HALAL MARRIAGE

A couple that wishes to have a successful relationship must understand each other’s needs. A husband must take into account that a woman’s needs and expectations are different than a man’s. Great intimacy can only be achieved if a woman finds a complete, fulfilling relationship. So what are women looking for in a marriage? Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love them, cherish them, adore them, be romantic with them, and make them feel beautiful and wanted. They want someone who will be attracted to them emotionally through their personality, and attracted to them physically through their bodies. A woman wants a partner who will strive together with her through this life; laughing and rejoicing through the good times, and sticking by each other and supporting each other through the bad times. She wants a man strong in his deen who can stand up and take the responsibility of the household, and help raise the children in accordance with Islam. A woman wants her husband to be her friend, companion, and soul mate. Any good husband must realize that a woman’s primary need is emotional. He must take into account the prophetic tradition “The best of you are those who are best to their wives,” [Sahih al-Bukhari], and then strive to be the best to his wife. Men have been assigned the responsibility by Allah to take care of their wives, and this entails treating them with love and respect, and striving to make them happy. If a husband can fulfil his wife's primary needs, not only will Allah reward him, his wife will be content with him, and together the couple’s life will be more harmonious. Moreover, when a woman’s needs are fulfilled she will be more willing to fulfil her husband’s needs, bi iznillaah. The best way to satisfy a woman’s emotional needs is to listen to her and respond to her with compassion. By listening to her intently, with your undivided attention, and taking a genuine interest in what she has to say, she will feel loved, cherished and important. Realize that when she approaches you with her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want solutions, she just wants sympathy and understanding.

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم              A collection of Fatawa                         relating to:                   🔶 Divorce🔶           Answered by our Shaykh,                    The Faqeeh:              Abu Hamza Hassan       bin Muhammad Ba Shu'ayb           -May Allah preserve him-            

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       🔶🔹🔶🔹🔶🔹🔶🔹🔶                       Index 1 1️⃣ Is divorce hated by Allah? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/272 2️⃣ How a person takes back his wife after divorcing her ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/486 3️⃣ The ruling on jokingly divorcing your wife ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/826 4️⃣ The ruling on audibly uttering the divorce of wife without she or anyone else hearing you ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/3661 5️⃣ Divorcing a woman while intoxicated ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/838 6️⃣ Is it permissible to marry or to divorce through a phone? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/864 7️⃣ The Ruling on divorcing a pregnant woman & declaring divorce 3 times in one go ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1170 8️⃣ Remaining in contact with a woman you divorced ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1184 9️⃣ Divorcing & taking back a woman without her awareness, permission, or approval; does it count? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1234 🔟 “You are divorced after 2 months”; Does it count? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1428 1️⃣1️⃣ ”I intend to divorce you, due to these manners of yours” ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1666 1️⃣2️⃣ Is a person still required to pay for the expenses of the woman his divorced and child? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/455 1️⃣3️⃣ The ruling on a woman requesting a divorce from her husband, without a valid reason ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/530 1️⃣4️⃣ The meaning of ‘Talaaq Bid'ee’ (An innovated divorce) ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/218 1️⃣5️⃣ Divorcing a woman after having had sexual Intercourse with her ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/219 1️⃣6️⃣ Divorcing your wife while she’s not clear of menstruation ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/456 1️⃣7️⃣ Wife determined not to wear the veil; should he divorce her? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/564 1️⃣8️⃣ Should he divorce a woman who refuses to wear the veil? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/611 1️⃣9️⃣ Husband neglecting rights of the wife; can she request a divorce? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/584 2️⃣0️⃣ Wife suspects husband with adultery, she’s refusing martial relations, should she request a divorce? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/848 2️⃣1️⃣ Uttering a clear divorce is not overlooked by lack of intention ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1656 2️⃣2️⃣ A divorced woman’s rights from her husband doesn’t cease until her idda period finishes without being taken back ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1566 2️⃣3️⃣ Negligent husband, woman wants Khul’ ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/199 2️⃣4️⃣ You remain a Mahram to your step mother, even if your father divorces her ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/357 2️⃣5️⃣ Marital dispute, wife determined for a divorce, can he request the Mahr he gave back? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/779 2️⃣6️⃣ A man has right of what he gave his wife of Dowry if she requests an annulment ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1398 2️⃣7️⃣ Requesting a marriage annulment due to fear of "Kufrānl 'Ashēr" ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1623 2️⃣8️⃣ Woman seeking a marriage annulment fearing being drawn to the husband’s Hizbiyyah ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1812 2️⃣9️⃣ Husband has AIDS, he doesn’t want to divorce her; Can her family request a Khul’ on her behalf? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1213 3️⃣0️⃣ The waiting period (idda) for a woman who requested a Khul’ ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1164 3️⃣1️⃣ The waiting period (idda) after a divorce ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1478 3️⃣2️⃣ An ignorant custom taken to verify a brides virginity; If there’s no blood, the bride gets divorced ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1445 3️⃣3️⃣A khul’ (marriage annulment) is not counted as a divorce strike ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/768 3️⃣4️⃣ Husband dies before consummating the marriage; is the idda period still required? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1810 3️⃣5️⃣ The divorcee who returns to her father’s house; can she go out during the Idda period? ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/692 3️⃣6️⃣ Loss of sexual desire doesn’t need to result in loss of marriage if both spouses are okay with it ➡️ t.me/bashuaiben/1373                       Index 1

The Messenger of Allāh Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam said to a woman: “So look where you are from him (i.e how you treat your husband) for verily he is your PARADISE and your HELLFIRE.” ● [Declared 'Authentic' by al-Albānī in Kitāb az-Zifāf Fis Sunnatil Muṭahharah pg no. 286] Imām al-Munāwee Raḥimahullāh explained this narration in Fayḍ al-Qadeer to mean that a husband's pleasure is the cause of his wife's admittance into Jannah and likewise her cause of entering Hellfire is due to displeasure of her husband.

Wisdom For Muslim Married Women... 1. A First Class degree won't make you a first class wife, rather, your submission and respect will. 2. The woman who respects her husband is the best wife anyone would ever have. 3. Your character and attitude will go a long way in determining whether your husband will wish he never regret getting married to you. 4. To be a great wife, you need more anger management skills than nagging skills. 5. Be a leader at work or anywhere else, but be a companion at home... it's wisdom. 6. Don't compete with your husband, complement him. 7. Your strength is in humility and submission, not in strife and contention. 8. Be tender, every man respect a tender woman but firm. 9. Never punish your husband by starving him of food or sex, he may be forced to get it outside. 10. There is nothing wrong in accepting that you are wrong when you are wrong. 11. Prepare to forgive your husband if he wrongs you. For a forgiving wife is better than a vengeful wife. 12. Make a decision to be a good wife, you will need it in the long run. May Allah ﷲﷻ bless all Muslim women both married and unmarried. Ameen

The home-wrecker.............. One of the major sins is to cause friction between a husband and wife, as the Qur'an states: يفرقون به بين المرء وزوجه! "𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗮 𝗵𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝗳𝗲." (2:102). The Prophet said: ‎ليس منا من خبب امرأة على زوجها ‘𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗶𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝘂𝘀𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝘀.’ [‘Sunan Abi Dawud’, 2175 - صحيح]. https://sunnah.com/abudawud:2175 And the Prophet explained how the Devil dispatches his brigades to cause harm people every day, and some of them come back explaining the evil they've caused, and the Devil isn't impressed by them, and says: "that's nothing." Then one of them says he separated between a man and his wife, so Iblis embraces him and says: نعم أنتَ ! ‘𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲!' ('Mishkat al-Masabih', 71 - authentic). https://sunnah.com/mishkat:71 --------------------- In life, people get jealous, so they conspire, or spread false rumor's/slanders, to create conflict between a husband and wife and make their lives miserable. They ruin people’s happiness and break their family structure, causing doubts and suspicions between husband and wife. A family is built on trust, and when trust is broken, the entire relationship becomes meaningless. The very first sin on earth was because of jealousy, the two sons of Adam, one killed the other over of a woman. Be very vigilant, don’t let anyone come between you and your spouse.

SECRET ABOUT WOMEN 1. When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says. If possible always hug her to calm her down. 2. The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed. 3. It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it. 4. A woman is such a school you will never graduate from. 5. Your wedding certificate with her is not a " Driving license", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her. 6. She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always. 7. A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always. 8. A woman can be highly secretive. Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend. 9. All women Love to be begged. Men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want. 10. All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless. 11. If she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you. 12. If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you. 13. If a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily. That's what makes them special If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry. Don't hurt them cos there are many out there that wish to have someone like her In every man's success there must be a good honest Woman behind.