Basic Fucking Kindness

Louder, for the people in the back

adhd, invisible problems, microinjuries "diagnosed with adhd at 25"

socialization "being a good person has backfired on me so many times no it hasnt"

society, guilt, gaslight, capitalism "thinking or how capitalism replaced "we are all sinful and unworthy of paradise and we must repent and serve god our whole life because of it" with "we are all lazy and unworthy of basic necessities and we must scrape by and be productive our whole life because of it" "

mental health, impostor syndrome "the key to getting over imposter syndrome is to know everyone else is an imposter too. tell yourself you deserve a stake in the scam they're all running"

unscheduled post: channel resumes activity now, starting in seven hours and all the way into august at worst

[rescheduled until good fawn explanation] trauma, self compassion "if you experience guilt about how you responded during a traumatic indicent, remember that during a trauma your logical brain shuts down and your survival brain makes a split second decision to either fight, flee, freeze or fawn (befriend the threat). you did not get to choose. your survival brain did. and you made it out alive, which means it made a damn good choice"

socialization "if you wouldnt go to someone for advice, dont take their criticism either"

unscheduled post channel is going to be paused for a while after tomorrow's post life is requiring more energy expenditure than its possible to recover (for simplicity, lets say a normal day requires six spoons and a normal night restores five) and life is being a bit too much lately admin needs to recharge for a while, but the channel will return to activity after that be well

anxiety, mental health "having an anxiety disorder is like the moment when your chair almost slips or you miss a step going down the stairs but it never stops"

depression, mental health "my brother was diagnossed with depression years before i was, and because of that he started therapy years before i did i still remember when i was a young teen and he was playing a nirvana song and he stopped it at this one line: "i miss the comfort of being sad" he told me that when you start to get better, there's a part of you that misses being sad and that if you start feeling that way you have to be extra aware and careful because if you indulge in the feeling you'll go down a self-destructive spiral"

unscheduled post channel recommendation: https://t.me/oddly_motivational there is no affiliation between that channel and this one, but it is nice enough to be worth checking

socialization, discrimination, neurodivergency "i know that "dont harass people for being weird, they might be autistic!" is a fairly popular take on here. but as a certified autist, i'd like to add that harassing allistic and/or neurotypical people for being weird is also bad, and should not be done"

discrimination, minorities, society "so many folks talk about how they're being "forced to accept" things that go against their beliefs you're not being forced to accept them if you have a problem with people of color, with gay marriage, with trans people, with immigrants, with women of any race etc, then you're still welcome to feel however you want to feel about those people. you're just not allowed to make their lives harder because of your feelings. you're not allowed to turn their daily lives into a battle ground no one is forcing you to "accept" a single thing. you're just not being allowed to terrorize people"

"my brother and i got jars too, eventually we didnt know what to do with it so we just copied them and filled it up slowly by breaking things during arguments saying only the most hurtful things you can come up with on the spot - like it was a contest we were getting really good at it. just like them since being on my own i've been better but sometimes i find small jars in my pocket that i have to remind myself to throw away"

parenting, trauma, anger "in my life, most things were fleeting there was always not enough time not enough money because there was always not enough... our house only knew how to speak one language too the language was anger there was always enough to go around it was free and easy to give away our house always had some in stock ready my father was a steady supply i saw my mother keep her's in a jar that's always never empty" source

art, digital, resources 'open source/free alternatives to expensive software' [possibly dated]

adhd, executive dysfunction "this hack will save your teeth: there are no "right" and "wrong" times to brush your teeth [...] the clock doesnt run you, you run the clock"

unscheduled post: general self care reminder take your meds, drink water, check if you need food/are in an uncomfortable posture, take off the binder if applicable (no more than eight hours per day, not sleeping in it, one free day per week, and not using it if you feel pain or find breathing harder than usual), and look outside of the screen (through a window or to a wall, for example) for a whole minute

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