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"Guilt and shame are both emotions of self-evaluation; however, that is where the similarities end. The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between “I am bad” (shame) and “I did something bad” (guilt). Shame is about who we are and guilt is about our behaviors. If I feel guilty for cheating on a test, my self-talk might sound something like “I should not have done that. That was really stupid. Cheating is not something I believe in or want to do.” If I feel shame about cheating on a test, my self-talk is more likely to sound like “I’m a liar and a cheat. I’m so stupid. I’m a bad person." Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me ❤️ @essence3

"Our culture teaches us about shame—it dictates what is acceptable and what is not. We weren’t born craving perfect bodies. We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear of getting too old to feel valuable. We weren’t born with a Pottery Barn catalog in one hand and heartbreaking debt in the other. Shame comes from outside of us—from the messages and expectations of our culture. What comes from the inside of us is a very human need to belong, to relate." Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me @essence3

"Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging." Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me @essence3

I Thought It Was Just Me (but It Isn't): Making the Journey from What Will People Think? to I Am Enough by Brené Brown