Basic Fucking Kindness

intrusive thoughts, impostor syndrome, self compassion "-i keep having these horrible thoughts. i think i might be a bad person +how christian of you -what is? +thinking that your thoughts alone makes you a good or a bad person. just dont act on them and you're fine."

unscheduled message: the antispam bot has been finetuned a bit, it will now only block certain links (for the last few days, it has blocked all links) with it, the filter has been upgraded from "delete message with a link" to "ban the user who posted a malicious link". this will be fine for 98% of the cases but it may trigger for innocent links too from time to time, if you get mysteriously banned after posting a link (and you are not an annoying spambot) send a heads up and you will be reinstated/unbanned

" [1/2 ]..years ago, anthropologist margaret mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. the student expected mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones. but no. mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. you cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. you are meat for prowling beasts. no animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal. a broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended to the person through recovery. helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, mead said." [2/2] a student once asked anthropologist margaret mead, "what is the earliest sign of civilization?" the student expected her to say a clay pot, a grinding stone, or maybe a weapon. margaret mead thought for a moment, then she said, "a healed femur." a femur is the longest bone in the body, linking hip to knee. in societies whithout the benefits of modern medicine, it takes six weeks of rest for a fractured femur to heal. a healed femur shows that someone cared for the injured person, did their hunting and gathering, stayed with them, and offered physical protection and human companionship until the injury could mend. mead explained that where the law of the jungle - the survival of the fittest - rules, no healed femurs are found. the first sign of civilization is compassion, seen in a healed femur."

society, anthropology, long text [transcription in following message]

activism, society, digital, self compassion "no offense but the internet gives you the most wrong and fucked up idea of helping people because people get mad if you dont care about disasters happening in 72 countries, meanwhile the people in real life that are doing the most good picked one VERY SPECIFIC thing to care about and care about it REALLY HARD"

unscheduled message: because of the ongoing spam wave, comments in the channel containing links will automatically be filtered for the foreseeable future. if you send a long message containing a link, it may get instantly deleted, so be mindful not to lose anything important to the void that way

self compassion, executive dysfunction, depression, mental illness, invisible problems, body "if the right way is too hard, fuck it. do it the wrong way."

boundaries, socialization, family "do i have to hug them? a handy guide"

body, feminism, activism, patriarchy "every time i hate my body i remember that there are millions of old rich white men who benefit from my self hatred and if there's one thing i hate, its old rich white men so i snap out of that shit instantly cos i aint EVER giving them the satisfaction"

arts, body "this is the first time i've seen color tattoos on dark skin that actually look vibrant and pigmented!!!!! once i was talking to a dark skinned lady who told me that she was jealous of my pasty skin because she wants color tattoos, which her artist said wasnt possible with her skin tone. i sent her to mine, and he proceeded to go off about how dark skin accepts greens, yellows, and white beautifully, and that her previous artist just lacked the skills to use those 3 colors as highlights to make other colors pop more. if you are dark skinned and your tattoo artists says you cant have bright colors, find a new one"

anxiety, socialization, hobbies, art "you're allowed to like a thing without knowing every single fact about it. you're allowed to like a movie without knowing ever actor's name, a book without memorizing every page, a video game without knowing all the easter eggs. liking things isnt supposed to be stressful."

body, physical health, activism "reasons to hit the gym that arent patriarchal beauty standards: -outrun the cops -outlive ur enemies -more stamina for sex -actually sleep at night -get strong to fight racists"

chronic illness, invisible problems, self compassion, rest, body "your best is what you can do without harming your mental and physical health, not what you can accomplish when you disregard it"

digital, rest, mental health "we are confronted with more information in 1 week than someone 100 years ago processed in their lifetime give yourself space to think give yourself to things that matter to you"

lgtb, couch, bisexuality "here we see a lovely couch"

halloween, medical, transgender, "PSA... During the spooky season, you may be tempted to get something with activated charcoal in it because it looks cool - BUT!! if you're taking medications, it may weaken the medication! Especially important to consider with something like birth control! For everyone on HRT, activated charcoal FLUSHES it out of your system. PLEASE stay away from it! This includes T, E, and birth control, as well as most medications. Be safe!! If you're making something for someone, just use black sesame paste, squid ink, or artificial colour additional note to be added: this only affects orally ingested medication, if you are only on injectibles then activated charcoal will not affect anything other than nutrient absorption"

growth "the ugly road to adulthood is one on which you will repeatedly discover you are capable of both more cruelty and kindness than you previously imagined"

mental illness "i just think its important to understand that "you're always going to be mentally ill" isnt the same thing as "you're always going to be unhappy""

growth, healing, mental illness "the thing about everything is that it all gets easier with practice, so be careful what you practice"

unscheduled message channel in hiatus because life is being very hard lately be well