self-reflection 🕊

Ustaz Hidayat ✨ Soalan yang dibincangkan: 1) Apakah satu perkara paling penting yang perlu diperiksa sebelum melangkah ke rumah tangga buat kali kedua 2) Bagi mereka yang nikah kali kedua, apakah ego yang paling mudah terjadi dan bagaimana ia boleh menjejas hubungan jika gagal mengatasinya? 3) Bagaimana kite nak pujuk anak kite untuk terima suami/isteri which is ibu tiri atau bapa tiri mereka? Focuses on: - Hadith does not apply to only one gender but both have vice versa - Pilih yang ade agama…

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Ustaz Nuzhan ✨✨ Soalan yang dibincangkan: 1) Bile kite sebagai ibu bapa terlalu marah dengan anak, kadang terkeluar perkataan yang tak elok. Bagaimana cara supaya ia tidak menjadi suatu doa 2) Bagaimana saya nak ajak sang suami untuk keluar jumpa ibu bapa mertua tapi sentiasa tolak and jadi marah? Focuses on: - Prophet Muhammad S.A..W and Saidina Aisyah RA story - Firaun’s wife - Sentiasa ucap ‘lailaa ha illaallah’ - Introverts - Anggap ibu bapa mertua seperti ibu bapa kita sendiri - Time - “Part of your love language is your relationship with your in laws”

Ustaz Ahmad Dahri ✨ Soalan yang dibincangkan: 1) Dalam dunia zaman sekarang, ramai lelaki yang ingin berkahwin tapi kurang mahir dalam segi ilmu, jiwa dan taggungjawab. Apakah sebenarnya persiapan dalaman yang islam tekankan sebelum seroang lelaki melangkah menjadi suami? 2) Kerana suami diam bukan kerana benci tapi tidak pandai untuk meluahkan rasa, bagaimana seorang suami boleh memahami perasaan sebenar kepada pasangan? 3) Bagaimana kite nak jaga batasan sebagai seorang suami dan pasangan dalam rumah tangga? * - Focuses on ‘ego’ - Hati seseorang wanita terletak di mulut - The best untuk selesaikan masalah is DI Rumah sendiri and cuba elakkan melibatkan keluarga atau orang luar - Jangan kedekut with your isteri

Ustaz Ahmad Dahri ✨ Soalan yang dibincangkan: 1) Dalam dunia zaman sekarang, ramai lelaki yang ingin berkahwin tapi kurang mahir dalam segi ilmu, jiwa dan taggungjawab. Apakah sebenarnya persiapan dalaman yang islam tekankan sebelum seroang lelaki melangkah menjadi suami? 2) Kerana suami diam bukan kerana benci tapi tidak pandai untuk meluahkan rasa, bagaimana seorang suami boleh memahami perasaan sebenar kepada pasangan? 3) Bagaimana kite nak jaga batasan sebagai seorang suami dan pasangan dalam rumah tangga? * - Focuses on ‘ego’ - Hati seseorang wanita terletak di mulut - The best untuk selesaikan masalah is DI Rumah sendiri and cuba elakkan melibatkan keluarga atau orang luar - Jangan kedekut with your isteri

Ustazah Syariati (covers muslimah point of view) ✨ Soalan yang dibincangkan: 1) Isteri yang baik hatinya, tapi kasar bahasanya bile penat ataupun stress. Jadi, bagaimana seorang isteri boleh belajar untuk menegur suaminya dengan lembut tanpa kehilangan kejujuran? 2) Sebagai seorang muslimah dan isteri, apakah satu perkara dalam hati, amalan yang paling mudah untuk abaikan tetapi sebenarnya menentukan keluarga diberkati atau disebaliknya? 3) Bagaimana untuk hangatkan kembali rumah tangga setelah hampir 10 tahun bersama. Masalahnya - pimpin tangan pun jarang sekarang… *Ustazah emphasises a lot on: - Syukur and the opposite of syukur is ”Kufur” - The story of 2 woman during the prophets time: Nabi Musa’s mother and Maryam (AS)

The introduction of the event: Apologies in advance sebab the voice recording for Ustaz is not working from my device so I’ll just share the surah that was recited but Ustaz Zahil inshaallah 🤲🏼 وَأَمَّا ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا۟ وَكَذَّبُوا۟ بِـَٔايَـٰتِنَا وَلِقَآئِ ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ فَأُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ فِى ٱلْعَذَابِ مُحْضَرُونَ ١٦ And as for those who disbelieved, and denied Our signs and the meeting ˹with Allah˺ in the Hereafter, they will be confined in punishment. فَسُبْحَـٰنَ ٱللَّهِ حِينَ تُمْسُونَ وَحِينَ تُصْبِحُونَ ١٧ So glorify Allah in the evening and in the morning وَلَهُ ٱلْحَمْدُ فِى ٱلسَّمَـٰوَٰتِ وَٱلْأَرْضِ وَعَشِيًّۭا وَحِينَ تُظْهِرُونَ ١٨ all praise is for Him in the heavens and the earth—as well as in the afternoon, and at noon يُخْرِجُ ٱلْحَىَّ مِنَ ٱلْمَيِّتِ وَيُخْرِجُ ٱلْمَيِّتَ مِنَ ٱلْحَىِّ وَيُحْىِ ٱلْأَرْضَ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهَا ۚ وَكَذَٰلِكَ تُخْرَجُونَ ١٩ He brings forth the living from the dead and the dead from the living. And He gives life to the earth after its death. And so will you be brought forth ˹from the grave وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦٓ أَنْ خَلَقَكُم مِّن تُرَابٍۢ ثُمَّ إِذَآ أَنتُم بَشَرٌۭ تَنتَشِرُونَ ٢٠ One of His signs is that He created you from dust, then—behold!—you are human beings spreading over ˹the earth وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦٓ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًۭا لِّتَسْكُنُوٓا۟ إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةًۭ وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ٢١ And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ خَلْقُ ٱلسَّمَـٰوَٰتِ وَٱلْأَرْضِ وَٱخْتِلَـٰفُ أَلْسِنَتِكُمْ وَأَلْوَٰنِكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّلْعَـٰلِمِينَ ٢٢ And one of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the diversity of your languages and colours. Surely in this are signs for those of ˹sound˺ knowledge وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ مَنَامُكُم بِٱلَّيْلِ وَٱلنَّهَارِ وَٱبْتِغَآؤُكُم مِّن فَضْلِهِۦٓ ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَسْمَعُونَ ٢٣ And one of His signs is your sleep by night and by day ˹for rest˺ as well as your seeking His bounty ˹in both˺. Surely in this are signs for people who listen وَمِنْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ يُرِيكُمُ ٱلْبَرْقَ خَوْفًۭا وَطَمَعًۭا وَيُنَزِّلُ مِنَ ٱلسَّمَآءِ مَآءًۭ فَيُحْىِۦ بِهِ ٱلْأَرْضَ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهَآ ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَـَٔايَـٰتٍۢ لِّقَوْمٍۢ يَعْقِلُونَ ٢٤ And one of His signs is that He shows you lightning, inspiring ˹you with˺ hope and fear.1 And He sends down rain from the sky, reviving the earth after its death. Surely in this are signs for people who understand

“Assalamualaikum everyone! I had the wonderful opportunity to be part of a volunteering team for an event called Keluargaku Syurgaku 3.0, held at the SingPost Auditorium earlier on today. Although the forum focused on marriage - a topic that might seem a little distant for us youths and teenagers, I see it as a valuable chance to gain more ‘ilm and further deepen our understanding. Inshaallah, I’ll be sharing some insights from the speakers: Ustaz Ahmad Dahri, Ustaz Zahil, Ustazah Syariati, Ustaz Hidayat, and Ustaz Nuzhan.” ✨✨

In Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 155, Allah says He will test us but not to break us, but to bring us back to Him. “We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth, lives, and fruits but give glad tidings to those who are patient.” It’s as if Allah is gently preparing our hearts for what life will bring. The moments when we’ll feel terrified, hungry not just for food, but for love, peace, and understanding. When we’ll lose people we thought we could never live without, money we worked so hard for, and things we once called ours. But in the midst of it all, Allah whispers, “Give glad tidings to the patient.” He doesn’t say “the rich,” or “the powerful,” or “the happy.” He says the patient.. The ones who cry silently in sujood. The ones who keep praying even when their hearts are breaking. The ones who still say “Alhamdulillah” with trembling lips after every loss. Every tear, every breath you take in the middle of a storm, Allah sees it. He never promised this world would be easy, but He promised He would be with you through it all. So if you’re going through a test right now, remember this, You’re not being punished but you’re being polished. Your pain is not wasted. It’s part of the path that leads you closer to Him✨ “And give glad tidings to the patient.” Because what’s waiting for you with Allah, is far more beautiful than anything you’ve lost. remember that 🤍

“You were told to be strong. But even the strongest cries,  including the Prophet ﷺ.” You bottle it in. You stay silent. You break down alone. Because society told you: “Men don’t cry.” But Rasulullah ﷺ cried. He grieved. He showed emotion. And yet, he was the strongest of men. You are not weak for feeling. Let it out. Talk to Allah. Ask for help. Healing starts with honesty not silence.

Friday Sunnah Reminders 🤍📿 We all know how special Jumaah (Friday) is in our Deen but we need reminders from time to time to recall the magnanimity of this golden day. Friday is no average day for Muslims. It has the honor of being called ‘best day of the week’ by the best person to ever exist- Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. 1. Send extra selawat to Rasulullah Rasulullah ﷺ said : “The person closest to me on the Day of Resurrection is the one who sent the most Selawat upon me.” 🖤 [ Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 484 ] 2. Read Surah Al-Kahfi We can read: A. The first 10 Ayahs of Surah Al-Kahf B. The last 10 Ayahs of Surah Al-Kahf C. Both A and B D. Ideally, the complete Surah Al-Kahf. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever reads Surah Al-Kahf on Friday, he will be illuminated with light between the two Fridays.” [ Narrated by al-Haakim; Grade Sahih by al-Albaani ] 3. Mandi Jumaat [ Jumaah Shower ] Abu Sa’id Al-Khudr reports: I testify that Allah’s Messenger said, ‘The taking of a bath on Friday is compulsory for every Muslim who has attained the age of puberty and also cleaning of teeth with Siwak and using perfume, if available’. [ Sahih Bukhari ] 4. Use Fragance & New Piece of Clothings. “Put on your adornment on every occasion of prayer” [ Surat al-A’raf 7: 31 ] 5. Berdoa to Allah [ Send supplications to Allah ] 6. Trimming your nails Abu Hurayrah R.A. reported that ‘Five are the demonstrations of fitrah (nature/ instinct): 1. circumcision, 2. evacuating the hair underneath the navel, 3. trimming the mustache, 4. trimming the nails, and 5. culling the hair under the arms.’ 7. Make lots of Dua between Asr & Maghrib “There is a special hour on Friday, during which all prayers are accepted and answered by Allah, all Glory and Praise be to Him. This is part of the blessings that Allah has blessed this day with, over all the other days of the week. “On this day there is a time when no Muslim stands and prays, asking Allah for something, but Allah will grant him it” – and he gestured with his hands to indicate how short that time is. [ Bukhari and Muslim ] Ibn Al-Qayyim said that this golden hour is to be found in the time after the Asr prayer until the Maghrib Azan (end of day): “Friday has twelve hours (or part of it). There is one hour during which if a Muslim asks Allah anything, Allah will give it to him, so find it during the last hour after Asr.” [ Abu Dawud & An-Nasai ] Let’s do the virtues of Friday together! insha allah, if you can’t do everything, it’s okayy, don’t leave everything out okay. may Allah ease your affairs. 🕊 MD. @selfreflectionforummah

True strength isn’t about raising your voice, proving your point, or showing how tough you can be. It’s about what happens inside your heart when anger rises, but you pause, you breathe, and you remember Allah. You could have responded with harsh words, but you chose silence. You could have turned away in pride, but you chose patience.You could have let your emotions control you, but instead, you chose to control them for the sake of Allah. That’s strength. Not the kind the world praises but the kind that Allah loves. Because when you hold back your anger, when you forgive, when you choose gentleness over ego, Allah elevates you. He sees your struggle. And in that quiet restraint, you are victorious. Not over others, but over your own nafsu. So, my beloved sisters never think your silence or patience means weakness. Sometimes, it is the loudest proof of your faith and the deepest form of courage. 🤍 And if no one has told you lately, I’m proud of you. For trying. For holding on when your heart feels heavy. For choosing Allah again and again, even when it hurts.

“You are not too broken to be loved by Allah.” You’re not behind. You’re not a burden. You are still worthy of every mercy, every blessing, and every answered prayer. “Indeed, We have dignified the children of Adam.” (Qur’an 17:70)