Basic Fucking Kindness

invisible problems "so grief is like this there is a box with a ball in it, and a pain button in the beggining, the ball is huge. you cant move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. it rattles around on its own and in there and hits the button over and over. you cant control it - it just keeps hurting. sometimes it seems unrelenting over time, the ball gets smaller. it hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. its better because you can function day to day more easily. but the downside is that the ball randomly hits that button when you least expect it for most people, the ball never really goes away. it might hit less and less and you have more time to recover between hits, unlike when the ball was still giant"

art, crafts how to make a bead lizard

resources "i need a paper"

mental illness, society, socialization, discrimination, neurodivergendy, schizophrenia "dont armchair diagnose mass shooters and other killers. the misconception that all violent people must be mentally ill (and the following conclusion that all mentally ill people must be dangerous) has horrible real life consequences for visibly mentally ill people [...] please consider the real life consequences of reinforcing the association between mental illness and violence"

society, discrimination, minorities, socialization, mental health "wow living as a person with a yellow head sure is cool"

lgbt, binding, body, invisible problems, chronic illness, socialization "no offense but can ya'll like also normalize trans guys that DONT bind. like there's guys who dont want to, choose not to because of the risks, and guys who CANT because of medical reasons. not every trans dude is wearing a binder 24/7 and some dont ever"

body, chronic illness, invisible problems "abled people: can you do the thing?? disabled people: ...technically yes BUT"

invisible problems, socialization, animals "it costs you literally nothing to leave service dogs the fuck alone"

self compassion, socialization "its easy to always want to show up for eveyone else but its really important to show up for yourself as well"

boundaries, socialization, trauma "agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. when you do this you're disrespecting your boundaries. no more making yourself uncomfortable for others comfortability. you have control now. you run your life. take up space and use your voice"

anxiety, parenting, socialization "the worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you arent disruptive, you dont want any kind of attention, you dont express yourself [...] but you're actually way behind your peers in normal social development [...] convenient children do not equal healthy children"

sexuality, nsfw "orgasms are great but they can make sex goal oriented & create unnecessary pressure"

the first post of today, in an hour from now (12:01), will be arguably nsfw. there wont be any explicit content (as it is only text), but consider not opening it in front of people who you dont feel like getting questions from

lgbt "idk what young transmasc needs to hear this but you're allowed to transition to look like a feminine man"

lgbt, self compassion, impostor syndrome, labels "idk what ace person needs to hear this but having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual". intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts" [can be applied to things other than sexualities]

socialization, feelings, relationships, parenting, "just because your feelings are valid, this doesnt mean that every possible reaction to them is"

self compassion "forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode"

self compassion, mental health " "diamonds are formed under pressure" and bread dough rises when you let it rest [...] the same boiling water that softens the potato will harden the egg"

socialization, relationships "i think we subconsciously undervalue platonic love and intimacy from our friends bc society puts so much emphasis on finding and having romantic love. like idk about you but i wouldnt be shit without the unending love and support of my friends"

self compassion, socialization, boundaries "breakups are ok. starting over is ok. moving on is ok. what is not ok is staying somewhere where you are not happy, valued, or appreciated. thats not ok."