Basic Fucking Kindness

socialization, boundaries "the weeknd said "i dont accept apologies. you did what made you happy at the expense of my emotions and i understand it but i wont respect it" "

socialization, mental illness "one day i said out loud, "when we're apart i think you must hate me" "

language, relationships, socialization "some of y'all still cant recognize the differences between platonic, romantic, sexual, mentor-student, and familial relationships, both in fiction and in reality, and it really shows [...] eros filia storge ludus agape pragma philautia "

mental health, language "honestly i think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity"

impostor syndrome "being a good person is a choice"

self compassion, socialization, relationships, parenting "im not sure if this will come out right but: being loved is NOT a reward for being beneficial or useful in any way. you dont become less deserving of being loved if you arent productive for a day or if you have a bad day and cant get out of bed i promise. being loved has nothing to do with how you "help" the world or those around you"

unscheduled message about a week ago, an informational text about "aspire before injecting" was posted in this channel. since then, a number of people who seem informed on the issue have warned that it is not really true, with one providing an explanation of "it doesnt really matter, and it is needlessly alarmist" admin acknowledges that posting medical advice without at least asking any professional was reckless and a bad idea, and will try to refrain from making such a mistake again the post will now be removed from the channel. thanks for the criticism

self compassion, impostor syndrome "-i've been so frustrated +why -it just feels like i'll never be good enough"

socialization "everyone everywhere has always had a concept of "the last straw" or "death by a thousand cuts" or "the tipping point" and yet when people tried to coin the very reasonable term "microaggression" for how even "small" forms of discrimination build up and can ruin someone's life, it got mocked and sneered at it so hard that the term fizzled and died and now there's no convenient way to explain what its like for someone to experience an insidiously slow burn of hostile or ignorant treatment without it summoning the 4chan meme brigade"

dark humor, society, x-men "it always start as a joke. look at me, both of you"

society, socialization "if the point of having a society *isnt* to care for each other, to ease suffering and realize each life's potential, literally whats the point?"

self compassion, mental health, feelings "whats that feeling that you're feeling?"

self compassion "the more i think about it, the more i realize that being 'lazy' is not a real thing. people are chronically ill, disabled, mentally ill, overworked, exhausted, but 'lazy' isnt even a thing"

socialization, relationships, trauma "emotionally abused people basic fucking kindness is this romance?"

self compassion "i just say this "you're not lazy, you only have a certain amount of energy and right now you are using it all to survive" "

activism[?] "just a reminder, because i think we legitimately forget sometimes: nazis werent just the soldiers with guns"

lgtb, body "dysphoria is a very common hallmark of transness, sure, but gender euphoria is an almost completely universal and therefore much more reliable signifier and frankly i think we should say 'if the idea of being a different gender than the one you were born assigned as makes you feel happy/better about yourself you're trans' instead of telling people 'the way you know you're trans is if your body feels like a prision and your genitals make you hate yourself' "

minorities, discrimination, socialization, society "you dont need to be extra nice to your three black friends. you need to stand up to your 50 ignorant white friends."

socialization, relationships "you know, its funny. when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"

socialization, self compassion, boundaries " "because i dont want to" is a reason why. please start to understand that"