/her now, he/she will take me for granted/take me for a ride" Don't let such mindset rule you, otherwise you will crash your Relationship/Marriage Marriage involves 2 independent people who can actually do without each other coming together and becoming intentionally dependent on each other. You do not invite someone into your life and then fail to make room for them in it. Showing your spouse you love them deeply and need them isn't a sign of weakness. It's a sign of Love and strength, strength because you don't need someone but yet you willingly handicap yourself just for them to find relevance around you. God can do without Man, but he chose to be dependent on Man, he made Man his limitation. That's Love. Ask for their help, even if you can do without it. Ask their opinions even if you know what to do. Tell them they complete you, and show It Call them, miss them, want them, need them. Being overly independent of your spouse will only make your spouse feel useless and not needed. ******** God bless your Marriage Your Marriage will Work

DON'T MARRY HER! 1. Don't marry her if you don't love her, you must love your wife in marriage, I mean you MUST! 2. Don't marry her if you can't accept her past including the baby she had by mistake. 3. Don't marry her if you don't want to have anything to do with all her family members. 4. Don't marry her if you hate her looks. 5. Don't marry her if she hates you or finds you disgusting. 6. Don't marry her if she does not believe in your vision and future. 7. Don't marry her if she is an unrepentant waster of resources. 8. Don't marry her if she is totally lazy, completely laid back and incorrigibly idle. 9. Don't marry her if she shamelessly flirts around. 10. Don't marry her if she is proud, rude, pompous, un teachable, abusive, saucy, sassy, arrogant, snobbish and high minded! 11. Don't marry her if she is an unrepentant feminist and you hate feminists. 12. Don't marry her if you are the very jealous, hot tempered type and she is very beautiful and intelligent. No matter how faithful she is, you will distrust, cage and abuse her. Men with borderline personality disorder, the chauvinists, narcissists and paranoid can't handle an extremely beautiful and intelligent woman. 13. Don't marry her if you hate her religion. 14. Don't marry her if she earns more than you and you are jealous of her success. Either you go out and earn more or appreciate her, respect her and encourage her to earn more and succeed other wise, marry a woman below your size. 15. Don't marry her if she is not God's will for you. Bottom line, marry someone who you completely agree with and agrees with you. That is what is in Amos 3:3. Marriage is the complete acceptance of someone else while helping them to become better. If you can't accept her totally and help her become a better woman, please, don't marry her. Marriage is not by force. May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

9 Signs of a fake love in a relationship 🥰✍ 1. Everytime you have some little fights they always willing to throw the towel😻🦋 2. You’re always the one initiating things You always the one who come up with ideas of what to do😻🦋 3. The relationship constantly feels like it’s ending😻😭 4. Lack of communication You don’t communicate They always making excuses for why they didn't chat with you 😟🙌🤦‍♂️ 5. They emotionally distance 😻🦋no romance, no nice messages....you always feel like you need someone new when you around them 6. Gut feeling!🦋many times when someone doesn't really love you, you will feel it in your gut💔but hard to believe it..😟9 Signs of a fake love in a relationship 🥰✍ 1. Everytime you have some little fights they always willing to throw the towel😻🦋 2. You’re always the one initiating things You always the one who come up with ideas of what to do😻🦋 3. The relationship constantly feels like it’s ending😻😭 4. Lack of communication You don’t communicate They always making excuses for why they didn't chat with you 😟🙌🤦‍♂️ 5. They emotionally distance 😻🦋no romance, no nice messages....you always feel like you need someone new when you around them 6. Gut feeling!🦋many times when someone doesn't really love you, you will feel it in your gut💔but hard to believe it..😟

LOVE ALONE DOESN'T STOP SOMEONE FROM CHEATING Often times you hear people cry out and said but my partner claim to love me *LOVE* Someone can love you and still cheat *MARRIAGE* Marriage does not stop someone from cheating, someone can marry you and still cheat *SEX* Having sex together always doesn't stop cheating. Someone may be having sex with you yet telling someone else on phone I love you baby *CLOSENESS* Being together always may not stop cheating Someone may be with you yet the heart is with someone else some where *CHILDREN* Having children doesn't stop cheating *GOOD* Having a good partner doesn't stop cheating WHAT THEN STOP CHEATING FEAR OF THE LORD SELF-CONTROL DISCIPLINE COMMITMENT VALUE 1. When you have the FEAR OF THE LORD, you will follow the scriptural instructions for marriage that says "THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY". You will honor marriage vow for the rest of your life 2. When you have self control, there will be other men/ladies better and more beautiful than your partner but self-control will make you place your partner above others 3. When you are discipline you know when to act and when not to act and how to handle issues 4. When you're Committed, there will be temptations to make you hurt your partner but Commitment will not allow you do it. 5. When you value a thing you protect , when you value your marriage you protect it from anything that will cause you pains Many atimes people decide to cheat by choice May God bless your marriage/relationship

Men cheat with women And women cheat with men They both think they are wise but 🤐🤐 A married man 👨 will be cheating on his wife with a young girl 👧, he thinks he is enjoying whiles the lady also thinks she is enjoying and getting big profits . But at the end the old man 👴 is digging his own grave , why do I say this because he is old and wants to enjoy 😊 his blood pressure will be going high with lot of sex because the lady is young so her sexual interest is high, secondly God is watching you and kama will not let you go like that too. To the lady when she is ready to marry ,let say her mother has done something so God will look on that to give her husband or she did something good herself so marriage may come. But in the marriage there will be a pay 💰 back , other lady will be going out with her husband just like she did before. 2. If not then the lady will be lookIng for husband and doing prayer like no other

Mummy, It does not reduce your spirituality. It even makes you to bond together. Mummy, do you even sit on Daddy's lap often? We know you are born again. We know you are Spirit filled. But, so are we too! I remember how an older pastor advised me some time ago, "Pastor, I have seen how God's power has been flowing in your ministry and it's commendable. If you want to operate in more power, you have to limit how you meet your wife when get married,;too much sex with one's wife reduces the anointing." The reason I did not laugh right there before him was because of my respect for his age. To be candid, Sex does not begin in the bedroom but outside it. Husband, in the other room, don't just lay your wife on the bed and go straight into action. Haba! Kilode? Who is chasing you? What's the rush? Are you Bebeto? Who is hurrying you up? Try to go downstairs and work some magic there with your hands. Wife, don't just lie down on the bed like a log of wood showing no emotions or feelings while the man does all the action. What are your hands for? Kilode? Se Ogun laye ni? Let the man hear your ringtone. It's not a sin for ringtones to be playing in the other room. "Haaa! Yee! Chimo o! Oooos! aaaas!" sounding in the other room is not a sin o. It doesn't mean you are not a virtuous woman. Infact any "other room" where there is no ringtone during fellowship is a cold room. Many Christian homes are just too cold and most couples are too formal. Many Christian marriages are just too boring. No intimacy! No display of affection either openly or secretly. This shouldn't be. As a pastor and marriage counselor, I can't count the number of times I have counselled both men and women that are sexually frustrated in their marriages. People are suffering in silence and this must be addressed from the pulpit. Christianity is not against romance. Wife, Please don't listen to those women that are saying a man will still cheat no matter what you do to satisfy him during sex. Don't listen to such women and allow what they say to kill your enthusiasm and action in the other room. I agree that a man that will cheat will still cheat but that is no excuse for you to be boring in the other room; because I have also seen men that were pushed out because of that. Though that's not a genuine excuse. Uncle, Daddy, please wake up, be a Lion for aunty/mummy. Aunty, mummy, please wake up, be a Tigress for Uncle/Daddy in the other room. I believe this will help many Christian marriages.... "But, man of God, I don't love sex. After all it is not food" If that is what I can hear you saying to me. You want to know my response to you? It's simple: In Patien Simon's voice I will tell you "Wee you keep kwayet sir/ma? Why did you marry in the first place? You think marriage is just to have babies? Chai! Sorry! I have forgotten that as a Pastor, I should be teaching you only spiritual things. We should all be focusing on spiritual things. I hope I'm still spiritual ba yi sha! God bless all the Christian marriages out there. Enough of the Voltron we are forming with ourselves. Let's be real and frank. God bless all the Christian couples out there. May your homes be heaven on earth 

As a pastor and marriage counselor, I can't count the number of times I have counselled both men and women that are sexually frustrated in their marriages. People are suffering in silence and this must be addressed from the pulpit. Christianity is not against romance. Wife, Please don't listen to those women that are saying a man will still cheat no matter what you do to satisfy him during sex. Don't listen to such women and allow what they say to kill your enthusiasm and action in the other room. I agree that a man that will cheat will still cheat but that is no excuse for you to be boring in the other room; because I have also seen men that were pushed out because of that. Though that's not a genuine excuse. Uncle, Daddy, please wake up, be a Lion for aunty/mummy. Aunty, mummy, please wake up, be a Tigress for Uncle/Daddy in the other room. I believe this will help many Christian marriages.... "But, man of God, I don't love sex. After all it is not food" If that is what I can hear you saying to me. You want to know my response to you? It's simple: In Patien Simon's voice I will tell you "Wee you keep kwayet sir/ma? Why did you marry in the first place? You think marriage is just to have babies? Chai! Sorry! I have forgotten that as a Pastor, I should be teaching you only spiritual things. We should all be focusing on spiritual things. I hope I'm still spiritual ba yi sha! God bless all the Christian marriages out there. Enough of the Voltron we are forming with ourselves. Let's be real and frank. God bless all the Christian couples out there. May your homes be heaven on earth #STRICTLY FOR THE MARRIED SEX DOES NOT BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM.... I have noticed with disdain that in this part of our world(Africa), most Christian couples are not romantic at all. I can say with a heavy heart that romance is virtually dead in many christian marriages. Many christian couples live like intimate strangers in the name of being spiritual and practicing holiness unto the Lord. I was at a Christian couples' retreat years ago. At this retreat, the guest speaker asked all the couples present to kiss each other. My goodness! You needed to see the look on the faces of most of the couples at that meeting immediately that instruction was given; it was as if they had marched "poopoo". I was a bit irritated by the spirikokoism I saw on display that day. It was way too much. That day, you will be shocked to see some wives' dodging the lips of their husbands, and some husbands did same to their wives. Dear Husband, when last have you hugged your wife as you were going out or coming in? Do you even hug your wife at all? Or you think your body is the temple of God and must not be used for hugging? Dear Wife, when last did you grab your husband's head and plant a kiss on his lips? Couples, when last did you dance together? When last did you crack jokes together? When last did you leave the kids with grandma and travel on a fun vacation together? When last did you do pillow fight? The only time some Christian men hold their wives' hands is when they want to pray together  The only time some men open the car door for their wives is if the handle is faulty and they are the only ones that know how to open it without damaging it. I charge all Christian couples, don't only PRAY together, PLAY together as well. Husband, feel free to play the keyboard on your wife's body. You paid dowry over the owner of that body. You see those twins on her chest! Whether they are Extra large, large, medium or small; size does not matter; It could be Water melon or agbalumo, believe me, size does not matter. Play with them regularly and skillfully. Squeeze them often. You think they are mere decorations? You think they are meant for the babies alone? No, sir! Use your hands and mouth skillfully on those things. It does not reduce your anointing. Smack her playfully on her backyard once in a while! It's not a crime. Wife, feel free to trouble that man in the other room. Fight like children doing ere ipa! It is allowed.

#STRICTLY FOR THE MARRIED SEX DOES NOT BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM.... I have noticed with disdain that in this part of our world(Africa), most Christian couples are not romantic at all. I can say with a heavy heart that romance is virtually dead in many christian marriages. Many christian couples live like intimate strangers in the name of being spiritual and practicing holiness unto the Lord. I was at a Christian couples' retreat years ago. At this retreat, the guest speaker asked all the couples present to kiss each other. My goodness! You needed to see the look on the faces of most of the couples at that meeting immediately that instruction was given; it was as if they had marched "poopoo". I was a bit irritated by the spirikokoism I saw on display that day. It was way too much. That day, you will be shocked to see some wives' dodging the lips of their husbands, and some husbands did same to their wives. Dear Husband, when last have you hugged your wife as you were going out or coming in? Do you even hug your wife at all? Or you think your body is the temple of God and must not be used for hugging? Dear Wife, when last did you grab your husband's head and plant a kiss on his lips? Couples, when last did you dance together? When last did you crack jokes together? When last did you leave the kids with grandma and travel on a fun vacation together? When last did you do pillow fight? The only time some Christian men hold their wives' hands is when they want to pray together  The only time some men open the car door for their wives is if the handle is faulty and they are the only ones that know how to open it without damaging it. I charge all Christian couples, don't only PRAY together, PLAY together as well. Husband, feel free to play the keyboard on your wife's body. You paid dowry over the owner of that body. You see those twins on her chest! Whether they are Extra large, large, medium or small; size does not matter; It could be Water melon or agbalumo, believe me, size does not matter. Play with them regularly and skillfully. Squeeze them often. You think they are mere decorations? You think they are meant for the babies alone? No, sir! Use your hands and mouth skillfully on those things. It does not reduce your anointing. Smack her playfully on her backyard once in a while! It's not a crime. Wife, feel free to trouble that man in the other room. Fight like children doing ere ipa! It is allowed. Mummy, It does not reduce your spirituality. It even makes you to bond together. Mummy, do you even sit on Daddy's lap often? We know you are born again. We know you are Spirit filled. But, so are we too! I remember how an older pastor advised me some time ago, "Pastor, I have seen how God's power has been flowing in your ministry and it's commendable. If you want to operate in more power, you have to limit how you meet your wife when get married,;too much sex with one's wife reduces the anointing." The reason I did not laugh right there before him was because of my respect for his age. To be candid, Sex does not begin in the bedroom but outside it. Husband, in the other room, don't just lay your wife on the bed and go straight into action. Haba! Kilode? Who is chasing you? What's the rush? Are you Bebeto? Who is hurrying you up? Try to go downstairs and work some magic there with your hands. Wife, don't just lie down on the bed like a log of wood showing no emotions or feelings while the man does all the action. What are your hands for? Kilode? Se Ogun laye ni? Let the man hear your ringtone. It's not a sin for ringtones to be playing in the other room. "Haaa! Yee! Chimo o! Oooos! aaaas!" sounding in the other room is not a sin o. It doesn't mean you are not a virtuous woman. Infact any "other room" where there is no ringtone during fellowship is a cold room. Many Christian homes are just too cold and most couples are too formal. Many Christian marriages are just too boring. No intimacy! No display of affection either openly or secretly. This shouldn't be.

*IS LOVE REALLY AN ILLUSION?* Love has been reduced to sex and kisses. Care is being measured over distance. Crushes are being confused for lovers. Money can't buy love yet no one dates a poor person. "I love you" they say, "I will hurt you" they mean. We say love never ends yet we have ex's. We say love is not possessive and selfish yet we love people only when they agree to date us. Most of the people we hate are people we once loved. And I ask myself, how can love turn into hatred in just a second? Everybody wants to be loved but not everyone is good at it because it's one thing to fall in love and another to be in love. People don't really want real things anymore but fake and packaging. True love only comes from above not novels and movies.

Husband Material.... Not every garden egg is fresh inside, some have maggots inside them... If Single ladies will overlook the outer freshness and look inward, they will discover the ones with maggots. If ladies will learn to overlook flashy things, wealth, cars, mansions, cuteness, quick money, and focus on the quality (character) it will reduce the availability of fake men. Who Is A Husband Material?? √ He is a man whose words are his bound. Not promise and fail. √ He is the lover of Christ and committed to God's work. He love the woman in his life, just as Christ loves the church. √ A man who paid bride price before claiming ownership... √ A man who takes positive decision and stand by it..( Not my parents said) √ A man who understands the role of Care, Attention and Communication in a relationship. √ He does not fake his way of living just to sleep with you, he has control over his sexual urge. √ A man that is not after your physical look but the heart and character because, character is the beauty of every woman. √ Even with his wealth, he is always humble to the core. Not a child molesters, wife beaters, rapist..etc √ A man who pet you and surprise you with gifts even without your demand, of course he knows fully well that most women cherish surprises. √ He is conscious of your future and vision, not hips and romance. √ A man who believe that sex is not love.. Every woman desires a husband material. But remember to be a wife material.. #COACH.

Tears of a single lady.. You promised to see her parents as soon as you're back, Unfortunately you came back and changed your line.. She didn't force you to come and see her people, but you did and after that day, you never came back, the annoying part is up till now you haven't told her what she did. You slept with her and went at her back to tell your friends " that babe nah giver' thereby painting her a harlot. You will send a lady to go and see your parents even when you're outside the country. The next day you will start demanding for nude and sex video. You have been dating a lady for 1 to 2 years, sleeping with her, using her as a wife, immediately marriage is mentioned. You said your pastor or one woman of God said she is not your wife..( she will bring you back luck if you marry her) but you forgot you have been sleeping with her ooo After 2 to 3 years of a relationship, you said your people doesn't marry from her community. You know you're married, yet you keep lying to her that you're single, only for her to find out the that you're married with kids.. You're in a relationship with someone, you just woke up one day and stop calling without no reason.. You have two Facebook account, one is where you celebrate her, another is for another lady.. You're outside the country; you told her to wait for you but you came back and married another. Year in Year out you're making promises, and the poor lady will keep waiting.. Later you will tell her " if you see someone else you can marry" You have the heart to engage two ladies in one month, even at the end you will marry none. You met on social media handle, after all the constant calls and video calls.... Immediately you met in person, you stopped calling.. You met a lady today, within few days you started demanding for sex, if she said No! " You told her she is not serious' Just because she slept with you now you feel that how she sleeps with every man.( sex isn't love) You claim to be in a relationship with a woman, yet she is the one that calls and care for you. The worst of it is that one woman isn't enough for you.. How can you claim to love a woman, and you call her ones in a week , sometimes you don't even call ( Tears of a single lady) When a woman is begging "attention " from you, you're indirectly telling her you are not the one for her. If our fathers and mothers behaved in this manner, many of us won't be in existence.. Be honest with your intention. Don't be the reason for her tears. If you're not ready; hide your face. #Coach_Brett

IS IT A MUST TO HAVE SEX? If you can’t control yourself sexually while single, you still won’t control yourself when you get married. Marriage does not cure lust. The lust of the flesh is the strongest human bondage so abstain. SINGLE LADY, for how long will men sleep with you and dump you? Madness is repeating the same mistake and expecting different results. Get this - responsible men don’t sleep with a girl before committing, it's only the Cheaters who do that so be extra careful! SINGLE MAN, the more girls you sleep with, the less you trust women. You’ll be so insecure imagining other men are sleeping with your woman. And you’ll never be satisfied by one woman in marriage, because you will always be thinking that Jane is different from Mary. Lust is a ferocious evil spirit that can haunt you for the rest of your life. Before marriage, this devil lures you into premarital sex. After marriage, this devil traps you into extramarital affairs. End result will be jumping from one marriage to the other until you die. While virginity does not guarantee success in marriage, chronic infidelity guarantees failure in marriage. Casual sex lowers our human dignity. We are too dignified to act like cats, dogs and goats. MAY THE LOVE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU ALL NOW AND FOR EVER AND EVER 🙏🙏🙌