Psychology

Stop comparing Comparison is the road to nowhere. You're good enough for yourself, and that's the MOST important thing. Learn to appreciate yourself. Embrace the fact that every person is unique, not a copy of others. You are special with your own thoughts, your own talents, your own abilities and your own uniqueness. You may think that you are not good enough, or you may cultivate your uniqueness and develop talents. Other people may have different values and that's why underestimate your life, but why should you care about others' opinion❓ It's much more important how you feel about your changeable life. Recognize yourself as a unique individual with special abilities and talents❗️

Don't explain your refusal If you refuse someone, say your firm NO, try to do without explanations and excuses☝🏻. However, you should not feel guilty for saying no without explanations. People sense the inner mood, and if you hesitate, you'll be persuaded to give some comments. So, you shouldn't always say no without explanation, but sometimes it is just necessary❗️

Personal space and communication zones Each person has three spaces: ▫️ personal - (about 46 cm to one meter) ▫️ social - (from 1.2 to 3.6 meters) ▫️ public - (over 3.6 meters) A stranger's desire to come too close usually causes a negative reaction. Only friends and relatives can get close to us, it is worth respecting and not violating these etiquette rules when you get to know new people. You also shouldn't pat on the shoulder or touch an unfamiliar person, as this will cause subconscious negativity.

Make people feel needed by asking them for help If you want to ask for something, start by saying: "I need your help"❗️ People like to feel NEEDED and hate to feel guilty. By complying with these two rules from the very beginning of a conversation, you're more likely to get the help you need👌🏻

Think about future self How would I feel in an hour or two if I missed a workout at the gym❓ Would I be a little happier if I washed that pile of dishes right now, before I went to bed❓ Or should I do it in the morning before work❓ Almost every bad thing brings us instant gratification, while good thinks put it off. I always try to keep this in mind: if I have to wait to reap the benefits, this is probably the best option.

Write down your thoughts when you feel anxious Anyone who has been under stress or anxiety at some point knows how hard it is to abstract it away. Write down your thoughts and experiences in a notebook and then close it👌🏻 Believe it or not, you'll find it much easier to focus on your work after sharing thoughts this way. This rule works in any situation: by sharing your anxiety with someone, you unload your brain and reduce the psychological burden.

Who's right? Remember☝️🏻 ALWAYS, in any situation, there are only two options: ⠀ 1️⃣Prove YOURSELF. That means to escalate the situation, to take offense, to accuse and ruin relationships, accumulating negative memories and emotions (which come out at the next slightest quarrel: "Do you remember what you did that time? Do you remember what you said back?" and so on). ⠀ 2️⃣Or simply accept the fact that other people have THEIR OWN truth. It may actually differ from yours and even may be wrong, but you shouldn't try to correct everyone all the time. ⠀ However, if you want to build a strong and trusting relationship, then you should try to choose the second option in disputable and stressful situations as often as possible😉

This is what can help you overcome anger: • Do breathing exercises to calm down • Write down all your feelings • Get some workout • Listen to energetic music • Punch a pillow (or something soft, no need to hurt yourself or anyone)

Indifference to other people's opinion "Don't care" doesn't mean that you have to act like a cad who screws everyone and everything. DON'T confuse "don't care" with disrespect, stupidity and marginality❗️ "Don't care" doesn't mean that only your opinion matters. It means being in tune with yourself, acting according to your principles, even if everyone around you claims you do wrong. "Don't care" is the power of the spirit that makes you feel good about yourself without degrading those around you‼️

How to develop yourself 24/7 with a minimum of effort? — Search the Internet for the answer to every "why?" question that pops into your head. — Read at least 5 pages of a useful book or an article before going to bed. — Communicate with people who are better than you. — Switch on subtitles of the language you're learning when you watch a show. — Download an app with interesting facts and read them in your spare time.