THE VINE MAGAZINE

"Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever."- 1 John 2:15-17 KJV "And we know that we are of God, and the whole world lieth in wickedness."- 1 John 5:19 KJV "If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God."- Colossians 3:1-3 KJV "This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh."- Galatians 5:16 KJV "Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen."- 1 John 5:21 KJV

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THE POWER OF A WOMAN'S TONGUE 1. A woman's greatest power is in her words, whereas men are physically strong, a woman can bring down a man just with her tongue 2. A woman's words can encourage a man and be his greatest inspiration, or discourage him and be his greatest nightmare. The more he loves her, the more power she has over him 3. A woman's tongue can destroy her own children's self-esteem with harsh and cold words. A woman's words can uplift her own children with words of hope, faith and love. How children remember their childhood is based on how their mother spoke to them 4. A woman's tongue can be very suggestive that implies to many men that she is interested in them. This type of woman comes off as flirtatious. If she is single, she misleads men; if she is married, she makes her husband insecure as he wonders why she speaks to other men with a sexual undertone 5. A woman's tongue can chase friends away with her mean tone, stinging jokes and insensitive words. A woman's tongue can keep friends because her words create an environment of care 6. A woman's tongue can be a gossip machine and she hangs around women who are also gossip machines, eventually, these women destroy each other, their marriages, their careers, their peace and other people's lives just with their tongue 7. A woman's toxic tongue can make her husband avoid coming back home to her, he deliberately comes home late to avoid her even though he is not cheating. A woman's loving tongue can make her husband come home early because he feels at home with her, he even enjoys calling her over the phone 8. A woman who is emotionally unstable is reckless with her tongue, lashing out and saying irrational things. A woman who is emotionally stable is responsible with her tongue, she may be moody, hormonal or not having a good day but she is still measured in her response 9. A woman's tongue can be a weapon that provokes a man with words such "You are not man enough", "You poor man cannot handle me", "Worthless", "Beat me, I dare you". A woman's tongue can be a peace maker, calming down conflict, stopping fires before they escalate, showing her man understanding and appreciation 10. A woman's tongue can destroy or build her own home. With her tone, she sets the mood of the home 11. A woman's words can cancel her own progress, dreams and prayers... Or she can use her tongue to make effectual and fervent prayers, command her morning and speak life to her dreams, husband, children and society 💛 Dear sisters, use your tongue wisely.

STANDARDIZED INGREDIENTS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE 179 _*Various challenges and issues may occur and test your loyalty and commitment in the marriage relationship.*_ The challenges may be financial, job loss, child birth delay, sickness, death of a child, etc. _*Whatever the challenge or issues may be, avoid blaming each other but rather decide to mutually and holistically support each other as well as depending fully on the Most High God for His help for you are both stronger together which in the long run will promote a righteous and glorious marriage.*_ *http://CHRISTBRIDEFOUNDATION.ORG.NG*

WHY SOME PEOPLE FEEL LONELY IN THEIR MARRIAGE 1. They are married legally, but not emotionally 2. They married the title, not a friend 3. They went through a difficult experience in their childhood or youth that traumatized them and keeps them from opening up, having trust issues 4. They have low self-esteem hence feel they don't have much to offer. They don’t feel they are funny enough, deep enough or good company 5. They don't enjoy their own company. It is difficult to connect with your spouse when you haven't connected with yourself 6. They did not heal before getting married 7. They are used to being independent. Either because they grew up too fast and had to take up responsibilities early or they have been single for long before marriage 8. They habour unforgivenness. Holding grudges ruins connections 9. Them and their spouse haven't learnt to understand and accomodate each other's differences 10. They want to always be right and perfect, leading to being critical of self and others 11. They overthink. Living more in their heads than in the present 12. They don't create time for quality bonding with their spouse or have a spouse who doesn't create time 13. They struggle to be vulnerable hindering their partner from knowing who they really are

STANDARDIZED INGREDIENTS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE _179 _*When married, it is good and advisable to financially support mutual parents and close family as much as you can.*_ "Leave your father and mother" as stated in the scriptures does not mean, we should not support our parents and close family when it's necessary and urgent. _*However, ensure that in mutually helping your parents and close family you do not neglect the basic and holistic needs of your spouse and children as give your spouse and children topmost priority which in the long will promote a righteous and glorious marriage relationship.*_ http://christbridefoundation.org.ng/