Marriage Pearls

Advice to the Husband and Wife as well as their Friends Shaykh Muhammad Ghalib Al-‘Umari Firstly: To the Husband; specifically, the one who is away more than he is present, so it is not known when (his family) meet with him or see him due to the frequentness of him leaving and how extremely “busy” he is. Without doubt—O husband—one must reflect upon and think about such minor dealings and these small gestures (which the prophet ﷺ would do for his wives) that display diligence in love and harmony from the messenger ﷺ toward his wives; as they are, for us, a beautiful example and an exemplary model to be followed. Secondly: To the Wife: Your role, O maidservant of Allah, is such that you should not let anyone, other than your yourself, take care of your husband. Do not relegate his service to maids, to his sons, nor his daughters. This is YOUR role and it is YOUR place. You are his covering and his protective garment, and you are the closest of the people to him. The woman being loving toward her husband and being amicable with him is a means—with the men of nobility—that brings about respect and reverence for her. And this is not deemed to be degradation or demeaning, at all. The family life is a bond of affection and love and this is brought about by humility and harmony. Thirdly: To the Wife’s Friend: O friend, be the best sister to your sister. Be more diligent upon her than she is upon herself (i.e., her uprightness). Take her hand and compel her to be good to her husband and serve him and to fulfill the rights of those within her household. Be able to do without long hours of conversation, taking up her time and wasting it. How often is connecting with someone a reason for them disconnecting with someone else; and communicating with someone a reason for them not communicating with someone else?! Hence, be diligent in aiding her to fulfill her obligations more than you are in using your free time to busy her. Fourthly: To Husband’s Friend: O friend, be the best aid to your friend. For this friend of yours is a woman’s husband. There are rights that are due upon him which he must fulfill. Therefore, lighten his load. Let him long for your presence by staying away (for a time) and do not be a nuisance by being around (all the time). Examine and contemplate upon his life; bear in mind that he has a family that needs him. So, do not take up his time (merely) because you have free time on your hands at a time wherein he may be preoccupied. This does not indicate that one cannot visit with his friend or must discontinue doing so. However, do not make it commonplace and something which you do consistently. Source: Hayatuna Al-Usriyyah Bayna Al-Waqi’ wal-Ma’mul pgs. 23-24 Translated by Raha Batts https://masjidashshura.org/article/advice-to-the-husband-and-wife-as-well-as-their-friends 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls

Getting One Parent Angry to Make the Other One Happy Shaykh Ṣāliḥ ibn Fawzān al-Fawzān Categorized under: The Rights of Parents Question to Shaikh Ṣāliḥ Al-Fawzān, may Allāh protect him: My father asked me to do something that would anger my mother; what’s the ruling on getting one parent angry in order to make the other one happy? Answer: This isn’t allowed: فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا Let not be uttered by you to [your parents even the slightest expression of distaste like] “uff,” nor let any distasteful action ever come towards them from you, but rather be kind and gentle to them in speech [and action]. (Al-Isrāʾ, 23) This is what Allāh, far above is He in His perfection, directed towards one’s parents, so it’s not allowed for you to anger—to anger both of them or to anger either of them. And if it were to ever be ordained that something happen from you that gets them angry, then you [must] ask them for forgiveness and be quick about that. Al-Ijābāt Al-Mukhtaṣarah, Al-Ḥalqah 380. https://tasfiyah.com/getting-one-parent-angry-to-make-the-other-one-happy/ 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls

Shall I not show you a woman of paradise?!” Reminder for our noble sisters, particularly during summer In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy. Ataa Bin Abee Rabah [may Allah have mercy upon him] narrated: Ibn Abbas [may Allah be pleased with him and his father] said to me, “Shall I show you a woman of the people of Paradise?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “This black lady came to the Prophet [peace and blessings of Allah be upon him] and said, ‘I get attacks of epilepsy and my body becomes uncovered; please invoke Allah for me.’ The Prophet said (to her), ‘If you wish, be patient and you will have Paradise; and if you wish, I will invoke Allah to cure you.’ She said, ‘I will remain patient,’ and added, ‘but I become uncovered, so please invoke Allah for me that I may not become uncovered.’ So he invoked Allah for her.” [Sahih Al-Bukhaari 5652 & Sahih Muslim 2576] Let us ponder this remarkable woman’s narrative [may Allah be pleased with her]. She possessed faith, integrity, sincerity, purity, devotion, and humility. Despite facing the challenging ordeal of epilepsy, which caused her distress, anxiety, and restlessness, she approached the Prophet [peace and blessings be upon him] seeking his supplication to alleviate the affliction and calamity she was enduring. The Prophet guided her towards a greater thing than what she initially desired. He advised her to maintain patience in the face of hardship, trial, and tribulation, assuring her that the outcome would be Paradise. Consequently, she chose the virtuous ending and a blissful abode- to become one of the inhabitants of Paradise, with the assurance of Allah’s Messenger [peace and blessings of Allah be upon him] if she remained patient. Despite her decision to remain patient, she couldn’t help but feel anxious about the accidental exposure of certain body parts during an epileptic seizure. Even though she was excused due to her uncontrollable illness, her deep sense of modesty, unwavering faith, and pure heart caused her the most concern regarding this exposure. She decided to have patience to achieve Paradise, yet she informed the Prophet, “I become uncovered (during the epileptic fit)” – indicating that she could not bear this situation even though it was beyond her control. The Prophet supplicated for her, and as a result, she continued to experience epileptic fits but never became uncovered due to his supplication. The narrative of this remarkable woman is conveyed through discussions on noble conduct, beautiful traits, good values, the beauty of modesty, and the purity of a heart. She said, “But I become uncovered, so please invoke Allah for me that I may not become uncovered”. This unveiling, which happened involuntarily and without consent, does not hold her accountable in such circumstances, yet it continued to trouble and worry her. This was her situation – a truly dignified situation, so what about a woman who willingly and openly showcases her beauty to non-Mahrams, flaunting her charms without any hesitation or regard, showing no modesty or concern for this aspect of her faith?! Despite hearing the verses of the Qur’an and the teachings of the Prophet, as well as the severe consequences of unveiling, she remains indifferent and unmoved by any of it. As for that lady, who hails from the inhabitants of Paradise, she was pardoned due to her epilepsy and she strongly disliked exposing herself. https://salaficentre.com/2024/05/20/shall-i-not-show-you-a-woman-of-paradise-reminder-for-our-noble-sisters-particularly-during-summer/

Welfare of the children: the concern of every parent بسم الله والحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ، وبعد The welfare of the children depends upon the righteousness of the parents. The more the parents are obedient to Allaah تعالى, the more they secure His protection for their children. Allaah تعالى says: ﴿فَانطَلَقَا حَتَّىٰ إِذَا أَتَيَا أَهْلَ قَرْيَةٍ اسْتَطْعَمَا أَهْلَهَا فَأَبَوْا أَن يُضَيِّفُوهُمَا فَوَجَدَا فِيهَا جِدَارًا يُرِيدُ أَن يَنقَضَّ فَأَقَامَهُ﴾ {Then they both (Moosaa and Khidr) proceeded, till, when they came to the people of a town, they asked them for food, but they refused to entertain them. Then they found therein a wall about to collapse and he (Khidr) set it up straight…} [Surah al-Kahf (18): 77] And the reason for repairing this wall was: ﴿وَأَمَّا الْجِدَارُ فَكَانَ لِغُلَامَيْنِ يَتِيمَيْنِ فِي الْمَدِينَةِ وَكَانَ تَحْتَهُ كَنزٌ لَّهُمَا وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا فَأَرَادَ رَبُّكَ أَن يَبْلُغَا أَشُدَّهُمَا وَيَسْتَخْرِجَا كَنزَهُمَا رَحْمَةً مِّن رَّبِّكَ﴾ {“And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town; and there was under it a treasure belonging to them; and their father was a righteous man, and your Lord intended that they should attain their age of full strength and take out their treasure as a mercy from your Lord…”} [Surah al-Kahf (18): 82] https://ilm4all.blogspot.com/2015/02/welfare-of-children-concern-of-every.html 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls

[Q]: Our teacher, it has been narrated that you have deemed it permissible for a man to teach Islam to girls without a covering veil that separates them—with the prerequisite that this man is married, religiously devoted and god-conscious. We seek that you may provide us with evidence for this stance from the Book of Allāh and the Sunnah. Did any of our pious predecessors (رضي الله عنهم) engage in this act? [A]: Our predecessor in this is the Messenger of Allāh (صلى الله عليه وسلم). He used to specify a particular day which he would dedicate to teaching the womenfolk their religion. We do not possess any piece of evidence other than that. For this reason, we have set the prerequisite that the male teacher in this circumstance is married, religiously devoted, god-conscious, and truly pious. I do not know if it has reached you that I had also set another prerequisite in addition to the aforementioned—I do not know if it was already mentioned in the question or not—that the teacher is not a young man even if he is married. Rather, he should be an older man. I surmise this term ‘old man’ to be sufficient, such that I do not need to add another prerequisite to it. It is sufficient to state that he is old, that is, advanced in age. The purpose of this provision should be quite evident to you. It is to completely sever all avenues (of corruption) that this male teacher may be tested with and other than him (i.e. students and observers) . Regarding this subject, there is nothing more to be said than this. Translated by: Riyāḍ al-Kanadī https://www.troid.org/the-conditions-for-a-male-islamic-teacher-of-muslim-girls/ 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls

How Much of Sūrah Al-Baqarah Do We Need To Recite To Chase Away the shayṭān From Our Homes and Will A Recording Suffice by Shaykh Ḥasan Ṣomālī Question: May Allāh (عز وجل) bless you. My question is how much of Sūrah Al-Baqarah do we need to recite to chase away the shayṭān from our homes? Answer: May Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى) bless you as well. And may Allāh (سبحانه و تعالى) grant us and you the good of this world and the good of the hereafter and protect us from the fire. It appears that you are referring to the ḥadīth, “Indeed, the shayṭān flees from the home in which Sūrah Al-Baqarah is recited.” Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله) asked this question in his commentary upon Saḥīḥ Muslim, ‘The protection that is mentioned in this ḥadīth, is it attained when a person completes the recitation of Sūrah Al-Baqarah or when a person starts to recite Sūrah Al-Baqarah?’ He said the answer is, “It is attained when a person completes the recitation of Sūrah Al-Baqarah. This is because the one who starts to recite it, it is not said that he recited it.” Does Playing A Recording Suffice? Question B: Then we have a side issue and this question arises: Is it sufficient to just play a recording of Sūraḥ Al-Baqarah in the home to attain the protection of Allāh (عز وجل) that is referred to in this ḥadīth, that Allāh (عز وجل) will protect the home from the shayṭān? Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله) was of the position that in the ḥadīth the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said, ‘tuqra’u’ – meaning, where Sūrat Al-Baqarah ‘is recited.’ So it is a must for it to be recited. He did not say where you ‘hear’ the recitation of Sūrah Al-Baqarah. And he said so based upon that. Those who place recordings of Sūrat Al-Baqarah in their homes continuously do not attain this ruling because recitation that is recorded is not truly recitation. It is not qirā’ah. Rather, it is a recording of the voice of the reciter from a previous time. So he concluded and said, ‘therefore by just playing a recording, you do not attain what is attained by a person when they recite Sūrah Al-Baqarah themselves. And this was the position of Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله). A Different Opinion Some of the other scholars like Shaykh Ibn Bāz (رحمه الله), held that if a person was to listen to a recording, then that ruling would apply. However, I would advise the brothers and sisters to avoid the differing in this matter. https://qa.mpubs.org/how-much-of-surah-al-baqarah-do-we-need-to-recite-to-chase-away-the-shay%e1%b9%adan-from-our-homes-and-will-a-recording-suffice-by-shaykh-%e1%b8%a5asan-%e1%b9%a3omali/ 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls

A woman removing her headscarf to have her photo taken for an identity card The question: A woman wants to get an identity card and she was asked to remove her headscarf completely or to wear it in a way that some of her forelock appears and her ears can be visible. Is she allowed to do that? The answer: All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Peace and blessing be upon whom Allah sent as a mercy to the Worlds, upon his Family, his Companions and his Brothers till the Day of Resurrection. Women are obliged to cover their hair, neck, ears, the upper part of the chest, bosom and every part that is considered ‘Awrah’ (a private part) according to the verse of veiling and covering mentioned in the Quran. Based upon that, woman is not allowed, according to the Islamic law, to remove her headscarf in order to get an identity card or a passport, unless a sure nuisance or an inevitable and constraining harm will happen if she does not do it, and there was not any alternative means to present a photo wherein she wears the veil. In such a case, for me: “Anything narrowed shall be broadened” for the compelled person, according to the verse: ﴿فَاتَّقُوا اللهَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُمْ﴾ [التغابن: 16]. The meaning of the verse: ﴾So fear Allah as much as you are able﴿ [At-Taghâbun:16]. And the verse: ﴿وَقَدْ فَصَّلَ لَكُمْ مَا حَرَّمَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِلاَّ مَا اضْطُرِرْتُمْ إِلَيْهِ﴾ [الأنعام: 119]. The meaning of the verse: ﴾He has explained in detail to you what He has forbidden you, excepting that to which you are compelled﴿ [Al-An'ām:119].   And “if it is broadened -for him- it (the judgment) will be narrowed”. Therefore, it is left to his faith to estimate the necessity that fulfills the conditions(1). The perfect knowledge belongs to Allah. Our last prayer is all praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Peace and blessing be upon our Prophet, his Family, his Companions and Brothers till the Day of Resurrection. https://ferkous.com/home/?q=en/fatwa-en-228 👍Open this link to join our telegram channel https://t.me/marriagepearls

The ruling concerning marrying a woman who repented of committing fornication Question: Honorable Sheikh! can I get married with the woman with whom I had illegal sexual intercourse? Knowing that she repented to Allah. But she committed fornication with another man before she repents, and this led to the loss of her virginity. May Allah reward you with good. Answer: All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Peace and blessing be upon whom Allah sent as a mercy to the Worlds, upon his Family, his Companions and his Brothers till the Day of Resurrection. It is not permissible to marry a woman with whom we fornicated save with two conditions: The first condition: the sincere repentance for each one, and this, by leaving this sin and the other sins and to regret this sin and all other previous sins, and to resolve to not do it again in the future in accordance with Allah’s عزَّ وجلَّ saying: ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا تُوبُوا إِلَى اللهِ تَوْبَةً نَّصُوحًا عَسَى رَبُّكُمْ أَن يُكَفِّرَ عَنكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَيُدْخِلَكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الأَنْهَارُ﴾ [التحريم: 8]. The meaning of the verse: ﴾O you who believe! Turn to Allâh with sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will remit from you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise)﴿ [At-Tahrîm (The Prohibition):8]. If they repent, they are no more called fornicators, as the Prophet صلَّى الله عليه وسلَّم said: “The one who repents from sin is like the one who did not sin”(1), but if they do not repent, it is forbidden to a believer to marry a fornicatress and it is forbidden to marry one’s daughter to a fornicator. Allah عزَّ وجلَّ says: ﴿الزَّانِي لاَ يَنكِحُ إِلاَّ زَانِيَةً أَوْ مُشْرِكَةً وَالزَّانِيَةُ لاَ يَنكِحُهَا إِلاَّ زَانٍ أَوْ مُشْرِكٌ وَحُرِّمَ ذَلِكَ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ﴾ [النور: 3]. ﴾The adulterer marries not but an adulteress or a Mushrikah and the adulteress none marries her except an adulterer or a Muskrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely he is either an adulterer, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater, etc). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress, etc.)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)﴿ [An-Nûr (The Light): 3]. The second condition: wait one menstrual cycle in order to ascertain that she is not pregnant before concluding the marriage contract. If it turns out that she is pregnant, it will be not permissible to conclude the marriage contract until she gives birth to the baby. Besides, according to the majority of scholars’ opinion, the illegitimate child is not attributed to the fornicator, contrarily to Ibn Taymiyya رحمه الله; in accordance to the Prophet’s صلَّى الله عليه وسلَّم hadith: “The child goes to the (owner of the) bed(2), and the fornicator gets nothing but deprivation (lit., stones)”(3). http://ferkous.com/home/?q=en/fatwa-en-179 👍https://t.me/marriagepearls